I have no idea who this guy is, but it's a good quote:
It is never wise to try to appear to be more clever than you are.
It is sometimes wise to appear slightly less so.
William Whitelaw (1918-99)
Here are some collected quotes and ideas about modesty, for SCA purposes, coming from in and around discussions on modesty in late December 2006 and January 3, 2007, in al-Barran, at which were present in various combinations
Dermod, Tancred, Temuqai, Charles, Bardolf, Asta
Mordygan, AElflaed, Balthazar, Artan,
Govanen, Odile, Kendrick (Brett), Gwydion McKay
Kragon, Sarah, Lavan, Geoffrey
The handout for December 20 and 27th had all this:
Other references concerning modesty on this site:
Modesty and Humility
AElflaed of Duckford, December 2006 (I only wrote the green parts, and the rest are quotes)
I think modesty is action and posture, and humility is a state of being (maybe a biochemical or emotional state, at some level).
After writing that last week, I found this on Tuesday/yesterday:
Humility is an essential attitude for success in the spiritual
life. Any self-conceit, whether nurtured by superior intelligence,
wealth, a high position, or the praise of others, is an obstacle on the
path. Genuine humility is not posturing.
Quotes on Humility from different religions:
(from intro to "humility" on unification.net)
Confucius said, "A gentleman does not grieve that people do not recognize his merits; he grieves at his own incapacities."
Confucianism. Analects 14.32
To know when one does not know is best.
To think one knows when one does not know is a dire disease.
Taoism. Tao Te Ching 71
The fool who knows that he is a fool is for that very reason a wise man;
the fool who thinks he is wise is called a fool indeed.
Buddhism. Dhammapada 63
Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves.
Christianity. Philippians 2.3
Opposite seems "arrogance" but there are other terms to consider in and around "humility" and "modesty." Confidence. Self-assuredness. Confidence can be confidence both in what you can do and what you can't. That comes back to truth and reliability.
Introductions and providing for the modesty of others
The Dangers of Boasting
Happiness Through Lower Expectations
Humility (the deeper basis of modesty)
Richard Carson wrote this about humility:
Practice HumilityExcerpt from
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... by
Richard Carlson (his site's here and the book is easily and inexpensively available)
Humility and inner peace go hand in
hand. The less compelled you are to try to prove yourself to others, the easier
it is to feel peaceful inside.
Proving yourself is a dangerous trap. It takes an enormous amount
of energy to be continually pointing out your accomplishments, bragging, or
trying to convince others of your worth as a human being. Bragging actually
dilutes the positive feelings you receive from an accomplishment or something
you are proud of. To make matters worse, the more you try to prove yourself, the
more others will avoid you, talk behind your back about your insecure need to
brag, and perhaps even resent you.
Ironically, however, the less you care about seeking approval,
the more approval you seem to get. People are drawn to those with a quiet, inner
confidence, people who don't need to make themselves look good, be
?"right"? all the time, or steal the glory. Most people love a person who
doesn't need to brag, a person who shares from his or her heart and not from his
or her ego.
The way to develop genuine humility is to practice. It's nice
because you will get immediate inner feedback in the way of calm, easy feelings.
The next time you have an opportunity to brag, resist the temptation. I discussed this strategy with a client, and he shared the following story: He was with a group of friends a few days after he had been promoted at work. His friends didn't know it yet, but my client was chosen to be promoted instead of another friend of theirs. He was a little competitive with this person, and had the very strong temptation to sneak in the fact that he had been chosen and their other friend wasn't. He felt himself about ready to say something, when a little voice inside him said, "Stop. Don't do it!" He went ahead and shared with his friends, but didn't cross the line and turn the sharing into gloating. He never mentioned how their other friend didn't get promoted. He told me that he couldn't remember ever feeling so calm and proud of himself. He was able to enjoy his success without bragging. Later, when his friends did find out what had happened, they let him now that they were extremely impressed with his good judgment and humility. He received more positive feedback and attention from practicing humility—not less.
AElfled, I was browsing the TW blog and wanted to send you another quote
for the virtues:humility sections. I ran across it and liked it, and
posted it by my desk. Needless to say, the other SCA people in the office
find it rather amusing since humility is not my strong suit.
To be humble to superiors is duty,
To equals courtesy,
To inferiors nobleness. Benjamin Franklin
Outside the site (recommendations are welcome): [email protected]
Cathyn Fitzgerald on Modesty
Unification page on humility (The rest of the site can't get you; be brave. This page is really useful.)
The Foundation for a Better Life, Humility stories and examples
other SCA writings