Help! The Pearls are coming to town!
jennefer harper
I cannot believe this, but Michael and Debi Pearl,
authors of To Train Up a Child will be speaking in
town this Sunday! I'm outraged, but what can I do?
I've already spoken with the pastor of the church
where the seminar will take place- who himself spanks
and follows the Pearls advice. So, that did no good.
Any advice?
There's some interesting anti-Pearl stuff online at
www.kjsl.com/~lindav/notrain.htm
www.mothering.com/discussions/archive/index.php/t-177291.htm/
-Jennefer
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authors of To Train Up a Child will be speaking in
town this Sunday! I'm outraged, but what can I do?
I've already spoken with the pastor of the church
where the seminar will take place- who himself spanks
and follows the Pearls advice. So, that did no good.
Any advice?
There's some interesting anti-Pearl stuff online at
www.kjsl.com/~lindav/notrain.htm
www.mothering.com/discussions/archive/index.php/t-177291.htm/
-Jennefer
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I don't even live there and when I found out from another site they would be
there, I wrote to the church and included excerpts from the book. I never
heard back from them. If I lived there I would definitely protest the day they
are there. _www.nospank.net_ (http://www.nospank.net) will send you
stickers, flyers, bumper stickers, and more if you ask them. Let them know what you
want to do with them. You could even put the literature on cars in the parking
lot. I hope they come here someday.
Lorrie
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there, I wrote to the church and included excerpts from the book. I never
heard back from them. If I lived there I would definitely protest the day they
are there. _www.nospank.net_ (http://www.nospank.net) will send you
stickers, flyers, bumper stickers, and more if you ask them. Let them know what you
want to do with them. You could even put the literature on cars in the parking
lot. I hope they come here someday.
Lorrie
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Emile Snyder
On Tue, 2004-08-31 at 15:30, jennefer harper wrote:
for any action you take.
1. If you just have to express your outrage, go to the event and make a
stink! Take a sign, try to get some protesters at the door, whatever.
2. If you're primarily concerned with preventing people who are still
open to other parenting ideas from going down the Pearl's path...
Attend the presentation. When given the opportunity, ask questions that
make clear your objections and horror at what they're advocating. If
you can find somewhere close by that you could bring a group of people,
announce to the audience (during one of your questions?) that you would
like to facilitate a discussion after the event presenting alternative
views for people who are being made uncomfortable by the level of
cruelty espoused by the Pearls. Maybe try to have a xeroxed handout
with some discussion (or links/references to discussion) about the
damage that such a parenting method can cause. At all times try as hard
as you can to imagine how someone might be attracted to the Pearls, and
try in your tone and attitude to convey that you can empathize with
their goals (raising their children to be the best people they can be),
but cannot remain silent given your strong moral problems with the child
abuse being advocated, and your understanding that the abuse will not
achieve those goals.
If you want to convince someone of something it's many times harder if
they feel completely under attack, and that you view them as evil. I'm
not saying you have to be appeasing, or pretend that you don't find
their *actions* evil. But they have to feel that you can understand
them, and see their actions in the light of their best possible
motivations.
Good luck,
-emile
> I cannot believe this, but Michael and Debi Pearl,It seems to me that there's two strategies, based on the goals you have
> authors of To Train Up a Child will be speaking in
> town this Sunday! I'm outraged, but what can I do?
> I've already spoken with the pastor of the church
> where the seminar will take place- who himself spanks
> and follows the Pearls advice. So, that did no good.
> Any advice?
for any action you take.
1. If you just have to express your outrage, go to the event and make a
stink! Take a sign, try to get some protesters at the door, whatever.
2. If you're primarily concerned with preventing people who are still
open to other parenting ideas from going down the Pearl's path...
Attend the presentation. When given the opportunity, ask questions that
make clear your objections and horror at what they're advocating. If
you can find somewhere close by that you could bring a group of people,
announce to the audience (during one of your questions?) that you would
like to facilitate a discussion after the event presenting alternative
views for people who are being made uncomfortable by the level of
cruelty espoused by the Pearls. Maybe try to have a xeroxed handout
with some discussion (or links/references to discussion) about the
damage that such a parenting method can cause. At all times try as hard
as you can to imagine how someone might be attracted to the Pearls, and
try in your tone and attitude to convey that you can empathize with
their goals (raising their children to be the best people they can be),
but cannot remain silent given your strong moral problems with the child
abuse being advocated, and your understanding that the abuse will not
achieve those goals.
If you want to convince someone of something it's many times harder if
they feel completely under attack, and that you view them as evil. I'm
not saying you have to be appeasing, or pretend that you don't find
their *actions* evil. But they have to feel that you can understand
them, and see their actions in the light of their best possible
motivations.
Good luck,
-emile
Nisha
Organize a protest? call local news stations and see if any of them
will bite and be willing to show both sides. Good luck. People like
them just irritate me to no end.
Nisha
--- In [email protected], jennefer harper
<jenneferh2000@y...> wrote:
will bite and be willing to show both sides. Good luck. People like
them just irritate me to no end.
Nisha
--- In [email protected], jennefer harper
<jenneferh2000@y...> wrote:
> I cannot believe this, but Michael and Debi Pearl,
> authors of To Train Up a Child will be speaking in
> town this Sunday! I'm outraged, but what can I do?
>