Ali Kat

Okay... I understand a lot of what you are saying about how a child will desire to see something when told he/she "can't", and the sneakiness that can develop from it. At the same time, it seems that as a parent I am supposed to protect (for lack of a better word at the moment) my child's emotions, etc. Not hide, shelter, keep them ignorant of things, but not put images and situations in his/her head that I know disturb him/her just for the sake of being able to watch one particular movie. It would seem like a lot of responsibility placed on a child - almost like one would be saying "Well... you did choose it yourself..."

What DO you do then? When your son or daughter asks to see something he/she has heard of and you know there are parts that he/she will be upset at seeing, what do you do? Is there a way to inform them, still allow them choice, and NOT come out sounding judgemental, etc??


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Beth

<<What DO you do then? When your son or daughter asks to see something
he/she has heard of and you know there are parts that he/she will be upset
at seeing, what do you do? Is there a way to inform them, still allow them
choice, and NOT come out sounding judgemental, etc??>>

Brent and I rented Kill Bill last week. We watched it together on Tuesday
night and loved it. While we were discussing the movie on Wednesday, Sarah
(13) said she'd like to watch it. I hesitated for a minute and then
explained to her that the movie included a lot of bloody scenes (she's been
sensitive to this in the past). I described a few of the scenes for her
(heads and limbs getting sliced off) and also told her about the cool fight
scenes. Sarah is very interested in martial arts and sword fighting, so I
knew there were parts of the movie she would enjoy. She decided she'd like
to see the sword fights, so we sat down and watched the movie together. She
held the remote control and decided to fast forward through a few of the
bloodier things, but overall she enjoyed the movie and was glad she watched
it.

We rented Kill Bill 2 a couple of days later and she enjoyed that one a lot
more. It still contained some cool martial arts/fight scenes, but didn't
have half of the bloodiness that Volume 1 did.

Beth

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In a message dated 8/18/04 10:26:12 AM, sweetgypsiedncer@... writes:

<< What DO you do then? When your son or daughter asks to see something
he/she has heard of and you know there are parts that he/she will be upset at
seeing, what do you do? >>

I talk about it. I tell them what I've heard about it.
We say "wait til it's on DVD" lately.

Maybe they just want to see some parts, and not the whole thing, or not the
gory parts.

My husband warned me away from Pulp Fiction eleven or twelve years ago.
When I saw it lately I knew why he had, and agreed with him. When I had little
kids I was extra sensitive to violence, especially involving families or
children or parents of children.

I don't remember what made me want to watch it. Marty talked about it,
maybe. I guess he had seen it somewhere.

Now I could handle it. Then it would've been too rough.

Because we're not arbitrary, and the recommendations have to do with that
person, not with all people of that age, the kids really listen to us.

-=-Is there a way to inform them, still allow them choice, and NOT come out
sounding judgemental, etc?? -=-

If you're careful, yeah. Maybe.
Or you just try to to better then next time when you fail.

Sandra

Danielle Conger

Beth wrote: She held the remote control and decided to fast forward through a few of the
bloodier things, but overall she enjoyed the movie and was glad she watched
it.
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What a good point! Now there's a really good idea many of us might have
thought of, but maybe not at first.

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