eriksmama2001

--- In [email protected], "eriksmama2001"
<scubamama@e...> wrote:
My latest affirmation is "peace is powerful, breathe". My son is a
barometer of me. When I am tense, worried, aggitated, hungary, tired,
etc. he keys up a notch and starts clinging, whining, or seeking to
distract me from whatever he perceives to be bothering mama. He is so
perceptive of my emotions, more so than I am even, that he is a
little mirror for me to learn about myself. He is so acutely in tune
with me that it is very unsettling for him when I am unsettled, even
a little bit. I am amazed at his ability to read me. He is
NOT "acting out"; he is calling out for the calm mama. He will even
start saying "little baby needs his mama".

So, I realized that my peace is powerful to our calmness as a family.
I know that his reactions are a cue to recenter myself. As he has
grown older, he uses his words more to show me myself. When he was
younger, he used his actions too: hitting, grabbing, even biting a
few times. I have learned that these are his calls for help to
resettle our home. He wants a happy home as much as I do. But I do
have much more ability to break the cycle of harmony and disharmony
as the adult.

So, I will stop, kneel down to his level, hold or hug him and
whisper. Then he knows I am calmer, he is able to rely on me to help
him and he can move on. It is very disturbing to have the mama out of
control.

I am learning not to be a type A, it doesn't work well for us as a
family. Mama needs to be peace for the family to be peaceful.

Pat


--- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a... wrote:
>
> << I hear this voice in my head, "What's wrong with you? Breathe.
>
> How can this be so hard?" >>
>
> If you have a history that could use a more particular slant, you
can
> probably find it by google (if you had an alcoholic parent, or some
kind of past
> problems or recovery needs), but to replace the voices in your
head, you just need
> more soothing, helpful voices.
>
>
http://www.yourdailyaffirmation.com/affirmations/serenity_patience.htm
>
> I can't find any particularly parent-of-toddler stuff. Do others
here know
> of some?
>
> Reading Anne Ohman's writing can be really inspiring and calming.
>
> There's some here:
> http://sandradodd.com/anneohman
>
> and she posts at www.unschooling.com
> message boards
>
> Reading the typical days might be helpful too:
> http://sandradodd.com/typical
>
> What I'm finding on the internet is too specific or not about
kids...
> There might be books.
>
> We could brainstorm you some affirmations!
>
> How about...
>
> Make this moment a little better.
> Breathe.
>
> Others can think of better things I bet!
>
> Sandra
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