Pris

WOW, Karen I went through this EXACT thing w/ my *best* friend when I was pg
w/ my oldest ch (24+ yrs ago) ... my *friend* literally cried when I told
her I was *pg* and could NOT stand the idea that I was having a baby (mind
you, we'd WAITED *4* VERY LONG YEARS for our little blessing!!!) ... she'd
been married about the same length of time as we were but she didn't want
any dch b/c she didn't want to lose her girlish figure!!! dh believed she
was *threatened* b/c someone (my baby) was moving into her *space* ~~>>
*uhhhhhhhhhh* now you'll have~ta GET LOST!!!* <<~~ it's unfortunate that
sometimes *friends* grow apart but honest to Pete, I didn't lose much sleep
over it, let me tell you!!!

*wellllllllll*, if this DOES happen to you, Dawn F, ***cheer up***, you'll
find soon find a new circle of like~minded h-s'ing friends to fill that
space!!! I think h-s'rs naturally gravitate towards other h-s'rs whether
we're unschoolers, traditional h-s'rs, Christian h-s'rs, non-Christian
h-s'rs, whether or not mom's wear blue denim dresses/not or whether or not
we wear Birkenstocks/not ... we usually seek out like~minded folks to make
it through life w/!!! @ least that's my $.02 ... btw, I *DO* wear both blue
denim dresses AND Birks; I even have a RED pair!!! hehehe ...

welcome to the group, Dawn F. <G>
Pris


> Something one of them told me was that I would probably end up changing
all my friends as the ones I
> have now, who don't homeschool or unschool, will probably feel threatened
by what I'm doing and to expect
> a backlash. >>
>
> There is always a chance that this could happen-- it did happen with
one
> of my friends. She first knew me and my husband as "dinks"- dual income,
no
> kids-- then we adopted our first child, and my friend was thrilled about
it;
> then I decided to quit my job as a teacher to stay home full time, and our
> relationship began to change from this point.
> Oh well, I have other relationships that have not changed at all, or have
> gotten stronger, after my staying home and our deciding to homeschool, and
I
> have met people through homeschooling; so overall, I think it is working
out
> for the best! :) ~karen

metta

on 6/23/00 12:21 PM, NumoAstro@... wrote:

> I agree and think it's really sad that our culture has come to this where
> making money is such a priority compared to raising children. I think the
> feminist movement has done so much harm to children.

This may surprise you, but many feminists are stay-at-home moms and
juggle-their-schedule moms so one parent is home with the children. Feminism
didn't invent our economic system nor our materialism/consumerism.

> I have so many clients
> who ask me questions about their careers and when they are giving me bith
> information about their kids, many of their kids are under 4 years old. So
> we all know where they are everyday from 6am-7pm...

And where are the fathers?
--
Thea
metta@...

Tracy Oldfield

Well, true feminists will be, but the feminist movement as a whole
has tended towards masculinising women's behaviour, making us
more competitive, etc. And while I undersantd your point, that the
fathers could be the main parent, I believe that mothering should
be done by mothers, not fathers, not daycare staff or
'childminders,' and this cannot be replaced by anything in a child's
life.

Tracy

On 23 Jun 2000, at 15:54, metta wrote:

This may surprise you, but many feminists are stay-at-
home moms and
juggle-their-schedule moms so one parent is home with
the children. Feminism
didn't invent our economic system nor our
materialism/consumerism.

> I have so many clients
> who ask me questions about their careers and when
they are giving me bith
> information about their kids, many of their kids are
under 4 years old. So
> we all know where they are everyday from 6am-7pm...

And where are the fathers?
-- 
Thea
metta@...