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-=--=- I think it is a negative thing for a parent to not present a child

with what they think they should know. Like manners, and morals.-=--=-

Anyone disagree with this statement?

Anyone here failed to present a child with examples or information on manners
and morals?

Sandra

cinward2001

> Anyone disagree with this statement?
>
> Anyone here failed to present a child with examples or information
on manners
> and morals?

Nope, not at all! :) I will say, though, that I rarely bring up
manners and morals out of context. What I have found is that because
the boys are "out in the world," seeing people interact with each
other, that their "internal" set of morals and manners are just
fine. For example, one day, they were with me at the post office.
The line was rather slow, they were bored, so they asked if they
could go hold the door open for people. Of course, I agreed. I
thought it a very nice idea, in fact. :) But then, being just 8 and 5
at the time, they couldn't hold the door open from the outside (heavy
door)...they had to lean against it from the inside. That meant that
people had to walk around them a bit when coming through the doorway.

Most adults would pass around them and thank them very politely.
They *knew* what the boys were doing and although it actually created
a bit of an inconvenience, they understood. They were
appreciative. :) Unfortunately, one lady decided to "scold" them for
being in the way (they told me this later). Basically, they
said "That wasn't very nice of her, was it, Mama?"

I think that in the artificial environment of school, where natural
behaviors are so "skewed," children learn to ignore their inner
voice.

Cindy