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<<<<<Which is probably how most kids who are controlled (or chronically out of
money) feel. Going to stores so often and knowing you *can't* buy something
must be incredibly frustrating.>>>>>


Yes. Some kids just melt down and cry. No wonder, with some of the things
I've overheard parents say to them during my time at Toys R Us.

"It's not about you."
"It's not YOUR birthday."
"Put that back. I don't care what it is." (see above)

Here there WAS money to be spent, but......
"This is supposed to be fun." (Looking at school supplies in September IN A
TOY STORE!!!!)
"Hurry and pick something right now or you're not getting anything."
"Why don't you get something that you can play by yourself so you don't have
to keep asking your father and me to play with you?"

And then there was the baby that actually DID get a toy, but cried when the
mother took it away from him so I could scan it. I quickly handed it back to
him, but the mother scooped it away and cooed to the baby, "You can have it in
the car." She explained to me, "He has to learn."

Mary J


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Susan Van Cleave

<<<<<Which is probably how most kids who are controlled (or chronically out of
money) feel. Going to stores so often and knowing you *can't* buy something
must be incredibly frustrating.>>>>>


My husband and I are not financially able to buy our kids new toys on a regular basis. But they love to look at the toys when we go to Target and ask to go to Toys R Us just to look. I use to love to go and look at toys in toy stores when I was young. I don't think a parent is mean or "controlling" just because she won't buy her child a toy when asked. I can't afford to buy many things for myself either. It's just the reality of our financial situation. Kids, just like adults, need to understand that they can't have or do everything. Exploring a toy store is a nice alternative.

Susan V

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In a message dated 2/11/04 7:55:25 PM, sdwvancleave@... writes:

<< I use to love to go and look at toys in toy stores when I was young. . .
. Exploring a toy store is a nice alternative.
>>

CAN be if a person is so inclined.

I was (and it seemed Kelly L. was saying too) NOT so inclined as a child or
an adult. Seeing things I couldn't have wasn't much fun at all.

We did play a game with the J.C. Penney's catalog, my cousin and my sister
and I, of turning the page, each picking the thing we'd most like to have if it
were free, and going on to the next page. And I used to carefully examine
their office supplies. Hand-crank ditto machine, long-reach stapler, three-hole
punch.

I don't like to look at new cars I can't buy, or go places without money.

I have friends who LOVE to do both.

Sandra

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In a message dated 2/12/2004 2:28:24 AM Eastern Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
I was (and it seemed Kelly L. was saying too) NOT so inclined as a child or
an adult. Seeing things I couldn't have wasn't much fun at all. <<<<<


And I don't necessarily see this as a result of whether you were deprived as
a child or not. Sandra was obviously deprived, and often. I could have
*anything* my little heart desired.

I STILL hate window shopping. Always have. Always will. When I have money
though, I'm a *happy* shopper! <g>

~Kelly


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J. Stauffer

<<<<<I STILL hate window shopping. Always have. Always will. When I have
money
> though, I'm a *happy* shopper! <g>>>>>>

And I don't like shopping even when I have money.

Julie S.---who has to go shopping today Waaa!