Re: [UnschoolingDiscussion] having a really bad day...ready to throw in the t...
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In a message dated 1/8/2004 8:07:19 PM Mountain Standard Time,
mamabethuscg@... writes:
-=-She did that once for an hour and decided my kids were "undisciplined
brats." -=-
I know other have given mushy feedback, but I honestly can't imagine why a
child would POUR a soda into a cup holder. Spill accidentally and say "OOOPS!
HELP!" yes, but pour? That's a problem.
And I would have just told my neighbor not to GO on blind dates with someone
who wouldn't come where she was. Honestly. Help your children learn to be
responsible and considerate by being responsible and considerate to your
children. Maybe you could tell your neighbor that you need to consider homeschooling
a fulltime job and she'll have to find other support.
When things seem overwhelming, breathe several deep breaths, slow breaths,
get yourself still inside, and then put the next few bits of energy directly
toward one or more of your children, connecting with them by touch and smelling
them, saying something loving to them, before you get up and zoom back to the
busy-ness of the day.
Sandra
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mamabethuscg@... writes:
-=-She did that once for an hour and decided my kids were "undisciplined
brats." -=-
I know other have given mushy feedback, but I honestly can't imagine why a
child would POUR a soda into a cup holder. Spill accidentally and say "OOOPS!
HELP!" yes, but pour? That's a problem.
And I would have just told my neighbor not to GO on blind dates with someone
who wouldn't come where she was. Honestly. Help your children learn to be
responsible and considerate by being responsible and considerate to your
children. Maybe you could tell your neighbor that you need to consider homeschooling
a fulltime job and she'll have to find other support.
When things seem overwhelming, breathe several deep breaths, slow breaths,
get yourself still inside, and then put the next few bits of energy directly
toward one or more of your children, connecting with them by touch and smelling
them, saying something loving to them, before you get up and zoom back to the
busy-ness of the day.
Sandra
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In a message dated 1/8/2004 9:07:08 PM Central Standard Time,
mamabethuscg@... writes:
life no matter who they are. My advice? Hang your clothes to dry and don't
drive her anywhere, make a clean break and move on. You know she's moving, don't
wait until then. You wouldn't drink bleach, so don't spend time with her.
Focus on your concerns, not hers. No one can make you a doormat without your
permission, or so said Dear ABby.
But that's just me...
Elizabeth in IL
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mamabethuscg@... writes:
> I'm 28...this is the first time in my life I've ever run into someone likeIMO, this person is toxic. You have a right to avoid toxic people in your
> this person, and yes, it has left me totally drained and grumpy and
> resentful.
life no matter who they are. My advice? Hang your clothes to dry and don't
drive her anywhere, make a clean break and move on. You know she's moving, don't
wait until then. You wouldn't drink bleach, so don't spend time with her.
Focus on your concerns, not hers. No one can make you a doormat without your
permission, or so said Dear ABby.
But that's just me...
Elizabeth in IL
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J. Stauffer
<<< but I honestly can't imagine why a
and has very litttle impulse control at 5, and Marsie (not now at 7 but
certainly at 3) who is extremely tactile.
Julie S.
> child would POUR a soda into a cup holder.>>>I have 2 out of 5 that would do that. Danny, who thinks everything is funny
and has very litttle impulse control at 5, and Marsie (not now at 7 but
certainly at 3) who is extremely tactile.
Julie S.
----- Original Message -----
From: <SandraDodd@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Thursday, January 08, 2004 9:23 PM
Subject: Re: [UnschoolingDiscussion] having a really bad day...ready to
throw in the t...
> In a message dated 1/8/2004 8:07:19 PM Mountain Standard Time,
> mamabethuscg@... writes:
> -=-She did that once for an hour and decided my kids were "undisciplined
> brats." -=-
>
>
> I know other have given mushy feedback, but I honestly can't imagine why a
> child would POUR a soda into a cup holder. Spill accidentally and say
"OOOPS!
> HELP!" yes, but pour? That's a problem.
>
> And I would have just told my neighbor not to GO on blind dates with
someone
> who wouldn't come where she was. Honestly. Help your children learn to
be
> responsible and considerate by being responsible and considerate to your
> children. Maybe you could tell your neighbor that you need to consider
homeschooling
> a fulltime job and she'll have to find other support.
>
> When things seem overwhelming, breathe several deep breaths, slow breaths,
> get yourself still inside, and then put the next few bits of energy
directly
> toward one or more of your children, connecting with them by touch and
smelling
> them, saying something loving to them, before you get up and zoom back to
the
> busy-ness of the day.
>
> Sandra
>
>
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Elizabeth Roberts
Sandra,
You said "I know other have given mushy feedback, but I honestly can't imagine why a child would POUR a soda into a cup holder. Spill accidentally and say "OOOPS!
HELP!" yes, but pour? That's a problem."
To me, he was just interested in seeing what would happen if he poured it in there. Would it fill it up? Would it hold it? Can I drink it if it's there and not in the can anymore?
Logan is very much an experimenter...he loves to figure out why and what something does/is for/can do/is about, etc. He questions EVERYTHING.
Paul's mother tells me Paul was the same way, always into something, making "inappropriate" messes trying to figure things out. He is mechanically inclined in ways I am totally hopeless.
It would never occur to me personally to pour out a drink into something like that, but I can see where it would to Logan.
Yes, it could have been a better place and a better moment than in my van as I was driving along. But that's where it happened.
Maybe I'm looking at it wrong, I don't know. He is 3 years old. He'll be 4 in April, if that helps with perspective.
MamaBeth
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You said "I know other have given mushy feedback, but I honestly can't imagine why a child would POUR a soda into a cup holder. Spill accidentally and say "OOOPS!
HELP!" yes, but pour? That's a problem."
To me, he was just interested in seeing what would happen if he poured it in there. Would it fill it up? Would it hold it? Can I drink it if it's there and not in the can anymore?
Logan is very much an experimenter...he loves to figure out why and what something does/is for/can do/is about, etc. He questions EVERYTHING.
Paul's mother tells me Paul was the same way, always into something, making "inappropriate" messes trying to figure things out. He is mechanically inclined in ways I am totally hopeless.
It would never occur to me personally to pour out a drink into something like that, but I can see where it would to Logan.
Yes, it could have been a better place and a better moment than in my van as I was driving along. But that's where it happened.
Maybe I'm looking at it wrong, I don't know. He is 3 years old. He'll be 4 in April, if that helps with perspective.
MamaBeth
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