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In a message dated Wed, 7 Jan 2004 21:42:02 EST, ejcrewe@...
writes:

>>>> I'll try to watch the show with my kids and talk to them about
my objections.
>>>>> It's just hard for me to watch or read the books to my cherubs
without imposing my views on them.


I did this.

We were unschooling but it was before mindful parenting and we had
lots of rules on food, chores, bedtime, and TV/video watching.


Always had to be sure my children would get MY view (which was
usually negative towards the show for some good-to-me reason)


My son Alex - at 18 - is still reluctant to watch anything with me.
(we switched to mindful parenting about 2 years ago but that wasn't
soon enough to repair the damage caused by all those years of me
making sure he didn't "miss the point")

Now that he lives away from home, I don't have many opportunities to
invite him to watch with me.

I would give just about anything to have 6-year old Alex sitting on
my lap and enjoying Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles with a happy,
supportive mom. . . . . (instead of the mom I was that denigrated the
show)

Mercedes
really hoping to help other moms consider just biting their tongues
or leaving the room if necessary to prevent ruining a fun show for
their children. . . .

(my intro was message 80107 - over 8000 messages ago! - in case
anyone is wondering who the heck I am <g> )

Dawn Adams

Mercedes writes:
>Always had to be sure my children would get MY view (which was
>usually negative towards the show for some good-to-me reason)

My mother did this with everything. Books, shows, people...all needed to be commented on so we would know her veiw and what veiw she wanted us to take. And now she wonders why we always read into her comments for the hidden motives.
Dawn (in NS)




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Tia Leschke

>
> My mother did this with everything. Books, shows, people...all needed
> to be commented on so we would know her veiw and what veiw she wanted us
> to take. And now she wonders why we always read into her comments for the
> hidden motives.

This is a bad habit I have been trying to break. I'm trying to remember to
ask for my son's opinion and ideas far more than I give mine. It's hard.
Tia