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This just really spoke truth to me -- it captures so much that's real
and important, in a completely open, balanced, nonjudgmental way. Thanks! :)
JJ

SandraDodd@... writes:


> Even before we had kids, Keith and I have always said "please" and "thank
> you" to the people around us. When people give my kids gifts, they tend
> toward
> effusion ("This is so cool! Thanks! Let's go try it out right now!")
>
> While I like to get thank you notes from adults, and am usually surprised
> and
> grateful for them (instead of thinking "Yeah, I earned this, and it's about
> time," as some people seem to be about them), when I get one from a child I
> always hope it didn't come under pressure and threat, because then I'm
> afraid
> they've spent some time thinking negatively about me and the gift, and that
> it
> might keep them from seeing writing as a fun thing.
>
> For kids who write pretty well and who really like the person they're
> writing
> too, some of those objections would fall.
>
> Sandra
>
>



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<< > For kids who write pretty well and who really like the person they're
> writing
> too, some of those objections would fall. >>

Maybe I needed more "too" or less "too" Maybe Tutu too.

Maybe if they really like the person they're writing to too, or to whom
they're writing also...

Ah never mind. Probably nobody noticed but me and a couple of people who
(like me) would be better off if they didn't have proofreader-brains.

Sandra

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In a message dated 1/7/2004 1:10:33 AM Eastern Standard Time,
joylyn@... writes:

> I don't
> really make my kids write thank you's, but it's also not really
> optional, it's just something that is done in our home.
>

This has always been true in our home also. I did ask my son to write two
thank you's yesterday to two sets of grandparents that always send multiple gifts
to the children and live many states away. He's 10 and wrote a short note to
each talking about a couple of his favorite gifts. I asked him to change
"crismas" to "Christmas" in one letter because the one grandmother is very
religious and was a 1st grade teacher. Sometimes, it's important to take the time
for little things just because we love and honor someone. He was fine with it
and I addressed the envelopes and put in pictures of him taken on Christmas
morning. It will mean so much to them all because they very seldom get to see
the children. However, if he had really not wanted to do it, I would not have
insisted.

I did mention some of the ideas about thank you notes from this list and he
loved the lego idea. He then decided it would be fun to do a claymation thank
you and spent part of the evening deciding how he would do that. My new view
on thank you notes (besides the two that I helped him send out) is that it is
optional. However, I have left the thank you cards out on the table while I
worked on them and I noticed that my 14 year old daughter has written some.
Maybe, he'll follow up on his Claymation idea. Leaving the clay out now..:-)

Gail


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Deborah Lewis

***Maybe I needed more "too" or less "too"***
*** Probably nobody noticed but me ***

I never notice when other people do it, but my own come glaring out at me
with a big flashing "moron" sign. Why aren't they glaring before I hit
"send"?

Deb, no proofreader brain and some days, no brain at all.

Tia Leschke

>
>
>Ah never mind. Probably nobody noticed but me and a couple of people who
>(like me) would be better off if they didn't have proofreader-brains.

LOL! They just jump out at you, don't they.
Tia