Re:thank you letters (was Re: handwriting and unscho...
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In a message dated 1/6/2004 4:10:26 PM Eastern Standard Time,
echornby@... writes:
And to be honest ,they WOULD be more interested in style than
content...especially since we homeschool.
Gosh! Imagine if they knew we unschool <<G>>
Thanks for your ideas
~Marcia
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echornby@... writes:
> and your son thinks that lack of treasury notes is a small************************
> price to pay for the FREEDOM of not having one's spelling and
> handwriting scrutinised by elderly relatives who are more interested
> in style than content, then that's his decision (and one I heartily
> applaud)!
And to be honest ,they WOULD be more interested in style than
content...especially since we homeschool.
Gosh! Imagine if they knew we unschool <<G>>
Thanks for your ideas
~Marcia
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Wife2Vegman
--- MarSi77@... wrote:
usually most understanding and supportive, chose this
past Saturday to "let me have it" about not receiving
thank you notes from the kids for the christmas
presents she gave them.
Now, she gave the presents to them in person, and they
thanked her most profusely and hugged on her on
Christmas Day.
It had only been a week since Christmas.
AND she knew I had been dealing with a very sick child
for the whole week, so had very little sleep, nor
could I really focus on anything but finding out what
was wrong with my sick child and helping him.
So, after hanging up on her...
I wrote the thank you notes for my boys on the
computer and asked them to sign them. The 5yo added a
drawing of the grim reaper (and I tried not to laugh
at the irony). Sarah chose to type her own, and made
it long and chatty and perfect.
Anyway, mus suggestion is that you could ask your son
to dictate the thank you notes to you while you type
them out for him, then he could just sign his name.
No one needs to see the spelling mistakes or the
handwriting that way, and it is easier on old-folks'
eyes anyway.
He's a little boy who would rather be playing with the
toys than writing something and is now free from
grading. Let him be and satisfy your relatives' need
for a thank you note in a stress-free manner.
=====
--Susan in VA
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> ************************We had a similar problem this year. My mom, who is
> And to be honest ,they WOULD be more interested in
> style than
> content...especially since we homeschool.
> Gosh! Imagine if they knew we unschool <<G>>
> Thanks for your ideas
> ~Marcia
>
usually most understanding and supportive, chose this
past Saturday to "let me have it" about not receiving
thank you notes from the kids for the christmas
presents she gave them.
Now, she gave the presents to them in person, and they
thanked her most profusely and hugged on her on
Christmas Day.
It had only been a week since Christmas.
AND she knew I had been dealing with a very sick child
for the whole week, so had very little sleep, nor
could I really focus on anything but finding out what
was wrong with my sick child and helping him.
So, after hanging up on her...
I wrote the thank you notes for my boys on the
computer and asked them to sign them. The 5yo added a
drawing of the grim reaper (and I tried not to laugh
at the irony). Sarah chose to type her own, and made
it long and chatty and perfect.
Anyway, mus suggestion is that you could ask your son
to dictate the thank you notes to you while you type
them out for him, then he could just sign his name.
No one needs to see the spelling mistakes or the
handwriting that way, and it is easier on old-folks'
eyes anyway.
He's a little boy who would rather be playing with the
toys than writing something and is now free from
grading. Let him be and satisfy your relatives' need
for a thank you note in a stress-free manner.
=====
--Susan in VA
WifetoVegman
What is most important and valuable about the home as a base for children's growth into the world is not that it is a better school than the schools, but that it isn't a school at all. John Holt
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Tia Leschke
>Wow! I never thought a person was supposed to send thank you notes for
>
>We had a similar problem this year. My mom, who is
>usually most understanding and supportive, chose this
>past Saturday to "let me have it" about not receiving
>thank you notes from the kids for the christmas
>presents she gave them.
>
>Now, she gave the presents to them in person, and they
>thanked her most profusely and hugged on her on
>Christmas Day.
presents received (and appreciated) in person. What a silly custom.
Tia
Jane Van Benthusen
>The 5yo added aLOL!I ended up spitting coffee all of my keyboard over that laugh. Thanks,
>drawing of the grim reaper
Jane :)
Dawn Adams
Susan writes:
Dawn (in NS)
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>We had a similar problem this year. My mom, who isHmmmm...Some people seem to forget that gifts should be given freely, without expectations. We don't do 'thank yous', I'm not sure why, just not a thing my DH's family or mine ever practiced. Well, I have written them on occasion but would never expect one. I give a gift to give the gift, not to get the thank you. Poo poo to your mom. :)
>usually most understanding and supportive, chose this
>past Saturday to "let me have it" about not receiving
>thank you notes from the kids for the christmas
>presents she gave them.
Dawn (in NS)
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Fetteroll
on 1/6/04 5:57 PM, Wife2Vegman at wifetovegman2002@... wrote:
need to write a thank you note if you've said thank you in person.
Might be worth finding her book and copying the page! ;-)
Joyce
> We had a similar problem this year. My mom, who isSeems to me one of the etiquette ladies, maybe Miss Manners, said there's no
> usually most understanding and supportive, chose this
> past Saturday to "let me have it" about not receiving
> thank you notes from the kids for the christmas
> presents she gave them.
>
> Now, she gave the presents to them in person, and they
> thanked her most profusely and hugged on her on
> Christmas Day.
need to write a thank you note if you've said thank you in person.
Might be worth finding her book and copying the page! ;-)
Joyce
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In a message dated 1/6/04 6:53:05 PM, Wishbone@... writes:
<< We don't do 'thank yous', I'm not sure why, just not a thing my DH's
family or mine ever practiced. Well, I have written them on occasion but would
never expect one. I give a gift to give the gift, not to get the thank you. Poo
poo to your mom. :) >>
My husband's mom wants them badly. Sometimes I've managed to get a kid to do
one, usually typed or drawn, but often I'll write a follow-up at Christmas
being chit-chatty about what various people did with the money she sent.
For years and years (maybe always, come to think of it) they have sent money
for Christmas. $25 check for each person. I gave mine to Marty and he got a
video game with mine and his. Holly and Kirby bought gifts. Keith probably
paid for a small part of the power bill. <g>
We used to give the grandparents gifts, but for the past several years we
haven't bothered. We were there one christmas and what they didn't return, his
mom laughed about (derisively, like "Why would we want THIS?"). When we gave
them a copy of the Linda Dobson book which had Kirby and Marty's picture and
quotes from them, they gave it back the next time they gave us a pile of
national geographics.
Not healthy.
Sandra
<< We don't do 'thank yous', I'm not sure why, just not a thing my DH's
family or mine ever practiced. Well, I have written them on occasion but would
never expect one. I give a gift to give the gift, not to get the thank you. Poo
poo to your mom. :) >>
My husband's mom wants them badly. Sometimes I've managed to get a kid to do
one, usually typed or drawn, but often I'll write a follow-up at Christmas
being chit-chatty about what various people did with the money she sent.
For years and years (maybe always, come to think of it) they have sent money
for Christmas. $25 check for each person. I gave mine to Marty and he got a
video game with mine and his. Holly and Kirby bought gifts. Keith probably
paid for a small part of the power bill. <g>
We used to give the grandparents gifts, but for the past several years we
haven't bothered. We were there one christmas and what they didn't return, his
mom laughed about (derisively, like "Why would we want THIS?"). When we gave
them a copy of the Linda Dobson book which had Kirby and Marty's picture and
quotes from them, they gave it back the next time they gave us a pile of
national geographics.
Not healthy.
Sandra
Wife2Vegman
--- Fetteroll <fetteroll@...> wrote:
might.
She really is a wonderful person and usually so
supportive that she just caught me on a day when I had
very little sleep all week and was quite worried about
the 5yo being sick (we thought he had an appendicitis
but turned out to have an impacted bowel) but holding
all my worries in so as not to worry the children (or
her and my dad). I guess I was as emotionally
constipated as my son was physically! LOL!
Otherwise I would have just blown it off as being her
old-fashioned southern upbringing (she is 69 after
all) would have made a joke about it and told her we
would get around to it eventually.
But I think my 5yos take on the whole thing was way
funnier. ;-)
=====
--Susan in VA
WifetoVegman
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>It's true, and if I can do it without upsetting her, I
> Seems to me one of the etiquette ladies, maybe Miss
> Manners, said there's no
> need to write a thank you note if you've said thank
> you in person.
>
> Might be worth finding her book and copying the
> page! ;-)
>
> Joyce
>
might.
She really is a wonderful person and usually so
supportive that she just caught me on a day when I had
very little sleep all week and was quite worried about
the 5yo being sick (we thought he had an appendicitis
but turned out to have an impacted bowel) but holding
all my worries in so as not to worry the children (or
her and my dad). I guess I was as emotionally
constipated as my son was physically! LOL!
Otherwise I would have just blown it off as being her
old-fashioned southern upbringing (she is 69 after
all) would have made a joke about it and told her we
would get around to it eventually.
But I think my 5yos take on the whole thing was way
funnier. ;-)
=====
--Susan in VA
WifetoVegman
What is most important and valuable about the home as a base for children's growth into the world is not that it is a better school than the schools, but that it isn't a school at all. John Holt
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Mary
My mom always had me do thank you's when I was little. I don't remember
thinking it was a hassle. I do remember people telling me afterwards how
sweet and kind I was for sending them. I guess I liked that and so didn't
mind doing them.
So I pretty much send thank you's for things. If people are right here and I
see them all the time, I don't. But I will let them know how much I
appreciate *whatever* and do things for them along the way also.
I don't send them for Christmas. Not sure why, but I do send them from the
kids for their birthdays. Sometimes when I ask, the will sign their name, if
they don't want to, I'll sign it for them. It's just something I find very
nice to do because I know how I feel when I get a thank you note for
something.
Mary B.
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thinking it was a hassle. I do remember people telling me afterwards how
sweet and kind I was for sending them. I guess I liked that and so didn't
mind doing them.
So I pretty much send thank you's for things. If people are right here and I
see them all the time, I don't. But I will let them know how much I
appreciate *whatever* and do things for them along the way also.
I don't send them for Christmas. Not sure why, but I do send them from the
kids for their birthdays. Sometimes when I ask, the will sign their name, if
they don't want to, I'll sign it for them. It's just something I find very
nice to do because I know how I feel when I get a thank you note for
something.
Mary B.
http://www.homeschoolingtshirts.com