Re: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Co-sleeping and nursing
Barbara Moreda
Weaning from night nursing has always been one of the hardest for my kids.
One was bribed with toys. Another ... well, he was just told one night, "I
can't do this anymore!" He was older than two and had a younger sibling who
was still nursing at night as well. I just couldn't function anymore! He
woke up for 4 nights. The first night he fussed, didn't cry, for about 20
minutes the first time he woke up. I was there with him, talking to him
about it. I do wish I had talked to him about it a bit first. I told him
that night, when we went to bed. It wasn't really fair to him or the other
sleepers in my room! They all would have appreciated some warning. :)
With a 2 yo, I would suggest having help from another adult. When I weaned
Michael from night nursing, I had just read a snippet from one of Dr. Sears'
books that said they weaned from night time around 18 months as another baby
was on the way. I thought, if he can do an 18 month old, I can certainly
wean Michael! He still nursed during the day but we did stop through the
night. It helped immensely!
Dr. Sears recommends having someone else walk the halls with the one who is
being weaned for a few night to a couple of weeks. My dh would not have
been capable of that. He doesn't deal with crying and frustration easily
but if yours can and will ...
I know when I weaned Maggie, she cried one night for awhile, poor Michael
sat up in bed and said, "just nurse her mom so **I** can go back to sleep!"
While I hate to see my kids cry, I could not take nursing her through the
night anymore. She was a few months past her 4th birthday. Everytime I
rolled over, she would arouse to nurse. I would lay there, afraid to move
at night. After a couple of nights, she was fine.
A good tip, too, is to have dad and older child sleep in another room. If
toddler wants to nurse, let him/her come to you and then put them back in
the other room. After awhile, maybe he won't be waking anymore.
Hugs to you. I know how hard it can be to tandem nurse. I have done it a
total of 4 years and didn't particularly enjoy it but it was what my kids
needed.
Barbara
Barbara Moreda
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One was bribed with toys. Another ... well, he was just told one night, "I
can't do this anymore!" He was older than two and had a younger sibling who
was still nursing at night as well. I just couldn't function anymore! He
woke up for 4 nights. The first night he fussed, didn't cry, for about 20
minutes the first time he woke up. I was there with him, talking to him
about it. I do wish I had talked to him about it a bit first. I told him
that night, when we went to bed. It wasn't really fair to him or the other
sleepers in my room! They all would have appreciated some warning. :)
With a 2 yo, I would suggest having help from another adult. When I weaned
Michael from night nursing, I had just read a snippet from one of Dr. Sears'
books that said they weaned from night time around 18 months as another baby
was on the way. I thought, if he can do an 18 month old, I can certainly
wean Michael! He still nursed during the day but we did stop through the
night. It helped immensely!
Dr. Sears recommends having someone else walk the halls with the one who is
being weaned for a few night to a couple of weeks. My dh would not have
been capable of that. He doesn't deal with crying and frustration easily
but if yours can and will ...
I know when I weaned Maggie, she cried one night for awhile, poor Michael
sat up in bed and said, "just nurse her mom so **I** can go back to sleep!"
While I hate to see my kids cry, I could not take nursing her through the
night anymore. She was a few months past her 4th birthday. Everytime I
rolled over, she would arouse to nurse. I would lay there, afraid to move
at night. After a couple of nights, she was fine.
A good tip, too, is to have dad and older child sleep in another room. If
toddler wants to nurse, let him/her come to you and then put them back in
the other room. After awhile, maybe he won't be waking anymore.
Hugs to you. I know how hard it can be to tandem nurse. I have done it a
total of 4 years and didn't particularly enjoy it but it was what my kids
needed.
Barbara
Barbara Moreda
Visit www.homeiscool.com for great deals on Usborne Books
Rent DVD's online through Mentura at www.homeiscool.com
Mommy to RJ (12/91), Michael (11/95) and Maggie (2/98)
mailto:homeiscool@...
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kelly Lenhart" <mina@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Thursday, January 01, 2004 12:59 AM
Subject: Re: [UnschoolingDiscussion] Co-sleeping and nursing
> >Are you wanting to wean him or just stop or slow the night nursing?
Heather
> >isn't trying to wean Kaelin, just sleep a little more.
> >Tia
>
> I'm first off looking to slow/stop the night nursing, because of the 4 mo
> old. I just NEVER get a decent sleep since they never want to nurse at
the
> same time. If I turn from one to the other, that's it. And the 2 year
old
> seems to want to sleep ON me, rather than with me. So I'm really trapped
> between the kids.
>
> I'd hate to make him stop all together, it's so important to him. But
it's
> really hard on my system. (Of course, I'm losing a ton of weight. I lost
5
> lbs between Thanksgiving and Xmas.)
>
> Kelly
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Kelly Lenhart
>My 3 year old grandson is like that. Heather just started trying somethingI'm in the same boat. I have a 7 year old who slept in his bed for the
>that a bunch of women on a board she frequents have done. She talked to him
>about it during the evening, then made a game of counting to ten and then
>it's time for him to let go. Surprisingly, he was agreeable, but it's only
>been one night so far. He only asked to nurse twice last night instead of
>most of the night. (The 16 month old actually nurses less at night.)
>Tia
first time in YEARS last night. He'd been sleeping on the couch. Mostly
with his dad who is escaping the 2.5 yr old and the 4 mos old.
I've done the same 1 to 10 thing with the 2 year old. He's ok about it,
sometimes. But he will tell me not to count! We also do a "just a slurp"
routine. I can pretty much get him to roll over at night, but he has really
upped his nursing since the little one was born. I think it's partly stress
and partly 'cause it tastes better again. -grin-
If Heather has any other success, can you let me know? I'm open to anything
to wean him with as little trauma as possible. He's very attached, which is
terrific, but I'm exhausted.
Kelly
Tia Leschke
>Are you wanting to wean him or just stop or slow the night nursing? Heather
>If Heather has any other success, can you let me know? I'm open to anything
>to wean him with as little trauma as possible. He's very attached, which is
>terrific, but I'm exhausted.
isn't trying to wean Kaelin, just sleep a little more.
Tia
Kelly Lenhart
>Are you wanting to wean him or just stop or slow the night nursing? HeatherI'm first off looking to slow/stop the night nursing, because of the 4 mo
>isn't trying to wean Kaelin, just sleep a little more.
>Tia
old. I just NEVER get a decent sleep since they never want to nurse at the
same time. If I turn from one to the other, that's it. And the 2 year old
seems to want to sleep ON me, rather than with me. So I'm really trapped
between the kids.
I'd hate to make him stop all together, it's so important to him. But it's
really hard on my system. (Of course, I'm losing a ton of weight. I lost 5
lbs between Thanksgiving and Xmas.)
Kelly