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-=-> If a parent wants a child to "act better" for reward, they're

training their children to be dishonest. To act, instead of be, better.-=-

After someone said "good post" or something to what contained this, I see the
need to pull it and elaborate.

My first priority is being. I want my children to BE honest and generous,
not just act honst and generous.

There are other choices, though. It's not just that anyone who isn't
generous is always stingy. It's not that anyone who doesn't always see the value in
honesty cheats and lies all the time.


So as a secondary wish, if someone isn't really nice, it's better that they
act nice than not. If someone isn't really very sociable, they should fake it
for the length of a party or project. If someone doesn't believe in
etiquette and manners, they might at least fake it during dinner at the table with
others.

"Fake it til you make it" is better than "never even fake it."

But "honestly understand and live it" is even better than "fake it."

Sandra