Heidi

Hi list,

What would you do with this situation?

The other day, I had a drink of ice water which I left near the
computer. It was in a coke cup w/lid and straw. I had left it there
for a bit, and when I did go over and grab it, to refill w/ice and
water, I tipped my head back to drink down a big swallow...THERE WAS
A LOOGIE IN THE WATER! I almost gulped it down...ugh...blech...

sorry this is SO gross. my son has this loogie habit, which I
hate...other than mentioning the rudeness of it to him, I haven't
ever punished him or anything. I figured, his social interactions
would eventually teach him...He evidently had let one down the straw
into the cup. oh blech. sorry.

Now. Loogies are RUDE, I consider it exceptionally coarse behavior,
and he knows I don't like it. But he continued on until SOMEONE got
the negative consequences of his rude behavior...ME.

Believe me, at this point, I DID holler at him. Everyone in the
household was completely grossed out and he got lots of negative
feedback that day.

I think he was genuinely sorry, and I'm confident there'll never be a
loogie in anyone's water ever again...shudder...but what to do, if I
see him hawking one or dangling it...

What should my response be in future, if loogy behavior happens
again? L ewwww.

HeidiC

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In a message dated 9/28/03 7:24:19 AM, bunsofaluminum60@... writes:

<< What should my response be in future, if loogy behavior happens

again? L ewwww. >>

What I would probably do:
I would maybe tell him calmly that that's no better than if he were to crap
in his hand and leave it for someone, or to rub boogers or spit on someone or
piss in someone's coffee. Tell him any stuff that comes out of his body should
be treated as waste material and PRIVATE waste material and should be in a
toilet, in a kleenex in the trash, and you never EVER unless he's bedridden and
can't take care of himself want to see anything that came out of him that way
again, and anyone who DOES want to see for any other than medical reasons
isn't as sane as you'd like him to hang out with, but if he DOES find people like
that someday, show them all the poo he wants, but not at YOUR house.

That's about what I'd say, and about that long and breathlessly.

I'm not sure that's the best thing, but it's an info dump anyway.

Sandra

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In a message dated 9/28/03 7:24:19 AM, bunsofaluminum60@... writes:

<< What should my response be in future, if loogy behavior happens

again? L ewwww. >>
My son did this once. Once.
I was just getting ready to sip my coffee and looked down and BOOM there it
was!
I told him it was disgusting and asked if he would be upset if I did that to
his drink. He said well yeah! Ok then I said please do not do it to mine then.
He never did it again.

Laura


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Betsy

**That's about what I'd say, and about that long and breathlessly.

I'm not sure that's the best thing, but it's an info dump anyway.
**

I was feeling equally indignant. (I've spilled drinks on my keyboard
and would hate to see my own safety precautions used as part of a sneak
attack. And boogers, yuck!)

"You know, I could take your toothbrush and use it to clean the toilet
any time without telling you. But I don't. Would you want to live in a
family where you couldn't trust me not to do that?"

Maybe this is too severe and someone will have a gentler, cleverer idea.

Betsy

marji

At 16:17 9/28/03 -0700, Betsy wrote:

>"You know, I could take your toothbrush and use it to clean the toilet
>any time without telling you. But I don't. Would you want to live in a
>family where you couldn't trust me not to do that?"
>
>Maybe this is too severe and someone will have a gentler, cleverer idea.

Cleverer than that?! I suppose one could be gentler, but I think that's a
damn clever way of making the point, Betsy. (Nevertheless, if I were that
young'un, I'd probably take a tip from Mad Eye Moody and start using a
toothbrush I kept in a toothbrush holder on my belt!) (BG)

Marji

Heidi

>
> "You know, I could take your toothbrush and use it to clean the
toilet
> any time without telling you. But I don't. Would you want to live
in a
> family where you couldn't trust me not to do that?"
>
> Maybe this is too severe and someone will have a gentler, cleverer
idea.
>
> Betsy

NO! that's perfect! LOL so far, we haven't had a repeat performance,
BUT I think he has done gross loogy things to tease his sisters, when
I've been elsewhere, before this nasty occurence. If I see him at it
again, I'll have some ammo, between you and Sandra. L blech

He sure got a hollering though. Maybe that was enough.

blessings, HeidiC

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In a message dated 9/28/03 03:18:18 PM Central Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
In a message dated 9/28/03 7:24:19 AM, bunsofaluminum60@... writes:

<< What should my response be in future, if loogy behavior happens

again? L ewwww. >>

What I would probably do:
I would maybe tell him calmly that that's no better than if he were to crap
in his hand and leave it for someone, or to rub boogers or spit on someone or
<<<SNIP>>>


That's about what I'd say, and about that long and breathlessly.

I'm not sure that's the best thing, but it's an info dump anyway.

Sandra
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Here is another twist. Go to the library, get a good illustrated book on
communicable diseases (preferably one that has lots of gory, nasty pictures of
germs that live in our body fluids), check it out, hand it to him, tell him to
read it and then say you never want to see his body fluids again unless he is
sick and can't help it.

~Nancy~ LOTS OF PICTURES!!!

He felt that his whole life was some kind of dream and he sometimes wondered
whose it was and whether they were enjoying it.
Douglas Adams


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In a message dated 9/28/03 06:12:19 PM Central Daylight Time,
ecsamhill@... writes:
"You know, I could take your toothbrush and use it to clean the toilet
any time without telling you. But I don't. Would you want to live in a
family where you couldn't trust me not to do that?"

Maybe this is too severe and someone will have a gentler, cleverer idea.

Betsy
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Gentler? No, but hysterically laughing till I snort and wake Darin up, and
the dog is barking at me now.

~Nancy~ Thanks for the 1:30 am laugh! <g>


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Kimberly Fry

There is a cell phone commercial currently airing that begins with a guy brushing his teeth. His phone rings and he gets a photo of a dog having his mouth brushed with the toothbrush the guy now has in his mouth. Next you see a group of guys and one starts to eat some dip. Now this second guy's phone rings. He gets a photo of the first guy with his finger going down his throat and an audio message saying something like, "That's not guacamole (sp?)."

I guess you'd have two choices. An actual demonstration of something sure to gross him out, or a discussion based on a commercial, book, or article. I remember when my son was 6 or 7, he went through a phase where he did NOT want to wash his hands, for any reason, PERIOD. I found an article explaining in very gross detail what can happen if one doesn't wash his hands. It has never ever been an issue again. We didn't really *discuss* it. I just read him the article.

Kim

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In a message dated 9/28/03 06:12:19 PM Central Daylight Time,
ecsamhill@... writes:
"You know, I could take your toothbrush and use it to clean the toilet any time without telling you. But I don't. Would you want to live in a family where you couldn't trust me not to do that?"

Maybe this is too severe and someone will have a gentler, cleverer idea.


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