Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Carol/re colton
Sonia Ulan
time with our children, relishing every moment! Such injustice that
they "grow"! I'm still mourning the fact my 7 and 10 year olds aren't
babies/toddlers any more and now this? On the cusp of pubesence? (Even
my 18 month old is depressing me with his level of development and
maturity.) Oh, the pain of it all...How is it the other half of the
world out there loves to see their children mature and leave home and
accomplish complete independence so the parents can "get on with their
lives"? I'll need that in a vitamin or something. It'll be
exceptionally tough for me to ever "let my kids go". Of course I want
them to be healthy and happy and developed eventually, but it will be
the saddest day of my life when it comes.
panchot wrote:
>
> OH my, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. No, I am starting to cry.
> Nicholas is 9 1/2 too, and the other day I thought he'd been out chewing on
> the chives again, but no. It was his little armpits. We laughed about it,
> and I showed him the deodorant that dad wears, and he put some on. He was
> kind of smiling in an "I told you my armpits stunk" sort of way. He is very
> proud of it. Why I didn't think that this was the start of puberty, um, I
> just didn't think of it. Now I read this and I just can't stop crying. I
> guess that's what it is. I'll need one of those hugs too. Goodness, that
> explains the horrible week we've had trying to get him to pick up his room.
> And the holding the hand/rolling the eyes. Oh, I can't believe it. You
> describe what's going on here. Wait, HE'S NOT SUPPOSED TO GROW UP YET. Oh
> my. I'm going to go finish this cry. I guess it's nice to know that I'm not
> the only one that feels this way.
>
> Brynn~
> "To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best night and day
> to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle any human
> being can fight and never stop fighting."
> --e.e. cummings
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: bcadams997@... [mailto:bcadams997@...]
> Sent: Tuesday, April 11, 2000 2:11 PM
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Parental Crisis
>
> Dear Friends,
>
> The following is something I wrote for another list a few weeks ago. It
> is about my son, Colton, who is 9 1/2. I thought it might speak to the
> hearts of moms who have kids growing up way too fast.
>
> This is perhaps a tacky story to tell you, but if I can't vent to my
> kindred spirits I will surely go mad. We have noticed some changes in
> Colton
> lately. He has been emotional and moody. He can spit out his words with
> the
> speed of an auctioneer. He can captain a debating team. He can hold my
> hand
> one minute and be rolling his eyes at me the next. Bud and I have wondered
> what is going on with him. We have even gone so far as to ask, "OK, so who
> are you, REALLY?"
>
> I finally have it figured out. I can sum up the changes in one single,
> horrifying word...
>
> ...puberty.
>
> Here's how the mystery was solved. As Colton was about to take a shower
> last
> night, I heard him yank back the shower curtain. Then he yelled for my
> help.
> I ran up to his bathroom to find him naked as the day he was born (only
> considerably taller), clutching the shower curtain rod in his hands. This
> was nothing new to me because I've experienced it too; the rod will fall
> right off the wall if you pull too hard on the curtain. While I was putting
> the curtain rod back up, I smelled an unmistakable odor. Was it really?
> Could it be? YES, it was.
>
> SWEAT!!!
>
> It didn't take long to pinpoint where the odor was coming from, since I'd
> just had my shower. I congratulated Colton on growing up, found him a stick
> deodorant in a manly "cool breeze" scent and told him how to use it. Then I
> set the deodorant on his bathroom counter, right next to the bottle of hair
> gel which has recently taken up residence. Yes, Colton is now *styling* his
> hair, whereas six months ago he rarely combed it. He wears it in a style I
> think of as "shiny bedhead," but my son assures me this is "cool." I
> wouldn't know, as I haven't been cool in 400 years.
>
> Intellectually, I knew my son was growing up. But I don't think with my
> head, I think with my heart. And my heart is several years behind. So if
> you see me this week, give me a comforting hug. Here is how you will
> recognize me: there will be tears in my eyes and I'll be holding Colton's
> old
> teddy bear.
>
> Blessings,
> Carol
>
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A. Yates
So, thanks from me and the other mother's with little ones, who sometimes get overwhelmed and forget they really are going to grow up, and we are going to miss all this chaos.
Ann
Sonia Ulan wrote:
You're in good company. Such cruelty to us mothers who spend all of our
time with our children, relishing every moment! Such injustice that
they "grow"! I'm still mourning the fact my 7 and 10 year olds aren't
babies/toddlers any more and now this? On the cusp of pubesence? (Even
my 18 month old is depressing me with his level of development and
maturity.) Oh, the pain of it all...How is it the other half of the
world out there loves to see their children mature and leave home and
accomplish complete independence so the parents can "get on with their
lives"? I'll need that in a vitamin or something. It'll be
exceptionally tough for me to ever "let my kids go". Of course I want
them to be healthy and happy and developed eventually, but it will be
the saddest day of my life when it comes.panchot wrote:
>
> OH my, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. No, I am starting to cry.
> Nicholas is 9 1/2 too, and the other day I thought he'd been out chewing on
> the chives again, but no. It was his little armpits. We laughed about it,
> and I showed him the deodorant that dad wears, and he put some on. He was
> kind of smiling in an "I told you my armpits stunk" sort of way. He is very
> proud of it. Why I didn't think that this was the start of puberty, um, I
> just didn't think of it. Now I read this and I just can't stop crying. I
> guess that's what it is. I'll need one of those hugs too. Goodness, that
> explains the horrible week we've had trying to get him to pick up his room.
> And the holding the hand/rolling the eyes. Oh, I can't believe it. You
> describe what's going on here. Wait, HE'S NOT SUPPOSED TO GROW UP YET. Oh
> my. I'm going to go finish this cry. I guess it's nice to know that I'm not
> the only one that feels this way.
>
> Brynn~
> "To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best night and day
> to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle any human
> being can fight and never stop fighting."
> --e.e. cummings
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: bcadams997@... [mailto:bcadams997@...]
> Sent: Tuesday, April 11, 2000 2:11 PM
> To: [email protected]
> Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Parental Crisis
>
> Dear Friends,
>
> The following is something I wrote for another list a few weeks ago. It
> is about my son, Colton, who is 9 1/2. I thought it might speak to the
> hearts of moms who have kids growing up way too fast.
>
> This is perhaps a tacky story to tell you, but if I can't vent to my
> kindred spirits I will surely go mad. We have noticed some changes in
> Colton
> lately. He has been emotional and moody. He can spit out his words with
> the
> speed of an auctioneer. He can captain a debating team. He can hold my
> hand
> one minute and be rolling his eyes at me the next. Bud and I have wondered
> what is going on with him. We have even gone so far as to ask, "OK, so who
> are you, REALLY?"
>
> I finally have it figured out. I can sum up the changes in one single,
> horrifying word...
>
> ...puberty.
>
> Here's how the mystery was solved. As Colton was about to take a shower
> last
> night, I heard him yank back the shower curtain. Then he yelled for my
> help.
> I ran up to his bathroom to find him naked as the day he was born (only
> considerably taller), clutching the shower curtain rod in his hands. This
> was nothing new to me because I've experienced it too; the rod will fall
> right off the wall if you pull too hard on the curtain. While I was putting
> the curtain rod back up, I smelled an unmistakable odor. Was it really?
> Could it be? YES, it was.
>
> SWEAT!!!
>
> It didn't take long to pinpoint where the odor was coming from, since I'd
> just had my shower. I congratulated Colton on growing up, found him a stick
> deodorant in a manly "cool breeze" scent and told him how to use it. Then I
> set the deodorant on his bathroom counter, right next to the bottle of hair
> gel which has recently taken up residence. Yes, Colton is now *styling* his
> hair, whereas six months ago he rarely combed it. He wears it in a style I
> think of as "shiny bedhead," but my son assures me this is "cool." I
> wouldn't know, as I haven't been cool in 400 years.
>
> Intellectually, I knew my son was growing up. But I don't think with my
> head, I think with my heart. And my heart is several years behind. So if
> you see me this week, give me a comforting hug. Here is how you will
> recognize me: there will be tears in my eyes and I'll be holding Colton's
> old
> teddy bear.
>
> Blessings,
> Carol
>
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