[email protected]

In a message dated 9/1/2003 1:54:22 AM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

> I'm sorry, I came here for helpful suggestions and all of a sudden
> felt like it was me on trial for being a bad parent, and in front of
> the whole group, and being new and all. It's just a bit
> overwhelming.
>
> Judie
>
>

Judie, trust me...if anyone thought you were a bad parent or didn't really
want to figure out a way to help you help your sons, no one here would bother.
It's because it seems like you really want to find a way to help him that
people are responding to you.

And I understand your frustration. $500 is a lot of money. But from what
you've said, he's been pretty responsible so far in his life, with good
follow-through. Already that's remarkable for a still-young kid.

What you might need to do is to sit down calmly, alone, and figure out what
your real goal is. Is it not to "waste" this money, or to find out what your
child needs and wants. (I already know the answer, but I also know that $500 is
sticking in your craw!)

The other thing that I read in your posts is that maybe you had a lot of
deprivation as a child. You seem to be very afraid of wasting anything, even food
you don't really want. It sounds like maybe you need some care and nurturing
yourself. I think unschooling might be really good and wonderful for YOU!

{{{Judie}}}

Kathryn


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