importance of outside acvtivities
Mary
From: "Gary & Lisa Williams" <glmnw@...>
<<So I guess what I'm asking is, how involved are you and your
kids involved in weekly lessons of some sort or how involved are you in
homeschool groups that provide kid interactions, etc.? And do you feel
these lessons/activities are enjoyable and/or useful?>>
What is working for my kids right now isn't what was working last year. My
kids that are unschooled are 8, 7 and almost 3. Last year they were
perfectly happy to do a homeschool sports camp one day a week for 3 hours
and then maybe have a friend over once a week and the rest of the time hang
out with me, either out or home. Preferably at home.
Now they enjoy the outtings more. We will be doing park day every Tues.
starting next week. I think it's something they will want to do every week.
We do craft day every Wed. at a friends house and then have plenty of play
time after we do the craft. Fridays will again start their sports day in a
couple of weeks. So that will be 3 days of doing things outside the house
with other kids on a regular basis. We'll see how that goes. Of course the
youngest doesn't do the sports day but she does do the park and crafts. This
is the most my kids have done so far on a regular basis. I'm figuring that
will eventually change too depending on their needs.
I know they will give up park day and craft day if other things come up,
like more interesting field trips with our group or fun stuff with mom and
dad. I know from experience they are not willig to give up their Fridays and
sports though. In between, as they like, we will do water park and friends
over too. My kids still are at the point though where too much away from
home is not to their liking. A few hours 3 days a week are just enough so
far.
Mary B.
http://www.homeschoolingtshirts.com
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<<So I guess what I'm asking is, how involved are you and your
kids involved in weekly lessons of some sort or how involved are you in
homeschool groups that provide kid interactions, etc.? And do you feel
these lessons/activities are enjoyable and/or useful?>>
What is working for my kids right now isn't what was working last year. My
kids that are unschooled are 8, 7 and almost 3. Last year they were
perfectly happy to do a homeschool sports camp one day a week for 3 hours
and then maybe have a friend over once a week and the rest of the time hang
out with me, either out or home. Preferably at home.
Now they enjoy the outtings more. We will be doing park day every Tues.
starting next week. I think it's something they will want to do every week.
We do craft day every Wed. at a friends house and then have plenty of play
time after we do the craft. Fridays will again start their sports day in a
couple of weeks. So that will be 3 days of doing things outside the house
with other kids on a regular basis. We'll see how that goes. Of course the
youngest doesn't do the sports day but she does do the park and crafts. This
is the most my kids have done so far on a regular basis. I'm figuring that
will eventually change too depending on their needs.
I know they will give up park day and craft day if other things come up,
like more interesting field trips with our group or fun stuff with mom and
dad. I know from experience they are not willig to give up their Fridays and
sports though. In between, as they like, we will do water park and friends
over too. My kids still are at the point though where too much away from
home is not to their liking. A few hours 3 days a week are just enough so
far.
Mary B.
http://www.homeschoolingtshirts.com
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Fetteroll
on 8/31/03 12:23 PM, Judie C. Rall at adonai@... wrote:
It helps *loads* to see that you *do* have a choice and athat you're
choosing to do what *you* feel you should be responsible for.
You *could* not clean up. That *is* a choice. But you will probably
eventually chose to clean. I think it helps to choose to clean when someone
feels there's a real reason to clean rather than because they "have to".
Someone recently said they would start approaching cleaning with a different
attitude so her daughter didn't get the idea that cleaning was a nasty
chore. Rather than saying she was going to clean because she had to, she was
going to be more honest and say she was cleaning because she enjoyed the
house more and felt more peaceful when it's orderly. So she'd be cleaning
because she wanted to rather than because she had to.
does my daughter, nor does she like her favorite cups filled with mold if
she forgets them somewhere so she chooses to eat food in rooms that are high
traffic.
what we think they're supposed to, to seeing our role as their partner in
their exploration of life.
Rather than making him shower, suggest that if he wants to go somewhere that
he'll offend people if he smells. But let him decide.
Puberty will help too. And introduce him to deodorant.
Rather than seeing his room as his to manage or not, ask him if he wouldn't
mind if you came in and straightened up. Not as a favor to him, but because
you want to and because it will help him get a feel for the benefits of
organizaiton and how to go about it. It needs to be a gift rather than
something you expect him to appreciate.
If you're cleaning resentfully, he'll resent you for cleaning and he won't
help.
Joyce
> toAnd I think you're seeing responsibility as something you have to do.
> me, responsibility is doing those things that I have a duty to take
> care of. And we all have those kind of things.
It helps *loads* to see that you *do* have a choice and athat you're
choosing to do what *you* feel you should be responsible for.
You *could* not clean up. That *is* a choice. But you will probably
eventually chose to clean. I think it helps to choose to clean when someone
feels there's a real reason to clean rather than because they "have to".
Someone recently said they would start approaching cleaning with a different
attitude so her daughter didn't get the idea that cleaning was a nasty
chore. Rather than saying she was going to clean because she had to, she was
going to be more honest and say she was cleaning because she enjoyed the
house more and felt more peaceful when it's orderly. So she'd be cleaning
because she wanted to rather than because she had to.
> That's how my son feels, and if you walk in his room right now, youI would clean up the food myself because I don't want ants. But then neither
> will see an unmade bed, piles of dirty clothes, dirty dishes, empty
> glasses, food trash and empty food containers, and ants following a
> little trail to his room because they know that's where the food
> crumbs are.
does my daughter, nor does she like her favorite cups filled with mold if
she forgets them somewhere so she chooses to eat food in rooms that are high
traffic.
> Eventually this is going toNo lines. We turn our thinking around from making them do what we want or
> get to be a health hazard, but that's ok because we don't have to do
> anything we don't WANT to do.
>
> Where do we draw the line here?
what we think they're supposed to, to seeing our role as their partner in
their exploration of life.
Rather than making him shower, suggest that if he wants to go somewhere that
he'll offend people if he smells. But let him decide.
Puberty will help too. And introduce him to deodorant.
Rather than seeing his room as his to manage or not, ask him if he wouldn't
mind if you came in and straightened up. Not as a favor to him, but because
you want to and because it will help him get a feel for the benefits of
organizaiton and how to go about it. It needs to be a gift rather than
something you expect him to appreciate.
If you're cleaning resentfully, he'll resent you for cleaning and he won't
help.
Joyce
[email protected]
In a message dated 9/1/2003 1:40:54 AM Central Daylight Time,
mummy124@... writes:
medium. We go to park day once a week with our support group and meet with
another homeschool family to hang out one day a week. My son (the home-body) is
getting ready to start kids classes at the art museum on Saturdays. We have lots
of friends with kids who we see socially on the weekends sometimes.
Amy Kagey
<A HREF="http://www.ubah.com/ecommerce/default.asp?sid=Z0939&gid=1684902">my Usborne Books website!</A>
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mummy124@... writes:
> So I guess what I'm asking is, how involved are you and yourI have one home-body and one social butterfly so we try to strike a happy
> kids involved in weekly lessons of some sort or how involved are you in
> homeschool groups that provide kid interactions, etc.? And do you feel
> these lessons/activities are enjoyable and/or useful
medium. We go to park day once a week with our support group and meet with
another homeschool family to hang out one day a week. My son (the home-body) is
getting ready to start kids classes at the art museum on Saturdays. We have lots
of friends with kids who we see socially on the weekends sometimes.
Amy Kagey
<A HREF="http://www.ubah.com/ecommerce/default.asp?sid=Z0939&gid=1684902">my Usborne Books website!</A>
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