Kelly Lovejoy

>>Some would say it builds character. If they joined a team and a
team of
other children is counting on said child to help them finish the
season and
compete for what they all signed on to do, then it might be useful to
examine if the
child is really desperate to quit or just had a rough day.<<

"Character" is another crap-school-word or crap-parent-word. I hate
that one! Building "character" by deprivation or punishment---that's
a crock.

>>There were days that I've wanted to quit things too, out of
frustration or
being tired or not feeling well or some offhanded comment. There are
things I'm
glad now that I didn't quit.<<

And YOU had the choice? That's the thing: if YOu have the choice and
decide to "stick it out"---or if the choice is made FOR YOU.

In this case, the child wants to quit, and the parent (and probably
coach) wants him to stick it out. The choice is being made for him.
That's no choice.

~Kelly

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In a message dated 8/19/2003 7:00:29 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
kbcdlovejo@... writes:

> In this case, the child wants to quit, and the parent (and probably
> coach) wants him to stick it out. The choice is being made for him.
> That's no choice.
>
> ~Kelly
>

I agreed with you in that the child should be allowed to stop playing
football but just offered the idea to make sure that it wasn't just a particularly
bad day, which the mother has already determined it wasn't, just a real desire
to not play anymore.

So, the child's choice was examined, validated and honored, all things that I
also agree to be important.

glena


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> <<<In this case, the child wants to quit, and the parent (and probably
> coach) wants him to stick it out. The choice is being made for him.
> That's no choice. Kelly>>
>
> Im not sure if this was responding to Glena or was about my son and I. Just
> to be clear. I dont and didn't want him to stick it out I was actually
> wishing secretly that he would quit. He has..
>
> >>Some would say it builds character.  If they joined a team and a
> team of
> other children is counting on said child to help them finish the
> season and
> compete for what they all signed on to do, then it might be useful to
> examine if the
> child is really desperate to quit or just had a rough day.Glena<<
>
> I also disagree. This paragraph hit me wrong. My sons feelings and concerns
> come before a pee wee football team.
> Laura



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