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In a message dated 4/7/00 8:40:21 AM Central Daylight Time, JodyeB1@...
writes:

SNIP
<< Then I said a silent prayer of thanksgiving
that she was alive and that I was able to feed her at all. >>
SNIP
I'm too busy loving the children I've been blessed with to worry about what
other
people think. And I for one, have certainly got better things to do than to
monitor the parenting choices of others.

STANDING UP APPLAUDING...

I can't add anything to this. Jodye, you're fantastic in my book! You keep
doing what you're doing - it's beautiful.



*** KiM ***
runs with scissors

K WORTHEN

Jodye,
Your post almost brought me to tears. I know that most people that
hs (at least the earthy crunchy ones like us), boy that was a blanket
statement huh? tend not to care about things like the house and car. It's
just nice to here it put into words like that. I too, am too busy loving my
kids to worry about these things. Thanks for making my day!
Amy
----- Original Message -----
From: <JodyeB1@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Friday, April 07, 2000 9:35 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Breastfeeding


> Hi there, I happen to be one of those terrible moms who didn't breast feed
> my children. I think with my first daughter the decision was made because
of
> a lack of information on my part. When my son was born 2 years later I
did
> try to breast feed him. It was quite pleasurable, as long as I was
nursing
> on the left side. The right side was another story. I can't describe the
> strange sort of pain I felt. It wasn't anything like the normal pain I
was
> feeling on the left side, and it didn't go away. For some reason my right
> breast (especially the nipple) is very, very sensitive (all the time). I
> talked to my doctor who dismissed me saying " no one's body is perfectly
> symmetrical. We're not exactly the same on both sides - not in shape,
size
> or sensation". So, I stopped breastfeeding my son. I didn't even try
with
> my next daughter. I was very discouraged at that point. When my fourth
baby
> was born, 14 months ago, I did try to nurse her. She was injured at birth
> (by the same doctor who gave me the advice on symmetry) and because of low
> muscle tone she had problems latching on and sucking. I was totally
stressed
> out! There was just too much going on. It was our first year of
> homeschooling, my baby was hurt, and I knew that to successfully
breastfeed
> her was going to take lots of time and energy (especially since I'd
basically
> be doing it for the first time). Besides all that I never did figure out
> what the problem with my right breast was...or is. So, I quit. I spent
the
> first few months of her life avoiding some of the very people who
> could/should have been supporting me. You know why? Because I didn't
want
> to hear the breastfeeding lecture...again. I know it's best for the baby!
I
> know! I know! I know! And guess what? I think homeschooling is best for
> kids. But I don't go around preaching about it to every person I meet.
In
> fact, I don't even talk about it unless someone asks me to. I figure that
> everyone has their reasons for doing things the way they do. Most people
are
> doing all they know they're capable of doing for their families with the
> circumstances they've been given. Notice I didn't say ARE capable of
doing.
> We've all had times when we were capable of doing more than we've actually
> done. Maybe I just got lucky, but all of my kids have been very healthy.
No
> ear infections, no allergies, and only the occasional cold. They're right
on
> target for weight, and have met all of their developmental milestones at
the
> "appropriate" time ( except for my youngest, but that has nothing to do
with
> what I'm feeding her) Oh yeah! They're really smart too. BG. And when
the
> young daughter of an acquaintance said to me as I was bottle feeding my
baby
> one day last sumer " Ugh! why are you feeding her that yucky stuff"? I
> explained the best way I could. Then I said a silent prayer of
thanksgiving
> that she was alive and that I was able to feed her at all. The birth of
my 1
> year old was a major life altering event for me. I no longer worry about
the
> trivial things in life (well, not as much as I used to anyway). Who cares
> what the house looks like? Or, the clothes, or my hair, or the car? I'm
too
> busy loving the children I've been blessed with to worry about what other
> people think. And I for one, have certainly got better things to do than
to
> monitor the parenting choices of others. Okay, all that being said...I do
> want to say that if there is a baby number 5 in my future I will most
> definitely try again to breastfeed. When that time arrives, I believe
I'll
> need lots of advice. And I think I know just where I can find it. Baby
> needs me...gotta go.
>
> Jodye
>
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