Big age gaps
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"Now I have to deal with having a baby in a foreign country. I don't even know
how to get a midwife plus I've heard horror stories about forced caesareans (I
want a VBAC) and forced vaccinations and circumcision. I'm tempted to fly home
where its all familiar!"
Now, now Shyrley...we ARE a free country. You honestly don't think the people at this list would put up with forced anything do you?!!! :)
I've given birth at home, I've had three hospital births and nothing happened in the hospital that I did not allow to happen. It was a choice to be there, so I had accepted that a certain amount of monitoring would be required, other than that, I was in control of my birth. Choosing a good hospital would be necessary of course.
Or finding a lay midwife if you are going to have a home birth.
If you're considered higher risk and a midwife won't take you, you could always seek out a nurse midwife, which makes a hospital birth much more empowering.
No one can vaccinate your baby or circumsize them without your consent. Keep your baby with you and they won't have any choice about it! I never had any problems with that stuff though. And I have two totally unvaccinated kids, one that started and I stopped them, the other got the full round before I had researched it enough. :( poor guy.
Anyway, about the age difference....
I have 11 years between my oldest and youngest and it's great. Sure, the legos and other small items were a worry for a while. But the kids adapted and learned to help me with that and Trevor is a fabulous babysitter, something I wouldn't have if there was less of an age gap.
Jalen loves his older siblings dearly. I think a big age gap can provide opportunities you don't get with kids closer in age. Greater maturity and less reason for conflict is a big one!!
It is exhausting sometimes though, that I will admit!
Ren
how to get a midwife plus I've heard horror stories about forced caesareans (I
want a VBAC) and forced vaccinations and circumcision. I'm tempted to fly home
where its all familiar!"
Now, now Shyrley...we ARE a free country. You honestly don't think the people at this list would put up with forced anything do you?!!! :)
I've given birth at home, I've had three hospital births and nothing happened in the hospital that I did not allow to happen. It was a choice to be there, so I had accepted that a certain amount of monitoring would be required, other than that, I was in control of my birth. Choosing a good hospital would be necessary of course.
Or finding a lay midwife if you are going to have a home birth.
If you're considered higher risk and a midwife won't take you, you could always seek out a nurse midwife, which makes a hospital birth much more empowering.
No one can vaccinate your baby or circumsize them without your consent. Keep your baby with you and they won't have any choice about it! I never had any problems with that stuff though. And I have two totally unvaccinated kids, one that started and I stopped them, the other got the full round before I had researched it enough. :( poor guy.
Anyway, about the age difference....
I have 11 years between my oldest and youngest and it's great. Sure, the legos and other small items were a worry for a while. But the kids adapted and learned to help me with that and Trevor is a fabulous babysitter, something I wouldn't have if there was less of an age gap.
Jalen loves his older siblings dearly. I think a big age gap can provide opportunities you don't get with kids closer in age. Greater maturity and less reason for conflict is a big one!!
It is exhausting sometimes though, that I will admit!
Ren