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In a message dated 3/29/00 3:18:58 AM, [email protected] writes:

<< then you don't get any time alone

again til 10 pm, when you can take a bath and read. That is a long day! >>

i agree that that particular day of carol's was long, too long for me! but
from her next post i got the feeling that they arent all that way. probably
working, having a child in school and a two yr old are absolutely as
draining-- esp the running around -- if not more so than being home with
several ages all day. just my opinion. we are all so different in our
needs. to answer your question, this is definitely why i choose the regular
bedtimes with our four kids. i need the break. it keeps me sane, and my
marital relationship in shape. as we have added more children to our fam, i
have chosen to slow our daytime "going" pace quite a bit, so that there is a
margin... it sounds like you may have the impression that hmschlrs are
martyrs to their own needs, but it probably more true that we are just like
everyone else, trying to do the balancing act of giving vs. conserving....
my husband is very supportive and i plan things for myself, going to meet a
friend for dinner, or to our support groups mom's nite, or to go get a
haircut (alone!) etc. knowing your needs is important...
erin