Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Nice story from my Mom (maybe OT)
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My Mom volunteers one day a week at the ps I used to go to. Eons ago. She's
in a 1st grade class.
Well, they had their class play this past Friday and she got to see it and it
was fun. But it was at the beginning of the day. So the whole 1st grade was
all jazzed and my Mom asked the teacher how she expected to actually get
anything done during the rest of the day with her class of 28 wound up kids.
The teacher just turned to my Mom and said: "Let me just say that I totally
understand why your daughter homeschools."
Mom volunteers but brags about her hsed grandkids!
Yeah!!
Nance
in a 1st grade class.
Well, they had their class play this past Friday and she got to see it and it
was fun. But it was at the beginning of the day. So the whole 1st grade was
all jazzed and my Mom asked the teacher how she expected to actually get
anything done during the rest of the day with her class of 28 wound up kids.
The teacher just turned to my Mom and said: "Let me just say that I totally
understand why your daughter homeschools."
Mom volunteers but brags about her hsed grandkids!
Yeah!!
Nance
Shannon Brophy
I am a new hs to my 3 year old son. I see the beauty in finding info and
sharing with a child's interests. He seems to have new ones coming up and we
follow up on what he wants to know more about. Yet, I have this idea that he
could learn French, and I showed a video on transportation from the library
(in French). He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me imposing on
his learning. How do you all deal with wanting your child to like/learn
something and having it fall flat in realizing it isn't what they want. I am
having a heartfelt feeling that truer unschooling might work better.
I know I could try again and see how it goes over, and also introduce French
in a different way.
Thoughts and suggestions on this concept appreciated.
Shannon
sharing with a child's interests. He seems to have new ones coming up and we
follow up on what he wants to know more about. Yet, I have this idea that he
could learn French, and I showed a video on transportation from the library
(in French). He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me imposing on
his learning. How do you all deal with wanting your child to like/learn
something and having it fall flat in realizing it isn't what they want. I am
having a heartfelt feeling that truer unschooling might work better.
I know I could try again and see how it goes over, and also introduce French
in a different way.
Thoughts and suggestions on this concept appreciated.
Shannon
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In a message dated 3/29/00 6:46:47 PM Central Standard Time, shannon@...
writes:
I am new to hs'ing so I'm not sure if I can help much. But, I've noticed this
has happened to me with my son. I just don't press the issue. I sit back and
let him lead. My son wanted to know about the human eye and asked me how deep
the pupil goes in the eye ball and I had no idea. I told him that I didn't
know but that we would go to the library and check out some books on eyes so
we could find out about it. He was real excited about it. But, when we got
the books home, he barely even looked at them even when I tried to "respark"
his interest in the original question. He still didn't act like he cared
about the answer. I just let it be. I didn't mention it again to him and he
hasn't brought it up. I'm keeping the books layed out on the table and maybe,
in his time, he will look it up but maybe not. I'm just not going to worry
about it. If anyone has any suggestions or comments. Please, I'd love to hear
them!
Lisa
writes:
> He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me imposing onam
> his learning. How do you all deal with wanting your child to like/learn
> something and having it fall flat in realizing it isn't what they want. I
> having a heartfelt feeling that truer unschooling might work better.French
>
> I know I could try again and see how it goes over, and also introduce
> in a different way.Shannon,
> Thoughts and suggestions on this concept appreciated.
I am new to hs'ing so I'm not sure if I can help much. But, I've noticed this
has happened to me with my son. I just don't press the issue. I sit back and
let him lead. My son wanted to know about the human eye and asked me how deep
the pupil goes in the eye ball and I had no idea. I told him that I didn't
know but that we would go to the library and check out some books on eyes so
we could find out about it. He was real excited about it. But, when we got
the books home, he barely even looked at them even when I tried to "respark"
his interest in the original question. He still didn't act like he cared
about the answer. I just let it be. I didn't mention it again to him and he
hasn't brought it up. I'm keeping the books layed out on the table and maybe,
in his time, he will look it up but maybe not. I'm just not going to worry
about it. If anyone has any suggestions or comments. Please, I'd love to hear
them!
Lisa
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Shannon, I also have a 3 yr old, & I can relate to what you are saying. He
has ideas that his attention span cannot keep up with. He told me one day
last wk how he wanted to make a castle. By the time I could scramble up all
the materials, he was already interested in doing something else. Oh well,
another day and our timing will click!
Best of luck!
Karen
has ideas that his attention span cannot keep up with. He told me one day
last wk how he wanted to make a castle. By the time I could scramble up all
the materials, he was already interested in doing something else. Oh well,
another day and our timing will click!
Best of luck!
Karen
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Dear Shannon and Lisa and all-
This is such a hard issue. Because, I think, we are all so excited to see our
children learning...and we can identify gifts in them that we want them to
develop.
And I don't think there's anything wrong with parents directing and
suggesting a child's interest. But where they go with it is something I
think we can't control.
Sometimes, when there is something that I think my children would be good at
or interested in and my efforts fall on deaf ears, I just try to tell myself
that it might not be the right time. And I still try to expose my child to
that interest, only as you said Shannon-in different ways. They may sometime
pick up on it and they may not.
It always used to scare me that I would fail to introduce my kids to
something that they would benefit from. Now I see that it isn't possible for
me to introduce them to everything, and I don't even try.
It amazes me to watch what comes from influences outside of me. For example,
my 11yo just happens to take piano lessons from a farmer's wife and now is
into everything related to farming.
Trust, trust, trust, trust, trust, trust! I can't say it enough. It's the
only way I ever get any peace-to trust that what comes from their innate,
insatiable appetites to learn will lead and guide them to places beyond my
wildest dreams!
I hope this isn't too disconnected or simplistic. It' s just that as my kids
grow and I see them coming around to things that I've tried to get them to
"know or do" for years" and they make these "discoveries" on their own, the
learning is so much more amazing for all of us.
That isn't to say I don't do a lot of subtle directing and exposing my
children purposely to things I think they might like. We're all open to
different learning at different times.
It's hard for me, sometimes, to realize that a child may want only a simple
answer to a question when I want to develop it into a passion! Remember,
these things take time and they may come at a time when we least expect.
Trust.
Take care-
Carol from WI
This is such a hard issue. Because, I think, we are all so excited to see our
children learning...and we can identify gifts in them that we want them to
develop.
And I don't think there's anything wrong with parents directing and
suggesting a child's interest. But where they go with it is something I
think we can't control.
Sometimes, when there is something that I think my children would be good at
or interested in and my efforts fall on deaf ears, I just try to tell myself
that it might not be the right time. And I still try to expose my child to
that interest, only as you said Shannon-in different ways. They may sometime
pick up on it and they may not.
It always used to scare me that I would fail to introduce my kids to
something that they would benefit from. Now I see that it isn't possible for
me to introduce them to everything, and I don't even try.
It amazes me to watch what comes from influences outside of me. For example,
my 11yo just happens to take piano lessons from a farmer's wife and now is
into everything related to farming.
Trust, trust, trust, trust, trust, trust! I can't say it enough. It's the
only way I ever get any peace-to trust that what comes from their innate,
insatiable appetites to learn will lead and guide them to places beyond my
wildest dreams!
I hope this isn't too disconnected or simplistic. It' s just that as my kids
grow and I see them coming around to things that I've tried to get them to
"know or do" for years" and they make these "discoveries" on their own, the
learning is so much more amazing for all of us.
That isn't to say I don't do a lot of subtle directing and exposing my
children purposely to things I think they might like. We're all open to
different learning at different times.
It's hard for me, sometimes, to realize that a child may want only a simple
answer to a question when I want to develop it into a passion! Remember,
these things take time and they may come at a time when we least expect.
Trust.
Take care-
Carol from WI
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In a message dated 03/30/2000 12:46:57 AM !!!First Boot!!!, shannon@...
writes:
<< I am a new hs to my 3 year old son. I see the beauty in finding info and
sharing with a child's interests. He seems to have new ones coming up and we
follow up on what he wants to know more about. Yet, I have this idea that he
could learn French, and I showed a video on transportation from the library
(in French). He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me imposing on
his learning. How do you all deal with wanting your >>
Honestly?
He's 3 -- French can wait.
He will show an interest in this and other languages if he's exposed to them
but I don't think it's time to worry yet. Although, as a Mom, that is your
job!
Nance
writes:
<< I am a new hs to my 3 year old son. I see the beauty in finding info and
sharing with a child's interests. He seems to have new ones coming up and we
follow up on what he wants to know more about. Yet, I have this idea that he
could learn French, and I showed a video on transportation from the library
(in French). He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me imposing on
his learning. How do you all deal with wanting your >>
Honestly?
He's 3 -- French can wait.
He will show an interest in this and other languages if he's exposed to them
but I don't think it's time to worry yet. Although, as a Mom, that is your
job!
Nance
A. Yates
Your post has made me think....I think because we need to do less, just
trust, that is why it is so hard. We, as humans, have a tendency to
want to make mountains out of molehills.....do too much. So when it
comes to just sitting back, being available, and trusting, it is very
difficult.
Ann
trust, that is why it is so hard. We, as humans, have a tendency to
want to make mountains out of molehills.....do too much. So when it
comes to just sitting back, being available, and trusting, it is very
difficult.
Ann
J Salicos
Hi everyone, I think for me and my DD's the answer
here lies more in introducing what "they " want to
learn, not what I what them to know. Although
sometimes I can sneak in something I do "what" them to
know! For example we watched the movie "a Mother's
Gift" last night. It is based on the book "A lantern
in her hand" {please don't quote that book title as I
am only half sure it is correct!} Anyway yesterday
afternoon my DD's made mail boxes for their rooms so
they could write letters to me and each other, so in
the letters I wrote them ,I suggested we write to each
other as if we were living in the 1860's just prior to
the Civil War. They were all for it. And I know my
DD's, they will want me to make costumes for them to
wear and we will research the food to cook and so
on.This may last a week or a month who knows? But they
will come out of this experience knowing a little more
then they did.
Jill
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here lies more in introducing what "they " want to
learn, not what I what them to know. Although
sometimes I can sneak in something I do "what" them to
know! For example we watched the movie "a Mother's
Gift" last night. It is based on the book "A lantern
in her hand" {please don't quote that book title as I
am only half sure it is correct!} Anyway yesterday
afternoon my DD's made mail boxes for their rooms so
they could write letters to me and each other, so in
the letters I wrote them ,I suggested we write to each
other as if we were living in the 1860's just prior to
the Civil War. They were all for it. And I know my
DD's, they will want me to make costumes for them to
wear and we will research the food to cook and so
on.This may last a week or a month who knows? But they
will come out of this experience knowing a little more
then they did.
Jill
--- BandLHaney@... wrote:
> In a message dated 3/29/00 6:46:47 PM Central__________________________________________________
> Standard Time, shannon@...
> writes:
>
> > He wasn't too psyched, and it felt a bit like me
> imposing on
> > his learning. How do you all deal with wanting
> your child to like/learn
> > something and having it fall flat in realizing it
> isn't what they want. I
> am
> > having a heartfelt feeling that truer unschooling
> might work better.
> >
> > I know I could try again and see how it goes
> over, and also introduce
> French
> > in a different way.
> > Thoughts and suggestions on this concept
> appreciated.
>
> Shannon,
> I am new to hs'ing so I'm not sure if I can help
> much. But, I've noticed this
> has happened to me with my son. I just don't press
> the issue. I sit back and
> let him lead. My son wanted to know about the human
> eye and asked me how deep
> the pupil goes in the eye ball and I had no idea. I
> told him that I didn't
> know but that we would go to the library and check
> out some books on eyes so
> we could find out about it. He was real excited
> about it. But, when we got
> the books home, he barely even looked at them even
> when I tried to "respark"
> his interest in the original question. He still
> didn't act like he cared
> about the answer. I just let it be. I didn't mention
> it again to him and he
> hasn't brought it up. I'm keeping the books layed
> out on the table and maybe,
> in his time, he will look it up but maybe not. I'm
> just not going to worry
> about it. If anyone has any suggestions or comments.
> Please, I'd love to hear
> them!
> Lisa
>
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