Olga

"jmcseals SEALS" <jmcseals@...>

<I ask you to consider what your goal is in making a child
acknowledge and
thank a hostess for a meal but not needing an adult to do so.
Personally, I
would be more shocked if an adult chose not to do so, rather than an
inexperienced child.>

Jennifer,

I completely agree here. If you expect kids to say excuse me, then
Mom & Dad should do that too. You will never have to *teach* them,
they will do it on their own. Also, bad manners are much more
unforgivable from an adult than a child. Kids who have bad manners
will usually have parents that are similar.

Olga :)

Olga

aww...*sniff* *dab*

thank you. I really am trying to learn. Going through a huge paradigm
shift here, and that's scary. Feeling clueless and feeling like I
really messed up my oldest boy (23, "victim" of my cluelessness,
immaturity, harshness, what have you) But this list helps so much.

SO MUCH to think about. SO MUCH inner work to do.

thanks again, Lee-Ann in Australia.

HeidiC

I agree with Lee-Ann, Heidi. I am still starting out so I am often
still confused about things. Today was one of those doubting days.
Those "I am not doing enough with them" days. Although, I know they
get alot of attention, I always worry they do not get enough "great
adult example to inspire them" time. I don't even know if that makes
sense..LOL! For me, it has not been as much of a paradigm shift in
*discipline* or the manner of raising them. Although there is
certainly alot of that too. More of letting go of the teaching
stuff and not worrying about the writing and reading.
Congratulations on your journey :)

olga :)