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In a message dated 6/9/2003 9:13:15 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
>
> Whether I'm applying Golden Rule to my parenting practices correctly,
> or not, it is still a good principle on which to base one's social
> interactions. It isn't just about remembering to be courteous, but
> also about how to treat someone who has treated you terribly.

I personally think that the Golden Rule is only the starting point. What we
REALLY should be doing, is not treating others the way WE want to be treated,
but treating them the way THEY want to be treated.
It's beyond the Golden Rule thinking...and much more useful in my opinion.

Ren


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In a message dated 6/9/03 11:37:04 AM, starsuncloud@... writes:

<< I personally think that the Golden Rule is only the starting point. What
we
REALLY should be doing, is not treating others the way WE want to be treated,
but treating them the way THEY want to be treated.
It's beyond the Golden Rule thinking...and much more useful in my opinion. >>

Same thing, deeper.
You would like for people to treat you the way you would like to be treated.

Sandra

Andrea

At 01:34 PM 6/9/03 -0400, Ren wrote:
>I personally think that the Golden Rule is only the starting point. What we
>REALLY should be doing, is not treating others the way WE want to be treated,
>but treating them the way THEY want to be treated.
>It's beyond the Golden Rule thinking...and much more useful in my opinion.

I like this, too.

Occasionally I meet a mother with a young child who instructs her child to
call me "Mrs. Andrea." I am not Mrs. Andrea to anyone (except for
telemarketers and call centres :-) but the mother is adamant that I must be
called Mrs. Andrea, to show "respect" I guess. Respect to whom? I don't
think it is respectful to address someone by a name they don't want.

Donna Andrea, not Mrs., in Nova Scotia

Heidi

--- In [email protected], starsuncloud@c... wrote:
> In a message dated 6/9/2003 9:13:15 AM Central Daylight Time,
> [email protected] writes:
> >
> > Whether I'm applying Golden Rule to my parenting practices
correctly,
> > or not, it is still a good principle on which to base one's
social
> > interactions. It isn't just about remembering to be courteous,
but
> > also about how to treat someone who has treated you terribly.
>
> I personally think that the Golden Rule is only the starting point.
What we
> REALLY should be doing, is not treating others the way WE want to
be treated,
> but treating them the way THEY want to be treated.
> It's beyond the Golden Rule thinking...and much more useful in my
opinion.
>
But it isn't possible to really know about someone else's wants. A
person is acquainted best with her own desires. I think most people
would desire to be treated compassionately and with courtesy.
Thinking "How does that person want me to treat him in this
situation?" is more difficult than thinking "How would I like to be
treated in this situation?" We're each inside our own heads, not the
heads of other people.

HeidiC