Mary

Well my oldest's boyfriend has a place of his own. So you know what that means now. Not spending all their time here like they use to. Her car will hopefully be ready in another month or less so you know what that means to!

I must say I'm having some feelings about all this. Not sure what it is or why. I'm not worried about Tara. I'm not concerned about the playing house thing. Well not sure if that's the right word. It is bothering me some. I think it's just the fact that this is another stage in her growing up, or maybe growing out? Tara knows I'm a little apprehensive about it. She said she would stay home if I didn't want her to go. I'm not going to do that. I kind of feel bad about talking to her because she knows how I feel now. So as much as she wants to go, she also wants to stay but I think only because she thinks I want her to. Is all this making sense?

I just want some reassuring words that I will get through this. I guess I just wasn't ready for the steady house play so soon. At least I think that's what's wrong.

Mary B


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Pamela Sorooshian

On Monday, June 2, 2003, at 08:59 AM, Mary wrote:

> Well my oldest's boyfriend has a place of his own. So you know what
> that means now. Not spending all their time here like they use to. Her
> car will hopefully be ready in another month or less so you know what
> that means to!

What does it mean?

I'm probably being dense, Mary, but is she going to move in with him
or you're just thinking that they'll have a whole lot of privacy now
that they didn't have before or ??


-pam

Mary

From: "Pamela Sorooshian" <pamsoroosh@...>

<<What does it mean?
I'm probably being dense, Mary, but is she going to move in with him
or you're just thinking that they'll have a whole lot of privacy now
that they didn't have before or ??>>


Oh heavens I'm sorry. I feel like you guys know Tara and I don't have to
explain much!! <BG>

I'm not figuring she'll leave home or dump school or her job or anything
like that. Just that she'll have so much more ability to leave and hang out
away from home. Tara's always been one to hang here and have her friends
here. So her being gone is what will be different. I guess it's not really
the whole lot of privacy thing that bothers me. I mean she's gone to GA with
him before and I was okay with that. I think it's just the whole growing up
playing house more frequently deal that has me feeling a bit, I don't know,
maybe old??!! This is my first one growing up and even though she hasn't
gone anywhere, I'm feeling some pangs here of something.

Mary B

Pamela Sorooshian

I can SO relate, Mary. My oldest is 18 - she has a serious boyfriend
who is 23 (also an unschooler, by the way). She drove the 900 miles up
to Oregon where she's been for the past week and a half - seems like
MONTHS. She'll be home Friday. I miss her. But she'll be leaving again
toward the end of the summer and will be traveling all over the
country, including staying at her boyfriend's apartment in another
state. I'm right there with you -- first-born kid growing up - it can
be a bittersweet feeling.

-pam


On Monday, June 2, 2003, at 02:23 PM, Mary wrote:

> From: "Pamela Sorooshian" <pamsoroosh@...>
>
> <<What does it mean?
> I'm probably being dense, Mary, but is she going to move in with him
> or you're just thinking that they'll have a whole lot of privacy now
> that they didn't have before or ??>>
>
>
> Oh heavens I'm sorry. I feel like you guys know Tara and I don't have
> to
> explain much!! <BG>
>
> I'm not figuring she'll leave home or dump school or her job or
> anything
> like that. Just that she'll have so much more ability to leave and
> hang out
> away from home. Tara's always been one to hang here and have her
> friends
> here. So her being gone is what will be different. I guess it's not
> really
> the whole lot of privacy thing that bothers me. I mean she's gone to
> GA with
> him before and I was okay with that. I think it's just the whole
> growing up
> playing house more frequently deal that has me feeling a bit, I don't
> know,
> maybe old??!! This is my first one growing up and even though she
> hasn't
> gone anywhere, I'm feeling some pangs here of something.
>
> Mary B
>
>
>
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From: "Pamela Sorooshian" <pamsoroosh@...>


<<I can SO relate, Mary. My oldest is 18 - she has a serious boyfriend
who is 23 (also an unschooler, by the way). She drove the 900 miles up
to Oregon where she's been for the past week and a half - seems like
MONTHS. She'll be home Friday. I miss her. But she'll be leaving again
toward the end of the summer and will be traveling all over the
country, including staying at her boyfriend's apartment in another
state. I'm right there with you -- first-born kid growing up - it can
be a bittersweet feeling.>>


Oh Pam, you can understand. Now I feel bad for you!! Thankfully Tara gets
really homesick so she won't be travelling anytime in the near future. I
think I would be a wreck. Then again, if the child is living and loving it,
we've really done our job haven't we??? Sounds like you raised one great
confident kid there.

Mary B