Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Am I just being naïve?
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In a message dated 5/20/03 5:23:39 PM, genant2@... writes:
-=-I guess I am trying to build a relationship
of trust that will carry us through a lifetime, not just a set of rules for
now.
Hope that makes some sense.-=-
Makes sense to me!
<< If my oldest asks me to make him a peanut butter sandwich,
unless there is some reason that I can't, I will say yes. I don't say can't
you do it yourself, even though I know he can. I just assume that there is a
reason that he wants his Mom to make it for him. Not that he is lazy or
trying to take advantage of me. >>
Marty and Holly always want me to put the butter, salt and sour cream on
their baked potatoes. They say it tastes better when I do it. Marty says I know
how to put JUST the right amount of peanut butter on a sandwich, while he puts
too much.
I think the better taste is the happiness and love they feel when I'm nice to
them, as opposed to the slight fear and sorrow they might feel if I say "Do
it yourself!" I know that biochemistry can change pretty quickly and make a
kind of acidic taste in my mouth. I can go from wanting to eat to not wanting
to eat in an instant, and sometimes it's over something emotional. So kids
are probably telling a simple and literal truth when they say "It tastes better
when you make it, mom!"
Sandra
-=-I guess I am trying to build a relationship
of trust that will carry us through a lifetime, not just a set of rules for
now.
Hope that makes some sense.-=-
Makes sense to me!
<< If my oldest asks me to make him a peanut butter sandwich,
unless there is some reason that I can't, I will say yes. I don't say can't
you do it yourself, even though I know he can. I just assume that there is a
reason that he wants his Mom to make it for him. Not that he is lazy or
trying to take advantage of me. >>
Marty and Holly always want me to put the butter, salt and sour cream on
their baked potatoes. They say it tastes better when I do it. Marty says I know
how to put JUST the right amount of peanut butter on a sandwich, while he puts
too much.
I think the better taste is the happiness and love they feel when I'm nice to
them, as opposed to the slight fear and sorrow they might feel if I say "Do
it yourself!" I know that biochemistry can change pretty quickly and make a
kind of acidic taste in my mouth. I can go from wanting to eat to not wanting
to eat in an instant, and sometimes it's over something emotional. So kids
are probably telling a simple and literal truth when they say "It tastes better
when you make it, mom!"
Sandra
Olga
Well, I think most of us love when someone else does the cooking. It
is a different enjoyment all together. Maybe, it makes you feel like
a kid again when you were always taken care of or maybe it is the
pleasure of not doing the work! Either way, I love when someone
cooks for me, so I can see why kids love when we pamper them a little.
Olga :)--- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a...
wrote:
is a different enjoyment all together. Maybe, it makes you feel like
a kid again when you were always taken care of or maybe it is the
pleasure of not doing the work! Either way, I love when someone
cooks for me, so I can see why kids love when we pamper them a little.
Olga :)--- In [email protected], SandraDodd@a...
wrote:
>cream on
> Marty and Holly always want me to put the butter, salt and sour
> their baked potatoes. They say it tastes better when I do it.Marty says I know
> how to put JUST the right amount of peanut butter on a sandwich,while he puts
> too much.I'm nice to
>
> I think the better taste is the happiness and love they feel when
> them, as opposed to the slight fear and sorrow they might feel if Isay "Do
> it yourself!" I know that biochemistry can change pretty quicklyand make a
> kind of acidic taste in my mouth. I can go from wanting to eat tonot wanting
> to eat in an instant, and sometimes it's over something emotional.So kids
> are probably telling a simple and literal truth when they say "Ittastes better
> when you make it, mom!"
>
> Sandra