Alan & Brenda Leonard

5/19/03 06:20:

> I feel like I should be reading everything to make an informed
> decision before putting my 2 bits out there, but just don't always find the
> time to get through them all.

Welcome, Nicholina. Many people occasionally do mass deleting or go on no
mail for a time. Read what you can, and then post what you feel will help.
There is no requirement to read everything!
>
> I have to say, though, that lately I've been feeling like I am not patient and
> creative enough with problem solving with Davan.

Every day? Or just sometimes? I'm not a perfect parent. There are days I
should be more patient and I'm not. I know how to apologize, though, and
try to remember to do so. And I have learned more patience and creativity
with effort in that direction. It's something I have really worked on.

> Do any of you ever
> feel like you don't have enough patience for this job? Sometimes I wonder
> about myself....

Yes, sometimes I wonder about myself, too.

But you're dealing with a five year old. She's just a little girl now, and
it will get easier as she gets older. Mine is six, heading towards seven
this summer, and he's grown so much in the last year, it's just amazing.
Some of this is age.

I know I'm not the person I want to be, and sometimes I'm discouraged by
that. But I also know that there is nowhere else my child could be where he
would receive as much respect as he gets at home. Certainly he wouldn't get
it at school! And we're both pretty happy, really.

> So, here I am, and I imagine that now I've broken the ice with my first post,
> there will be more to follow. :)

Good!

brenda

zenmomma2kids

>> I know I'm not the person I want to be, and sometimes I'm
discouraged by that. >>

Just like with our kids, you might not like your choices in some
moments, you might not like some of your actions or patterns of
behavior in certain situations, but remember that you are Who You
Are. We are all a work in progress and finding our way along the
path.

Life is good.
~Mary

Pamela Sorooshian

>>
>> I have to say, though, that lately I've been feeling like I am not
>> patient and
>> creative enough with problem solving with Davan.
>>
First, remember that "young humans are designed to withstand incredible
amounts of ineptness in their elders." (I read this somewhere - I THINK
it was in "Math Power: How to Help Your Kid Like Math Even if You
Don't".)

If you are worried about not being patient enough, creative enough, or
any other kind of "enough," it just shows that you're a conscientious
parent and you'll be just fine!!

-pam