[email protected]

In a message dated 5/14/2003 12:07:15 PM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:


> They've already inflicted their rules on my home when their kids are
> here. I really don't know what to think of that. At some point
> I'm going to have to talk with my kids more about this.
>
> If I allow their kids to play video games or watch TV when they're
> here, they may not allow them to come over anymore. I know my
> daughter would really be sad about that.
>
> Its a very hard situation.
>
> Kelli
>
>
>

In our family, I think catering to other people's food fetishes (no sugar, no
carbs, no soda, no dessert before "real food") has had a really detrimental
effect on my kids' attitudes about foods. Hearing/ seeing other parents
restricting things made them see certain things as forbidden fruit and it
wasn't my doing!!! Before they became aware that other people had these
issues with "junk food," they didn't binge on stuff like that. It was all
food.
Now my older one seems obsessed with doing things other kids can't. Same
thing happened when he found out other kids had bedtimes. He stopped going
to bed when he was sleepy and started watching the clock. Anyone else have
this happen?


Pam T.


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marji

At 03:13 5/15/03 -0400, Pam T. wrote:
>In a message dated 5/14/2003 12:07:15 PM Central Daylight Time,
>[email protected] writes:
>
> > They've already inflicted their rules on my home when their kids are
> > here. I really don't know what to think of that. At some point
> > I'm going to have to talk with my kids more about this.
> >
> > If I allow their kids to play video games or watch TV when they're
> > here, they may not allow them to come over anymore. I know my
> > daughter would really be sad about that.
> >
> > Its a very hard situation.
> >
> > Kelli

Yeah, this happens here a lot. In fact, there are kids who do not come
over anymore, and I suspect that's the reason.

>In our family, I think catering to other people's food fetishes (no sugar, no
>carbs, no soda, no dessert before "real food") has had a really detrimental
>effect on my kids' attitudes about foods. Hearing/ seeing other parents
>restricting things made them see certain things as forbidden fruit and it
>wasn't my doing!!! Before they became aware that other people had these
>issues with "junk food," they didn't binge on stuff like that. It was all
>food.
> Now my older one seems obsessed with doing things other kids can't. Same
>thing happened when he found out other kids had bedtimes. He stopped going
>to bed when he was sleepy and started watching the clock. Anyone else have
>this happen?
>
>
>Pam T.

Yes! Liam still loves to go to bed when he gets sleepy, but he definitely
has changed his food habits around that issue. I figure that I just have
to stay the way I am and *not* change; I need to be a solid rock for him in
the shifting sands. Mostly, I must remember not to shame him or his
choices or his friends' choices or his friends' parents! I see him
starting to move through it already; last night, his preference for a snack
was tofu rather than Skittles!

Marji

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