susan

hi,

there is something else i want to say about 'adhd' . i don't know if this
will apply to you or even make sense. i've experienced, when stress is
really high or 'vibes' are really strong, that rene' gets pretty 'crazy.
for example right after christmas we went to a breeder to get a puppy.
when we were there rene's behavior progressively got worse. he got so bad
that by the time we were leaving he was having a full blow fit and crying,
literally, like an inconsolable infant (this is very uncommon for him, he's
just not big on crying even when injured).

he was screaming he didn't want the dog - it was really awful and if i
weren't beyond embarrassment:) i would have been. the really weird thing
was that 5 mins down the road he was so calm and said he was so happy we
got the dog and acted like nothing happened. later we found out that the
breeder was really crazy, just a very unstable and impossible person. i
think rene' got really overwhelmed just being around someone like that that
he had to get rid of the 'psychic goo' in the best way he knew how.

so what i think is that perhaps some kids just need to act in a way that
can be viewed as 'adhd' when what they are really doing is processing
emotions that are just plain overwhelming. so instead of letting these
emotion overtake them they just sort of purge them through physical means -
kind of a self-preservation mechanism. i have no idea if this is true.
it's just a sort of pattern i've noticed and i think it sort of makes
sense.

-susan
austin,tx

stormy1986@... wrote:

> I'm having a really hard time letting go right now. My 4 yr. old ADHD
> son is very bright, but some of his little friends who are in preschool
> are already reading little words and my boy just isn't interested in
> reading, writing, coloring, anything considered " quiet activities". I
> have this internal tug-of-war going on, going back and forth between
> wanting to try and make him participate in these "quiet" activities, or
> just letting him do his own thing. We do read books before bed, and he
> does enjoy that wind down period, but he'd really rather be jumping on
> the couch ! Am I just rushing things, feeling the pressure of societies
> expectations, or should I be trying to calm him down and get him
> interested in these things?Thanks, Sus
>

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In a message dated 3/3/00 12:17:20 AM Eastern Standard Time,
fxfireob@... writes:

<< i have no idea if this is true.
it's just a sort of pattern i've noticed and i think it sort of makes
sense. >>
I see this with my Emily so much. She is 11 and seems to be outgrowing some
of this, but sometimes social situations are overwhelming for her and she
loses control. She is recognizing now that she needs to remove herself from
the situation for a little while in order to calm down.

Marcie

Michelle Bennett

Have you ever read "Raising YOur Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka?
It is wonderful! It talks about behaviors very similar to that! Many
children are highly sensitive and react in similar ways to what you
described. This book describes both of my children.


Michelle


>From: susan <fxfireob@...>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] doubts/adhd
>Date: Thu, 02 Mar 2000 10:58:09 +0000
>
>hi,
>
>there is something else i want to say about 'adhd' . i don't know if this
>will apply to you or even make sense. i've experienced, when stress is
>really high or 'vibes' are really strong, that rene' gets pretty 'crazy.
>for example right after christmas we went to a breeder to get a puppy.
>when we were there rene's behavior progressively got worse. he got so bad
>that by the time we were leaving he was having a full blow fit and crying,
>literally, like an inconsolable infant (this is very uncommon for him, he's
>just not big on crying even when injured).
>
>he was screaming he didn't want the dog - it was really awful and if i
>weren't beyond embarrassment:) i would have been. the really weird thing
>was that 5 mins down the road he was so calm and said he was so happy we
>got the dog and acted like nothing happened. later we found out that the
>breeder was really crazy, just a very unstable and impossible person. i
>think rene' got really overwhelmed just being around someone like that that
>he had to get rid of the 'psychic goo' in the best way he knew how.
>
>so what i think is that perhaps some kids just need to act in a way that
>can be viewed as 'adhd' when what they are really doing is processing
>emotions that are just plain overwhelming. so instead of letting these
>emotion overtake them they just sort of purge them through physical means -
>kind of a self-preservation mechanism. i have no idea if this is true.
>it's just a sort of pattern i've noticed and i think it sort of makes
>sense.
>
>-susan
>austin,tx
>
>stormy1986@... wrote:
>
> > I'm having a really hard time letting go right now. My 4 yr. old ADHD
> > son is very bright, but some of his little friends who are in preschool
> > are already reading little words and my boy just isn't interested in
> > reading, writing, coloring, anything considered " quiet activities". I
> > have this internal tug-of-war going on, going back and forth between
> > wanting to try and make him participate in these "quiet" activities, or
> > just letting him do his own thing. We do read books before bed, and he
> > does enjoy that wind down period, but he'd really rather be jumping on
> > the couch ! Am I just rushing things, feeling the pressure of societies
> > expectations, or should I be trying to calm him down and get him
> > interested in these things?Thanks, Sus
> >
>

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