Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] socialization- the little on
Michelle Bennett
My soon-to-be 3 year old was the same way about not leaving my side or
letting me out of his sight. He began on his own to spread his wings a tiny
bit after the arrival of his baby brother at age two. Now, he is very
accepting of me leaving him with Dad for a WalMart run or a short period of
time to relax alone (is that possible?). The real problem is when we leave
them (which we may only do 2-3 times a year-and this is possibly the
problem) for a few hours with Grandparents. He becomes exceptionally moody
and clingy the next day after the "date night". I always feel awful! I
don't know if this helped any, but I've been there!
Michelle
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letting me out of his sight. He began on his own to spread his wings a tiny
bit after the arrival of his baby brother at age two. Now, he is very
accepting of me leaving him with Dad for a WalMart run or a short period of
time to relax alone (is that possible?). The real problem is when we leave
them (which we may only do 2-3 times a year-and this is possibly the
problem) for a few hours with Grandparents. He becomes exceptionally moody
and clingy the next day after the "date night". I always feel awful! I
don't know if this helped any, but I've been there!
Michelle
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>Date: Wed, 1 Mar 2000 16:35:46 EST
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>In a message dated 3/1/00 1:18:14 PM Pacific Standard Time,
>tn-k4of5@... writes:
>
><< I could not agree with you both more. I have my little ones at home and
>they are doing just great. I think it is so vitally important for them to
>form those bonds and relationships at home well and strongly before they
>are
>thrust out into the larger culture to fend for themselves in social
>situaitons. >>
>I agreee with you all about this and have no intention of putting my 16mo
>in
>Mommy's-day-out as people keep insisting I should. I will take her to mom
>and
>me in the park, but that's for me to meet moms, not for her to meet
>toddlers.
>Having said that, am I the only one who is sometimes overwhelmed by the
>strength of that bond? I rarely get a break, not even a shower by myself,
>unless she's sleeping. She will not stay with her dad and let me walk out
>of
>the room, although they're fine together if I can sneak out without letting
>her see me go. If she sees me leaving for a run,a shower, a nap or whatever
>she totally loses it. She has always been this way so it's not a separation
>anxiety phase. I really appreciate the chance to be home with her, because
>I
>couldn't with my older daughter when she was this age, but I would
>occasionally like to leave her with her dad and not have to sneak out of my
>own house.
>candice
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In a message dated 3/1/00 9:44:35 PM Eastern Standard Time,
shannoncc@... writes:
<< Oh, and I only take showers on weekends now when her dada plays with
her. During the week I lean over the tub and wash my hair. Yes, I'm
stinky, lol! But she does not like for me to shower. I think it scares
her. >>
Have u tried taking her in the shower with u??
shannoncc@... writes:
<< Oh, and I only take showers on weekends now when her dada plays with
her. During the week I lean over the tub and wash my hair. Yes, I'm
stinky, lol! But she does not like for me to shower. I think it scares
her. >>
Have u tried taking her in the shower with u??
Shannon CC
RocknMelody@... wrote:
doing now. I'm a SAHM, nowhere to go, nothing much to do, and it's still
cool out so I don't really need to shower often. But once summer hits,
we'll have to figure something out. Maybe I can at least take baths with
her in the big tub :-) (instead of her itty bitty baby tub).
Shannon, stinky mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
> << Oh, and I only take showers on weekends now when her dada plays withJust tried that once so far. She did NOT like it. I'm ok with what we're
> her. During the week I lean over the tub and wash my hair. Yes, I'm
> stinky, lol! But she does not like for me to shower. I think it scares
> her. >>
> Have u tried taking her in the shower with u??
doing now. I'm a SAHM, nowhere to go, nothing much to do, and it's still
cool out so I don't really need to shower often. But once summer hits,
we'll have to figure something out. Maybe I can at least take baths with
her in the big tub :-) (instead of her itty bitty baby tub).
Shannon, stinky mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
libbygirl
Hi Shannon,
Just a thought but I bought one of those hand-held gadget things for our
shower and placed bubs on the floor of the shower so she could control where
the water went!! I think the feeling of power as she sprayed Mom and the
dopey dog and the floor helped get her over her fear!!
Regards,
Michelle
Just a thought but I bought one of those hand-held gadget things for our
shower and placed bubs on the floor of the shower so she could control where
the water went!! I think the feeling of power as she sprayed Mom and the
dopey dog and the floor helped get her over her fear!!
Regards,
Michelle
Gayle Bechtel
Shannon
I always have to take my showers at night when
the kids are in bed. Otherwise my youngest (21mos now) would be in
the shower with me - running in and out. The older one(3 yrs) would just
sit and watch. So to keep the house dry I just end up taking a shower at
about 10pm.
Just an idea
Gayle
----- Original Message -----From: Shannon CCSent: Sunday, March 05, 2000 6:33 PMSubject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] socialization- the little onFrom: Shannon CC <shannoncc@...>
RocknMelody@... wrote:
> << Oh, and I only take showers on weekends now when her dada plays with
> her. During the week I lean over the tub and wash my hair. Yes, I'm
> stinky, lol! But she does not like for me to shower. I think it scares
> her. >>
> Have u tried taking her in the shower with u??
Just tried that once so far. She did NOT like it. I'm ok with what we're
doing now. I'm a SAHM, nowhere to go, nothing much to do, and it's still
cool out so I don't really need to shower often. But once summer hits,
we'll have to figure something out. Maybe I can at least take baths with
her in the big tub :-) (instead of her itty bitty baby tub).
Shannon, stinky mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
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Shannon CC
Funny, that post didn't copy when I hit reply?
Well, in response to Gayle who takes showers when the kids are in bed,
that won't work for me either. She sleeps with us :-) dd does not sleep
well on her own yet. If I leave her, she'll wake up, so I'm pretty
limited in that department too :-)
Shannon, mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
Well, in response to Gayle who takes showers when the kids are in bed,
that won't work for me either. She sleeps with us :-) dd does not sleep
well on her own yet. If I leave her, she'll wake up, so I'm pretty
limited in that department too :-)
Shannon, mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
Shannon CC
libbygirl wrote:
affectionately) called Dopey :-) He's on the big side. Dumb, big and
lovable.
We have one of those hand held things that goes over the faucet but it
keeps popping off. But that is a good idea. We could install a real one.
Except don't you get a pool on the bathroom floor? I'm trying to teach
Bridget that "water stays in the tub" but some days I wonder if I should
simply throw away the soggy floor mats and just let her dump water all
over the tiles. Of course dh wouldn't be amused when water started to
drip in the kitchen below, lol!
Shannon, Mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
> Hi Shannon,LOL! our dog, George, gets affectionately (and sometimes not so
> Just a thought but I bought one of those hand-held gadget things for our
> shower and placed bubs on the floor of the shower so she could control where
> the water went!! I think the feeling of power as she sprayed Mom and the
> dopey dog and the floor helped get her over her fear!!
> Regards,
> Michelle
affectionately) called Dopey :-) He's on the big side. Dumb, big and
lovable.
We have one of those hand held things that goes over the faucet but it
keeps popping off. But that is a good idea. We could install a real one.
Except don't you get a pool on the bathroom floor? I'm trying to teach
Bridget that "water stays in the tub" but some days I wonder if I should
simply throw away the soggy floor mats and just let her dump water all
over the tiles. Of course dh wouldn't be amused when water started to
drip in the kitchen below, lol!
Shannon, Mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall
>Well, in response to Gayle who takes showers when the kids are in bed,Well Shannon, I take showers during naptime, or when Daddy is home to watch the kids. As to taking your DD in the shower, kids always dislike it when they are not used to it. My littles shower with us all the time and have a lot of fun with it, but she will get used to it if you persist and take it nice and easy and make it fun. Sometimes I will see the kids safe in the adjoining room to the shower, close the door so they can't run off, and take a quick one with the bathroom door open so I can hear and see them. That's when I'm desperate for a shower and they are up and running and dad's not home. Also this is sometimes the case when one wants to go in with me and the other does not.
>that won't work for me either. She sleeps with us :-) dd does not sleep
>well on her own yet. If I leave her, she'll wake up, so I'm pretty
>limited in that department too :-)
>
>Shannon, mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
>
Nanci K.
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Nanci and Thomas Kuykendall
>We have one of those hand held things that goes over the faucet but itIf you jave a tub and shower, try getting a clear shower curtain so that she can see out and not feel so confined and get magnets to attach to the bottom of the shower curtain if you have a porcelain over metal tub to keep the curtain inside.
>keeps popping off. But that is a good idea. We could install a real one.
>Except don't you get a pool on the bathroom floor? I'm trying to teach
>Bridget that "water stays in the tub" but some days I wonder if I should
>simply throw away the soggy floor mats and just let her dump water all
>over the tiles. Of course dh wouldn't be amused when water started to
>drip in the kitchen below, lol!
>
>Shannon, Mom to Bridget (Oct.8.98)
Nanci K.
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