team players, award-giving
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In a message dated 5/8/03 10:34:19 AM, leschke@... writes:
<< Lars is like this. His team went to the Western Canadian Fastball
Championship a couple of years ago. They didn't get a medal, but Lars won
the MVP award. He didn't call to tell me about it. He didn't say anything
about it when he arrived home. (The other coach had come back a day early
and mentioned it to me.) I had to ask him about it. I also had to prompt
him to at least tell a few family members about it. And it was the same
reason. He's a team player. >>
Awards are given as gratitude, though, and if a coach doesn't express his
gratitude then he's a churlish guy and others will resent that. If a leader
of a volunteer project doesn't acknowledge the hardest-working volunteers
SOMEhow, and doesn't publicly thank the mom who brought the lunches and water
bottles, then he might well feel like he used a person and ended up taking
too much credit himself.
Thinking in terms of music, which I know better, a musical group (say ro
ck'n'roll band) is a team, but if one guy also wrote all the songs and did
the arranging, that HAS to be acknowledged by the others in some way
sometimes.
It's more than courtesy, it's integrity and humility.
If a child refuses an award out of humility, at another level he might be
robbing the coach of HIS chance to say "We didn't win because of my coaching,
we won because THIS kid is so inspiring to the others, and they worked harder
because HE worked so hard."
Sandra
<< Lars is like this. His team went to the Western Canadian Fastball
Championship a couple of years ago. They didn't get a medal, but Lars won
the MVP award. He didn't call to tell me about it. He didn't say anything
about it when he arrived home. (The other coach had come back a day early
and mentioned it to me.) I had to ask him about it. I also had to prompt
him to at least tell a few family members about it. And it was the same
reason. He's a team player. >>
Awards are given as gratitude, though, and if a coach doesn't express his
gratitude then he's a churlish guy and others will resent that. If a leader
of a volunteer project doesn't acknowledge the hardest-working volunteers
SOMEhow, and doesn't publicly thank the mom who brought the lunches and water
bottles, then he might well feel like he used a person and ended up taking
too much credit himself.
Thinking in terms of music, which I know better, a musical group (say ro
ck'n'roll band) is a team, but if one guy also wrote all the songs and did
the arranging, that HAS to be acknowledged by the others in some way
sometimes.
It's more than courtesy, it's integrity and humility.
If a child refuses an award out of humility, at another level he might be
robbing the coach of HIS chance to say "We didn't win because of my coaching,
we won because THIS kid is so inspiring to the others, and they worked harder
because HE worked so hard."
Sandra
Tia Leschke
>In this case, though, the award was given by the tournament director. The
> Awards are given as gratitude, though, and if a coach doesn't express his
> gratitude then he's a churlish guy and others will resent that.
coach is Dad, who hates singling out kids for awards and won't do it unless
he absolutely has to. Rod had no idea that Lars was going to get the award.
Tia
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