kids who need to win contests or games
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In a message dated 5/2/03 12:45:07 AM, torywalk@... writes:
<< I can't figure out if I should just keep allowing her to be in
situations where she has to deal with it, or if I should try to avoid
them if possible until she seems "older" or better able to deal with
them. >>
I would try to avoid them for the rest of her life.
It's part of what school features which just crushes the souls of some kids,
the incessant competition for grades, lining up first, sitting in the best
place in the bus or the cafeteria, having the nicest notebook or backpack,
being called on to do something interesting (if THAT happens to happen).
<<Making it into a contest and
creating a single winner and many losers just doesn't seem to be that
great of an idea to me. But it seems like I am in the
minority on that one. >>
Maybe you can bring that up at organizational meetings, say "Why are you
having a contest that declares X-1 LOSERS instead of having a cooperative
activity that will be X Winners?"
Sandra
<< I can't figure out if I should just keep allowing her to be in
situations where she has to deal with it, or if I should try to avoid
them if possible until she seems "older" or better able to deal with
them. >>
I would try to avoid them for the rest of her life.
It's part of what school features which just crushes the souls of some kids,
the incessant competition for grades, lining up first, sitting in the best
place in the bus or the cafeteria, having the nicest notebook or backpack,
being called on to do something interesting (if THAT happens to happen).
<<Making it into a contest and
creating a single winner and many losers just doesn't seem to be that
great of an idea to me. But it seems like I am in the
minority on that one. >>
Maybe you can bring that up at organizational meetings, say "Why are you
having a contest that declares X-1 LOSERS instead of having a cooperative
activity that will be X Winners?"
Sandra
Betjeman and Barton Tea Merchants
At our house we do "first winner" "second winner" "third winner" etc.
So if the 3 of us (mom, dad and 3 year old) are 'racing' everybody wins :-) If we find anyone else to race we would of course add on "fourth winner" etc No losers in our family.
Karen ( in CT)
So if the 3 of us (mom, dad and 3 year old) are 'racing' everybody wins :-) If we find anyone else to race we would of course add on "fourth winner" etc No losers in our family.
Karen ( in CT)
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From: SandraDodd@...
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Sent: Friday, May 02, 2003 10:40 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] kids who need to win contests or games
In a message dated 5/2/03 12:45:07 AM, torywalk@... writes:
<< I can't figure out if I should just keep allowing her to be in
situations where she has to deal with it, or if I should try to avoid
them if possible until she seems "older" or better able to deal with
them. >>
I would try to avoid them for the rest of her life.
It's part of what school features which just crushes the souls of some kids,
the incessant competition for grades, lining up first, sitting in the best
place in the bus or the cafeteria, having the nicest notebook or backpack,
being called on to do something interesting (if THAT happens to happen).
<<Making it into a contest and
creating a single winner and many losers just doesn't seem to be that
great of an idea to me. But it seems like I am in the
minority on that one. >>
Maybe you can bring that up at organizational meetings, say "Why are you
having a contest that declares X-1 LOSERS instead of having a cooperative
activity that will be X Winners?"
Sandra
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