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In a message dated 4/29/2003 10:53:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
sorcha-aisling@... writes:
only need is to please the people around me. I just spent a wonderful
weekend at a beautiful bed and breakfast because it was MY need, MY desire to
be pampered myself.
No one resented me for that. I have long bubble baths myself, not every
night but several times a week. Sometimes one of the children will come in
to sit and chat with me, sometimes not.
I read a lot. I crochet and knit layettes for infants who have passed so
that their parents have something beautiful to see them in for the first and
sometimes last time.
I also do other things with grieving parents and siblings. That is for me.
Lot of things are for me. But I still think it's important to make each of
my children feel special and loved and know that there is at least one person
in the world who thinks they are the most special person ever born. I want
them to know that I am grateful I am their mother and that they are precious
to me in every way.
I want them to feel like they've been wrapped in that cozy well worn quilt
and surrounded by a mothers arms and some days it's probably too warm to be
wrapped up in that quilt or they are just too busy and that's fine with me
too.
I think I might be angry if I didn't have other things that were done just
for me. I could see how one might become angry if they felt they HAD to do
any certain thing for their child and they had no life other than to please
others. I don't think that would be blessing anyone at all.
glena
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sorcha-aisling@... writes:
> You know what blesses everyone in my family (not just the mommy)?There's the thing, I do LOTS of things for me and I don't just pretend my
> Every evening, I take a book and go into the bathroom for an hour-
> long bubble bath. It's my luxury to enjoy hot water and bubbles,
> it's my pleasure to read, and it's the time for daddy and the boys to
> do whatever the heck they want without my interference. And it keeps
> me sane. Meeting other people's needs all day long and pretending
> that my only need is to please the people around me wouldn't be
> healthy for me, and it wouldn't be healthy for them.
>
only need is to please the people around me. I just spent a wonderful
weekend at a beautiful bed and breakfast because it was MY need, MY desire to
be pampered myself.
No one resented me for that. I have long bubble baths myself, not every
night but several times a week. Sometimes one of the children will come in
to sit and chat with me, sometimes not.
I read a lot. I crochet and knit layettes for infants who have passed so
that their parents have something beautiful to see them in for the first and
sometimes last time.
I also do other things with grieving parents and siblings. That is for me.
Lot of things are for me. But I still think it's important to make each of
my children feel special and loved and know that there is at least one person
in the world who thinks they are the most special person ever born. I want
them to know that I am grateful I am their mother and that they are precious
to me in every way.
I want them to feel like they've been wrapped in that cozy well worn quilt
and surrounded by a mothers arms and some days it's probably too warm to be
wrapped up in that quilt or they are just too busy and that's fine with me
too.
I think I might be angry if I didn't have other things that were done just
for me. I could see how one might become angry if they felt they HAD to do
any certain thing for their child and they had no life other than to please
others. I don't think that would be blessing anyone at all.
glena
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