homeschool4good

I just had to share what has happened! As most of you know, we have
had our son out of PS for about a year and since then he has had no
contact with any children. When I came to this list, we were having
him write to children online and pushing him to be around other
children. Since my first week here I took the plunge into unschooling
(thanks to many of you) and have read day and night, every day,
anything and everything I can about unschooling (and still do). I
threw out restrictions, bedtime, punishment even the therapist<g> all
at once. I have to say it was such a drastic change that it left my
husband and the dog confused! Our son really loves it. We laid off our
son about his fear & anger of children and our need for him to be
around or write to children. This past week he came to us on his own
and said, Mom, I was thinking I may like to have my friend Chris over,
do you think he'll come over even though I wouldn't let him before? I
said I didn't know, he could give him a call if he liked and I left
the room (holding my breath). When I came back he was just hanging up
the phone and said, he's coming over Thursday. When yesterday came,
you would think our son saw a ghost. He was so scared. He hasn't
played with another child in a year. His friend came and a bit after
our son was okay and he was so happy. I can't tell you the happiness I
felt watching my son run around outside in the sun with his friend,
laughing and just being a kid again. I can't tell you how choked up I
was after his friend left and he said to me, mom thanks for letting me
go about things in my own way, I love my old mom but I really love my
new mom. He invited another friend to come over today. Just thought
I'd share with the list that helped make that happen. Thanks

~Kim
Still trying to find a way with my words!

coyote's corner

You made me cry!!!
How wonderful!

Brianna & I are so happy for you and your son.

Janis

----- Original Message -----
From: homeschool4good
To: [email protected]
Sent: Friday, April 18, 2003 6:25 AM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Just Wanted To Share My Good News!


I just had to share what has happened! As most of you know, we have
had our son out of PS for about a year and since then he has had no
contact with any children. When I came to this list, we were having
him write to children online and pushing him to be around other
children. Since my first week here I took the plunge into unschooling
(thanks to many of you) and have read day and night, every day,
anything and everything I can about unschooling (and still do). I
threw out restrictions, bedtime, punishment even the therapist<g> all
at once. I have to say it was such a drastic change that it left my
husband and the dog confused! Our son really loves it. We laid off our
son about his fear & anger of children and our need for him to be
around or write to children. This past week he came to us on his own
and said, Mom, I was thinking I may like to have my friend Chris over,
do you think he'll come over even though I wouldn't let him before? I
said I didn't know, he could give him a call if he liked and I left
the room (holding my breath). When I came back he was just hanging up
the phone and said, he's coming over Thursday. When yesterday came,
you would think our son saw a ghost. He was so scared. He hasn't
played with another child in a year. His friend came and a bit after
our son was okay and he was so happy. I can't tell you the happiness I
felt watching my son run around outside in the sun with his friend,
laughing and just being a kid again. I can't tell you how choked up I
was after his friend left and he said to me, mom thanks for letting me
go about things in my own way, I love my old mom but I really love my
new mom. He invited another friend to come over today. Just thought
I'd share with the list that helped make that happen. Thanks

~Kim
Still trying to find a way with my words!


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Mary

<HOMESCHOOL4GOOD@...>

<<Just thought I'd share with the list that helped make that happen. >>


Kim I remember you speaking about your son and all that he had gone through
and was still going through. I'm so glad to hear that he's on his way in
finding what he wants and needs. Good for all of you.

Mary B

zenmomma2kids

>>I was after his friend left and he said to me, mom thanks for
letting me go about things in my own way, I love my old mom but I
really love my new mom.>>

I've got tears in my eyes! How wonderful for all of you, Kim.

Life is good.
~Mary

homeschool4good

Thank-you for those of you that chose to respond to me with such kind
words and I guess I'll thank those of you that chose to respond to me
off list with not so kind words. For me, what happened was a big deal.
Kim

Tia Leschke

> Thank-you for those of you that chose to respond to me with such kind
> words and I guess I'll thank those of you that chose to respond to me
> off list with not so kind words. For me, what happened was a big deal.

People really responded with unkind words? I thought it was a wonderful
post.
Tia

"They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary
saftety deserve neither liberty nor safety." Ben Franklin
leschke@...

Kelli Traaseth

I was thinking the same thing as Tia. It was wonderful. I even went back to read your original post to see if I had missed something!

Kelli
----- Original Message -----
From: Tia Leschke
To: [email protected]
Sent: Saturday, April 19, 2003 3:49 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Just Wanted To Share My Good News!





> Thank-you for those of you that chose to respond to me with such kind
> words and I guess I'll thank those of you that chose to respond to me
> off list with not so kind words. For me, what happened was a big deal.

People really responded with unkind words? I thought it was a wonderful
post.
Tia

"They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary
saftety deserve neither liberty nor safety." Ben Franklin
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zenmomma2kids

>> I was thinking the same thing as Tia. It was wonderful. I
even went back to read your original post to see if I had missed
something!>>

Me too. I still love the part where he said "thank you for letting me
learn at my own pace." Beautiful.

Life is good.
~Mary

homeschool4good

Yes, some chose to e-mail me off list to give me their views on
parenting and to slam me as to the parent I was. I don't feel I am a
bad parent. I was bought up in a strict family and the only way to
learn was to go to school and if you had any problems in school then
they just had to be dealt with. This is how I raised our son and I
wish that once I knew more about homeschooling that I would of just
did it instead of being scared. Yes, I will be forever sorry for what
happened to our child and yes, I know that I am to blame. I did not
leave him in school to be hurt, I love my son with all of my heart. I
don't feel I should be ashamed to post on this list when I have
finally been able to bond with my son again! To me, it is a big deal
because he is my son, the only child I'll ever be able to have in
life. Sorry, I upset people here with my language (which I didn't
feel
was that bad compared to some of the language I see others using),
sorry if I don't use such elegant words in my writting and I am not
so
very well educated, and sorry I am considered to be out of your click
because I am such a bad parent! Sorry I even said anything. Won't let
it happen again.
Kim
Not meant for everyone on the list please
Thanks Tia and Kelli for your wonderful comments
--- In [email protected], "Kelli Traaseth"
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> I was thinking the same thing as Tia. It was wonderful. I even
went back to read your original post to see if I had missed something!
>
> Kelli
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Tia Leschke
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: Saturday, April 19, 2003 3:49 PM
> Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Just Wanted To Share My Good
News!
>
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>
>
>
> > Thank-you for those of you that chose to respond to me with
such
kind
> > words and I guess I'll thank those of you that chose to respond
to me
> > off list with not so kind words. For me, what happened was a
big
deal.
>
> People really responded with unkind words? I thought it was a
wonderful
> post.
> Tia
>
> "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little
temporary
> saftety deserve neither liberty nor safety." Ben Franklin
> leschke@s...
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Fetteroll

Kim, I'm sorry you got negative emails off list.

Perhaps this will help you put it into perspective. The people who wrote to
off list don't feel confident enough to present their opinions with their
names attached in public. So they had to sneak off to whisper in your ear
where no one else would hear them or see them. If *they* don't feel
confident enough in what they believe, then their beliefs don't have much
meaning, do they?

There will always be people who disagree with the choices we've made. We
have no control over what they feel or believe. What's important is that we
do the best we can with what we know and believe at the time in order to be
true to *ourselves*.

And in the immortal words of Marty in Back to the Future: "What do I care
what they think? They're assholes!" :-)

Joyce

coyote's corner

That should be a bumpersticker.
"What do i care what they think?? They're assholes!"

Yup. I like it.

Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: Fetteroll
To: [email protected]
Sent: Sunday, April 27, 2003 9:03 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Just Wanted To Share My Good News!


Kim, I'm sorry you got negative emails off list.

Perhaps this will help you put it into perspective. The people who wrote to
off list don't feel confident enough to present their opinions with their
names attached in public. So they had to sneak off to whisper in your ear
where no one else would hear them or see them. If *they* don't feel
confident enough in what they believe, then their beliefs don't have much
meaning, do they?

There will always be people who disagree with the choices we've made. We
have no control over what they feel or believe. What's important is that we
do the best we can with what we know and believe at the time in order to be
true to *ourselves*.

And in the immortal words of Marty in Back to the Future: "What do I care
what they think? They're assholes!" :-)

Joyce


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Tammy

ooo I love that! Think we'll watch that movie again..

Tammy
(unschoolers: 41, 34, 9, 8, 5, 2)

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That should be a bumpersticker.
"What do i care what they think?? They're assholes!"

Yup. I like it.

Janis


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zenmomma2kids

>>Sorry, I upset people here with my language (which I didn't feel
was that bad compared to some of the language I see others using),
sorry if I don't use such elegant words in my writting and I am not
so very well educated, and sorry I am considered to be out of your
click because I am such a bad parent! Sorry I even said anything.
Won't let it happen again.>>

Well I'm sorry you've had such an usettling posting experience, Kim.
I thought your original post was a beautiful testament to your love
for your son and I thank you for sharing it. Please keep sharing.

Life is good.
~Mary, who has been known to use some colorful language. ;-)