Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Kids on the go/boredom
Kelli Traaseth
My kids want to stay home because they were always on the go when school or lots of activities were in the picture. My kids are 10, 8 and 5. Although my little one who has never been in school loves to go.
Also, have you read Sandra's piece on boredom? Right at her website, I think. It really hit a chord with me. I remember when I was little, I remember being bored. My mom telling me to go clean my room or that she'd find something for me. I wish she would have done something with me instead. Never played with me. Just another way to look at it.
Kelli
Also, have you read Sandra's piece on boredom? Right at her website, I think. It really hit a chord with me. I remember when I was little, I remember being bored. My mom telling me to go clean my room or that she'd find something for me. I wish she would have done something with me instead. Never played with me. Just another way to look at it.
Kelli
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It starts at the ages your boys are at. With mine it did.
My son would plan the night before where we would be
going the next day.
I had to put and end to it really fast, and the pouting
about being bored.
It wasn't easy on me putting my foot down.
My reponse to I'm bored, is you better find something to
do, or I will find you something to do.
You may want to promt them at bed time, and let them
know that you are staying home tomorrow so they are
forewarned.
The go, go, go is very addicting to kids, and I think kids need
to learn to entertain themselves when they are at home.
Linda
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averyschmidt
>I remember when I was little, I remember being bored. My momYes, I have read that article of Sandra's.
>telling me to go clean my room or that she'd find something for
>me. I wish she would have done something with me instead. Never
>played with me. Just another way to look at it.
My kids' boredom doesn't have anything to do with wanting to play
with *me*. I'd love nothing more than a cozy day at home with just
my kids playing games, baking, reading together, or whatever else
they wanted to do. They lately are only happy doing those things to
fill in the little bits of time we aren't running out the door- they
don't want to spend a whole day at home doing them.
My children have never been to school (only a little preschool for
the oldest) so they have had years and years of time spent at home
leisurely relaxing and doing what they want. At this point they
just want to be out in the world doing fun and exciting things with
their friends. I'm just finding it difficult keeping up with their
need for fast pace and excitement and GOING, and my need to not do
that every minute.
Patti
Kelli Traaseth
**My kids' boredom doesn't have anything to do with wanting to play
with *me*. **
I hope you know I didn't mean that you don't play with your kids or anything like that. I was just wanting to relate it to how I felt. And when my mom would suggest work, it didn't help me at all.
I also don't like to be on the go all the time, my youngest who has also never been to school loves to be going all the time.
Kelli
with *me*. **
I hope you know I didn't mean that you don't play with your kids or anything like that. I was just wanting to relate it to how I felt. And when my mom would suggest work, it didn't help me at all.
I also don't like to be on the go all the time, my youngest who has also never been to school loves to be going all the time.
Kelli
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From: averyschmidt
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Sent: Thursday, April 17, 2003 6:29 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: Kids on the go/boredom
>I remember when I was little, I remember being bored. My mom
>telling me to go clean my room or that she'd find something for
>me. I wish she would have done something with me instead. Never
>played with me. Just another way to look at it.
Yes, I have read that article of Sandra's.
I'd love nothing more than a cozy day at home with just
my kids playing games, baking, reading together, or whatever else
they wanted to do. They lately are only happy doing those things to
fill in the little bits of time we aren't running out the door- they
don't want to spend a whole day at home doing them.
My children have never been to school (only a little preschool for
the oldest) so they have had years and years of time spent at home
leisurely relaxing and doing what they want. At this point they
just want to be out in the world doing fun and exciting things with
their friends. I'm just finding it difficult keeping up with their
need for fast pace and excitement and GOING, and my need to not do
that every minute.
Patti
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Robin Clevenger
I can really relate to this issue. Both of my kids are extremely social and
extremely active. They love to be going, doing, inviting friends over,
riding bikes, going swimming, doing homeschool group activities, non-stop!
This is no surprise as both DH and I are extremely social and extremely
active and have always been that way.
I don't think that there's anything wrong with someone who likes to be
moving, doing something, going somewhere and isn't too fond of staying in
the same place. To me, it's largely a temperament issue, and while other
kids might be very happy to hang out at home and do something familiar, my
kids aren't. Accepting that is part of being a parent to my kids. On the
other hand, I know how exhausting it can be to be the parent to such a
person, even if I can totally empathize with their needs.
I've more or less resigned myself to the fact that our lives will be very,
very busy for the next few years. And that our house will be "the house"
where kids are always congregating. And very rare are the days when we just
stay at home the whole day. But then, my life wasn't like that before having
kids. If I had a day all to myself, I'd figure out someplace to go,
something to do, some new thing I wanted to try. So why expect my kids to be
any different? The best thing I can do is to facilitate, as best as I can,
their needs for motion, companionship, and new and exciting things to do,
see, learn. If it's not possible to meet those needs out of the house, I try
to figure out what's in the house that can help. If it's a rainy day, I
might pull the car out of the garage and they can ride bikes or skate or
draw with chalk on the garage floor. Something like that.
Blue Skies,
-Robin-
extremely active. They love to be going, doing, inviting friends over,
riding bikes, going swimming, doing homeschool group activities, non-stop!
This is no surprise as both DH and I are extremely social and extremely
active and have always been that way.
I don't think that there's anything wrong with someone who likes to be
moving, doing something, going somewhere and isn't too fond of staying in
the same place. To me, it's largely a temperament issue, and while other
kids might be very happy to hang out at home and do something familiar, my
kids aren't. Accepting that is part of being a parent to my kids. On the
other hand, I know how exhausting it can be to be the parent to such a
person, even if I can totally empathize with their needs.
I've more or less resigned myself to the fact that our lives will be very,
very busy for the next few years. And that our house will be "the house"
where kids are always congregating. And very rare are the days when we just
stay at home the whole day. But then, my life wasn't like that before having
kids. If I had a day all to myself, I'd figure out someplace to go,
something to do, some new thing I wanted to try. So why expect my kids to be
any different? The best thing I can do is to facilitate, as best as I can,
their needs for motion, companionship, and new and exciting things to do,
see, learn. If it's not possible to meet those needs out of the house, I try
to figure out what's in the house that can help. If it's a rainy day, I
might pull the car out of the garage and they can ride bikes or skate or
draw with chalk on the garage floor. Something like that.
Blue Skies,
-Robin-