"letting kids do whatever they want"
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<< They totally went around as if they could do what ever they wanted. And I
think it was because I had been letting them do what they wanted. >>
Holly was talking about a family she knows. The mom told the kids two weeks
ago "We're unschooling starting right now."
Holly, who is 11, said "Why would she have said that? Why didn't she just
not make them do their schoolwork that day and do something more interesting,
and just gradually change?"
My kids can do what they want to, within the bounds of living with other
people nicely. I'm coming not to appreciate the stories of people who tell
us "I just told my kids they never had a bedtime anymore" and then a week
later they come and say "I'm so exhausted because my kids don't go to bed!"
Or "I told them they could eat whatever they want from now on" and now
they're eaten themselves sick.
I'm thinking maybe if someone told her husband "I've decided you should have
sex with anyone you want now, and it really won't bother me a bit," he might
be gone for some part of the rest of that week. Suddenly offering the whole
world is going to cause someone whose been regimented some serious excitement.
But then if I were to describe it as "ease into it gradually" I'm imagining
some people would "ease" into it over a period of a couple of years, so
slowly they don't see any differences either.
If someone decided to water their yard less, "don't water at all" is too much
on the "less" side (if they live in the desert).
I don't know the answer, and probably it will be different for different
people. Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on their own,
but want a little set of directions. I think they won't be able to unschool
very well, unless someone keeps giving them specific directions over the
years.
Sandra
think it was because I had been letting them do what they wanted. >>
Holly was talking about a family she knows. The mom told the kids two weeks
ago "We're unschooling starting right now."
Holly, who is 11, said "Why would she have said that? Why didn't she just
not make them do their schoolwork that day and do something more interesting,
and just gradually change?"
My kids can do what they want to, within the bounds of living with other
people nicely. I'm coming not to appreciate the stories of people who tell
us "I just told my kids they never had a bedtime anymore" and then a week
later they come and say "I'm so exhausted because my kids don't go to bed!"
Or "I told them they could eat whatever they want from now on" and now
they're eaten themselves sick.
I'm thinking maybe if someone told her husband "I've decided you should have
sex with anyone you want now, and it really won't bother me a bit," he might
be gone for some part of the rest of that week. Suddenly offering the whole
world is going to cause someone whose been regimented some serious excitement.
But then if I were to describe it as "ease into it gradually" I'm imagining
some people would "ease" into it over a period of a couple of years, so
slowly they don't see any differences either.
If someone decided to water their yard less, "don't water at all" is too much
on the "less" side (if they live in the desert).
I don't know the answer, and probably it will be different for different
people. Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on their own,
but want a little set of directions. I think they won't be able to unschool
very well, unless someone keeps giving them specific directions over the
years.
Sandra
zenmomma2kids
>>Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on theirown, but want a little set of directions.>>
When I was out one day a few weeks ago, I came back to find Casey
finishing up a book she had written. She uses the word homeschooling,
but I think unschooling works even better.
"How to be a Homeschooler in Six Easy Steps" by Casey Gold
Step 1: Get one of your parents to quit his or her job to stay home.
Step 2: Ask your Mom or Dad if he or she can try teaching you at home
for a day.
Step 3: If your Mom or Dad liked teaching you at home ask if he or
she can do it again, but this time only do the subjects you like.
Step 4: Ask to do it again. But this time ask to do it with no
subjects at all.
Step 5: Now find some homeschooler friends and have fun playing with
them.
Step 6: Great! Now you're a homeschooler. Go have fun playing with
your friends. Do what ever you want to.
The End
Please note that this 9 year old who ends her book "Do what ever you
want to" chose to spend her time writing a book. She used the
dictionary to look up spellings (a new idea for her) and even had
illustrations for each step. In an unschooling family, "Do what ever
you want to" does not mean run wild and never learn anything. It is a
very positive experience.
Life is good.
~Mary
"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
coyote's corner
YES!!!
Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
She writing about Dream Dogs now.
Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
How wonderful these kids are!!
Janis
Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
She writing about Dream Dogs now.
Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
How wonderful these kids are!!
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: zenmomma2kids
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2003 8:05 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
>>Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on their
own, but want a little set of directions.>>
When I was out one day a few weeks ago, I came back to find Casey
finishing up a book she had written. She uses the word homeschooling,
but I think unschooling works even better.
"How to be a Homeschooler in Six Easy Steps" by Casey Gold
Step 1: Get one of your parents to quit his or her job to stay home.
Step 2: Ask your Mom or Dad if he or she can try teaching you at home
for a day.
Step 3: If your Mom or Dad liked teaching you at home ask if he or
she can do it again, but this time only do the subjects you like.
Step 4: Ask to do it again. But this time ask to do it with no
subjects at all.
Step 5: Now find some homeschooler friends and have fun playing with
them.
Step 6: Great! Now you're a homeschooler. Go have fun playing with
your friends. Do what ever you want to.
The End
Please note that this 9 year old who ends her book "Do what ever you
want to" chose to spend her time writing a book. She used the
dictionary to look up spellings (a new idea for her) and even had
illustrations for each step. In an unschooling family, "Do what ever
you want to" does not mean run wild and never learn anything. It is a
very positive experience.
Life is good.
~Mary
"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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In a message dated 4/16/2003 10:13:43 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
jana@... writes:
~Kelly
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jana@... writes:
> YES!!!Keep it OFF-line, and have it published! <G>
> Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful
> story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
> She writing about Dream Dogs now.
>
> Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
~Kelly
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coyote's corner
When i wrote "put it on line" - I meant writings by all the kids that wanted it there!
Janis
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: coyote's corner
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 10:06 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
YES!!!
Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
She writing about Dream Dogs now.
Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
How wonderful these kids are!!
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: zenmomma2kids
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2003 8:05 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
>>Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on their
own, but want a little set of directions.>>
When I was out one day a few weeks ago, I came back to find Casey
finishing up a book she had written. She uses the word homeschooling,
but I think unschooling works even better.
"How to be a Homeschooler in Six Easy Steps" by Casey Gold
Step 1: Get one of your parents to quit his or her job to stay home.
Step 2: Ask your Mom or Dad if he or she can try teaching you at home
for a day.
Step 3: If your Mom or Dad liked teaching you at home ask if he or
she can do it again, but this time only do the subjects you like.
Step 4: Ask to do it again. But this time ask to do it with no
subjects at all.
Step 5: Now find some homeschooler friends and have fun playing with
them.
Step 6: Great! Now you're a homeschooler. Go have fun playing with
your friends. Do what ever you want to.
The End
Please note that this 9 year old who ends her book "Do what ever you
want to" chose to spend her time writing a book. She used the
dictionary to look up spellings (a new idea for her) and even had
illustrations for each step. In an unschooling family, "Do what ever
you want to" does not mean run wild and never learn anything. It is a
very positive experience.
Life is good.
~Mary
"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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coyote's corner
yes....
We can do this.
Janis
We can do this.
Janis
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From: kbcdlovejo@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 10:22 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
In a message dated 4/16/2003 10:13:43 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
jana@... writes:
> YES!!!
> Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful
> story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
> She writing about Dream Dogs now.
>
> Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
Keep it OFF-line, and have it published! <G>
~Kelly
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zenmomma2kids
> YES!!!beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power
> Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a
to see magic!!
> She writing about Dream Dogs now.Hey Janis. Would Brianna like to share stories with Casey? Casey
would LOVE to see what other kids are writing. She can send them to
zenmomma@... and I'll get them to Casey.
Life is good.
~Mary
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In a message dated 4/16/03 8:13:47 AM, jana@... writes:
<< Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe??? >>
I already asked her. ,g>
<< Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe??? >>
I already asked her. ,g>
coyote's corner
What a great idea!!
I'll speak w/ her about it when she wakes up. She had a very hard night. We were at the ER due to a bruised tail bone. She's in quite a bit of pain.
I really love the idea!!
Janis
I'll speak w/ her about it when she wakes up. She had a very hard night. We were at the ER due to a bruised tail bone. She's in quite a bit of pain.
I really love the idea!!
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: zenmomma2kids
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 12:22 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
> YES!!!
> Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a
beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power
to see magic!!
> She writing about Dream Dogs now.
Hey Janis. Would Brianna like to share stories with Casey? Casey
would LOVE to see what other kids are writing. She can send them to
zenmomma@... and I'll get them to Casey.
Life is good.
~Mary
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http://sandradodd.com/casey
<A HREF="http://Sandradodd.com/casey">How To Be a Homeschooler in Six Easy
Steps</A>
Casey's little book, online.
I hope some of you will go and see it, mostly to go see it, but partly to see
if the counter works.
Thanks.
It might eventually have a different appearance, but the words are there!
Tadaaa!
Thanks, Casey for writing it, and Mary for sharing it!
Sandra
<A HREF="http://Sandradodd.com/casey">How To Be a Homeschooler in Six Easy
Steps</A>
Casey's little book, online.
I hope some of you will go and see it, mostly to go see it, but partly to see
if the counter works.
Thanks.
It might eventually have a different appearance, but the words are there!
Tadaaa!
Thanks, Casey for writing it, and Mary for sharing it!
Sandra
Vicki A. Dennis
Illustrations. I want the illustrations :-(
Surely some way to scan them in or something.
Vicki--the non-geek with computers
Surely some way to scan them in or something.
Vicki--the non-geek with computers
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From: SandraDodd@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 2:46 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
http://sandradodd.com/casey
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regina hogan
hi, i have a 14 year old that has been writting awhile on a book,he writes alot of things i feel he would like to share with other,so if someone does get asite going to display these unschoolers writtings he and i would participate in it.actually i have spoken with several publishers about publishing his writtings,its just very hard to get started,i think its a get idea,and would help out in any way i could.
coyote's corner <jana@...> wrote:When i wrote "put it on line" - I meant writings by all the kids that wanted it there!
Janis
coyote's corner <jana@...> wrote:When i wrote "put it on line" - I meant writings by all the kids that wanted it there!
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: coyote's corner
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 16, 2003 10:06 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
YES!!!
Is there a book of writings by unschoolers?? Brianna wrote a beautiful story about a unicorn that gave 10 y.o. Rebecca the power to see magic!!
She writing about Dream Dogs now.
Hmmmm.......we could put it on line, maybe???
How wonderful these kids are!!
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: zenmomma2kids
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2003 8:05 PM
Subject: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: "letting kids do whatever they want"
>>Some seem really not to be able to process these ideas on their
own, but want a little set of directions.>>
When I was out one day a few weeks ago, I came back to find Casey
finishing up a book she had written. She uses the word homeschooling,
but I think unschooling works even better.
"How to be a Homeschooler in Six Easy Steps" by Casey Gold
Step 1: Get one of your parents to quit his or her job to stay home.
Step 2: Ask your Mom or Dad if he or she can try teaching you at home
for a day.
Step 3: If your Mom or Dad liked teaching you at home ask if he or
she can do it again, but this time only do the subjects you like.
Step 4: Ask to do it again. But this time ask to do it with no
subjects at all.
Step 5: Now find some homeschooler friends and have fun playing with
them.
Step 6: Great! Now you're a homeschooler. Go have fun playing with
your friends. Do what ever you want to.
The End
Please note that this 9 year old who ends her book "Do what ever you
want to" chose to spend her time writing a book. She used the
dictionary to look up spellings (a new idea for her) and even had
illustrations for each step. In an unschooling family, "Do what ever
you want to" does not mean run wild and never learn anything. It is a
very positive experience.
Life is good.
~Mary
"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the
green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly
alive."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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zenmomma2kids
>> Casey's little book, online.>>I just showed it to her. Very cool! Thanks, Sandra.
Life is good.
~Mary
zenmomma2kids
>>> Illustrations. I want the illustrations :-(>>We're working on it. A photo of Casey too. :o)
Life is good.
~Mary
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In a message dated 4/16/03 3:51:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
Pam G.
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> I hope some of you will go and see it, mostly to go see it, but partly toIt looks great on the web page.
> see
> if the counter works.
>
>
Pam G.
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