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Have a Nice Day!
My son, my husband, and I all sat down and talked together about some of the issues we had.
We came up with something we think we can all live with in the way of expectations and responsibility when out and about. (I know I"m being somewhat vague here, but I prefer not to get into the details).
Hubby did not get into a shouting match with son, instead, waiting for me so we could calmly handle it together. Son did not dismiss hubby. (This shouting/dismissing has been an ongoing struggle).
We also discussed the sleep issue we were having (hubby thinks kids should be in bed earlier because he worries what they might be doing without any supervision). I pointed out that I am also usually up very late, and that they usually go to bed soon after I do. I also pointed out that I'd rather they be asleep in the mornings when I'm sleeping the most soundly.
We agreed that it really is not an issue unless ds gets a job and then skips work because he doesn't want to get up and go (something which has never happened anyway when ds has had a job).
Hubby feels like we are all having fun all day at his expense. We asked for a list of things he needs to get done so that we can help him out while we are at home...since we *do* get to stay up as late as we want and we *do* get to sleep as late as we want and we *do* get to have as much or as little fun as we want every day while he is working all day.
AND, hubby and I had a frank discussion about "unschooling" and this time I used the term. We talked about the difference between that and homeschooling. We talked about why I think its a good idea. We talked about what it means in terms of "keeping up with the school kids"...and I asked him if he could be comfortable with it.
He thinks he can.
We are finally parenting as a team AND unschooling too.
Life is GRAND
Kristen
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Today is even more important than tomorrow because "today" is a gift, and "tomorrow" might never come.
Today is where hope lives because today is when we can make things better than yesterday.
The only thing we can be sure of is today and life isn't worth living if it isn't lived in joy for as many moments of today as we can manage.
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We came up with something we think we can all live with in the way of expectations and responsibility when out and about. (I know I"m being somewhat vague here, but I prefer not to get into the details).
Hubby did not get into a shouting match with son, instead, waiting for me so we could calmly handle it together. Son did not dismiss hubby. (This shouting/dismissing has been an ongoing struggle).
We also discussed the sleep issue we were having (hubby thinks kids should be in bed earlier because he worries what they might be doing without any supervision). I pointed out that I am also usually up very late, and that they usually go to bed soon after I do. I also pointed out that I'd rather they be asleep in the mornings when I'm sleeping the most soundly.
We agreed that it really is not an issue unless ds gets a job and then skips work because he doesn't want to get up and go (something which has never happened anyway when ds has had a job).
Hubby feels like we are all having fun all day at his expense. We asked for a list of things he needs to get done so that we can help him out while we are at home...since we *do* get to stay up as late as we want and we *do* get to sleep as late as we want and we *do* get to have as much or as little fun as we want every day while he is working all day.
AND, hubby and I had a frank discussion about "unschooling" and this time I used the term. We talked about the difference between that and homeschooling. We talked about why I think its a good idea. We talked about what it means in terms of "keeping up with the school kids"...and I asked him if he could be comfortable with it.
He thinks he can.
We are finally parenting as a team AND unschooling too.
Life is GRAND
Kristen
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Today is even more important than tomorrow because "today" is a gift, and "tomorrow" might never come.
Today is where hope lives because today is when we can make things better than yesterday.
The only thing we can be sure of is today and life isn't worth living if it isn't lived in joy for as many moments of today as we can manage.
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Sounds good Kristen! There will be bumps, probably, but good luck with the
transitioning!
Sweet dreams!
Sandra
transitioning!
Sweet dreams!
Sandra
regina hogan
kristen, have you been looking through my windows and watching my family,,lol,,you just totally and i mean totally described what i went through with my husband and our 4 sons a few months back.i know that feeling.thank god we also came to a time that we sat and was able to talk it out not yell at each other and get no place.it does make life much easier for all once you can work as a team rather than him feeling like its mom and kids reverses dad..i am glad to hear you are a team now,,hang in there,and i am glad to know it was not just me that went through this also,,lol.
Have a Nice Day! <litlrooh@...> wrote:My son, my husband, and I all sat down and talked together about some of the issues we had.
We came up with something we think we can all live with in the way of expectations and responsibility when out and about. (I know I"m being somewhat vague here, but I prefer not to get into the details).
Hubby did not get into a shouting match with son, instead, waiting for me so we could calmly handle it together. Son did not dismiss hubby. (This shouting/dismissing has been an ongoing struggle).
We also discussed the sleep issue we were having (hubby thinks kids should be in bed earlier because he worries what they might be doing without any supervision). I pointed out that I am also usually up very late, and that they usually go to bed soon after I do. I also pointed out that I'd rather they be asleep in the mornings when I'm sleeping the most soundly.
We agreed that it really is not an issue unless ds gets a job and then skips work because he doesn't want to get up and go (something which has never happened anyway when ds has had a job).
Hubby feels like we are all having fun all day at his expense. We asked for a list of things he needs to get done so that we can help him out while we are at home...since we *do* get to stay up as late as we want and we *do* get to sleep as late as we want and we *do* get to have as much or as little fun as we want every day while he is working all day.
AND, hubby and I had a frank discussion about "unschooling" and this time I used the term. We talked about the difference between that and homeschooling. We talked about why I think its a good idea. We talked about what it means in terms of "keeping up with the school kids"...and I asked him if he could be comfortable with it.
He thinks he can.
We are finally parenting as a team AND unschooling too.
Life is GRAND
Kristen
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Today is even more important than tomorrow because "today" is a gift, and "tomorrow" might never come.
Today is where hope lives because today is when we can make things better than yesterday.
The only thing we can be sure of is today and life isn't worth living if it isn't lived in joy for as many moments of today as we can manage.
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Have a Nice Day! <litlrooh@...> wrote:My son, my husband, and I all sat down and talked together about some of the issues we had.
We came up with something we think we can all live with in the way of expectations and responsibility when out and about. (I know I"m being somewhat vague here, but I prefer not to get into the details).
Hubby did not get into a shouting match with son, instead, waiting for me so we could calmly handle it together. Son did not dismiss hubby. (This shouting/dismissing has been an ongoing struggle).
We also discussed the sleep issue we were having (hubby thinks kids should be in bed earlier because he worries what they might be doing without any supervision). I pointed out that I am also usually up very late, and that they usually go to bed soon after I do. I also pointed out that I'd rather they be asleep in the mornings when I'm sleeping the most soundly.
We agreed that it really is not an issue unless ds gets a job and then skips work because he doesn't want to get up and go (something which has never happened anyway when ds has had a job).
Hubby feels like we are all having fun all day at his expense. We asked for a list of things he needs to get done so that we can help him out while we are at home...since we *do* get to stay up as late as we want and we *do* get to sleep as late as we want and we *do* get to have as much or as little fun as we want every day while he is working all day.
AND, hubby and I had a frank discussion about "unschooling" and this time I used the term. We talked about the difference between that and homeschooling. We talked about why I think its a good idea. We talked about what it means in terms of "keeping up with the school kids"...and I asked him if he could be comfortable with it.
He thinks he can.
We are finally parenting as a team AND unschooling too.
Life is GRAND
Kristen
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Today is even more important than tomorrow because "today" is a gift, and "tomorrow" might never come.
Today is where hope lives because today is when we can make things better than yesterday.
The only thing we can be sure of is today and life isn't worth living if it isn't lived in joy for as many moments of today as we can manage.
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