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This was Ned's response on teh other list. I thought it was good enough to
post here too:

You write,
> I would prefer not having regrets when it is all done<

What you probably want "when it is all done" is to have the love, trust, and
respect of your children. One sure way to put that in jeopardy is to become
some sort of schoolteacher to them. It changes your role from loving,
reassuring, nurturing to judge, jury and taskmaster. You have enough to do
just being a good parent. Answer their questions, but don't decide what they
need to think about or do.

The big thing is trust. Tell them that you trust them. Mean it. Do it. They
will always love you for that. If you don't have trust, you will definitely
regret it. It starts now. You have to earn it every day.


Above by Ned