Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] unschooling &household chores
Mike Webber
On the other hand. I find that involving my kids on a as desired basis in cooking and cleaning helps immensely in many ways. First I don't worry if I have to stay in bed sick I know my kids even at 7 & under can make some sort of meal for themselves. Don't laugh but I know homes where this just isn't the case.
My 7yo loves making scrambled eggs and setting up breakfast for us late risers. This is something I was never allowed to do as a kids...Mom did the cooking period. Of course you have to be willing to get a bit messy and things don't go as fast when you do them with kids but isn't that part of learning.
I think she has gained a lot from the independance and trust we "give" her by allowing her to do this cooking by herself. I guess in the big picture it does show her life skills for the future but I am more concerned for what it does for her in the present. I think it is much like my view of a lot of this parenting thing if you do it in little bits all the time it is no big deal.
Marla, not dreading the big sex talk cause there never will be one and not dreading thinking my kids will have to live on KD in University till they figure out the directions on the oven.
It really isn't that hard to learn to do laundry. I managed to navigate the
laundry detergent buying days!
If I died tomorrow, I really don't think that laundry would never be done
again. Either Ben would take over, Cameron would, or Duncan would. Or they'd
all pitch in together. They might hire someone to come in to do laundry once
a week or take it all to the cleaners. They can all do laundry now; they'd
just rather that I do it.
Same with cooking. I do most of it. Everyone can and does occasionally. If I
died tomorrow, their options would be to go out to eat, hire a cook, used
prepackaged junk, or to get the cookbooks out and experiment.
To think that I would force "lessons" on them so that they would be able to
do it later (and we all know that "later" might not come) is ridiculous.
It might make sense if my world revolved around school and a school-like
world, but it doesn't. We're living real life NOW---"as if school didn't
exist". And the boys will learn what they need to WHEN they need to . I am
ALWAYS available to answer questions and to help work out solutions, even
when they're forty.
~Kelly
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My 7yo loves making scrambled eggs and setting up breakfast for us late risers. This is something I was never allowed to do as a kids...Mom did the cooking period. Of course you have to be willing to get a bit messy and things don't go as fast when you do them with kids but isn't that part of learning.
I think she has gained a lot from the independance and trust we "give" her by allowing her to do this cooking by herself. I guess in the big picture it does show her life skills for the future but I am more concerned for what it does for her in the present. I think it is much like my view of a lot of this parenting thing if you do it in little bits all the time it is no big deal.
Marla, not dreading the big sex talk cause there never will be one and not dreading thinking my kids will have to live on KD in University till they figure out the directions on the oven.
It really isn't that hard to learn to do laundry. I managed to navigate the
> Laundromat in my 20's, There are DIRECTIONS on the back of every box of Tide or Gain or Cheer. NOTjust the first box you buy---but EVERY single one, for the rest of your
laundry detergent buying days!
If I died tomorrow, I really don't think that laundry would never be done
again. Either Ben would take over, Cameron would, or Duncan would. Or they'd
all pitch in together. They might hire someone to come in to do laundry once
a week or take it all to the cleaners. They can all do laundry now; they'd
just rather that I do it.
Same with cooking. I do most of it. Everyone can and does occasionally. If I
died tomorrow, their options would be to go out to eat, hire a cook, used
prepackaged junk, or to get the cookbooks out and experiment.
To think that I would force "lessons" on them so that they would be able to
do it later (and we all know that "later" might not come) is ridiculous.
It might make sense if my world revolved around school and a school-like
world, but it doesn't. We're living real life NOW---"as if school didn't
exist". And the boys will learn what they need to WHEN they need to . I am
ALWAYS available to answer questions and to help work out solutions, even
when they're forty.
~Kelly
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Mary Bianco
>From: Mike Webber <mwebber@...><<On the other hand. I find that involving my kids on a as desired basis in
cooking and cleaning helps immensely in many ways. First I don't worry if I
have to stay in bed sick I know my kids even at 7 & under can make some sort
of meal for themselves. Don't laugh but I know homes where this just isn't
the case.>>
I'm not laughing, my kids at 7 and 8 don't cook for themselves. I guess they
would grab something out of the pantry but as it is, they always ask even
for that stuff. I guess cause I usually get it for them. Not sure they would
even know what to do with the toaster. It's never been forbidden, just not
an interest to them. Definitely not something I feel like they should know
now.
Mary B
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Angela
My kids at ages 6 and 8 have no interest in getting themselves something to
eat either. It's not forbidden here, in fact I often encourage them to get
things for themselves. They just don't want to so I do it. They do like to
help me bake and they like play wtih food by mixing together all kinds of
food until it's indedible. I don't sweat it. I never cooked till I was on
my own and I enjoy it and I am pretty good at it. ;0)
As long as we are on the subject, I am one of those gals who didn't have any
chores growing up and I am quite capable in the chores department. I never
did laundry before I was on my own, cooked, cleaned a toilet, washed a
floor, etc. It wasn't hard to learn. I think my girls will fair fine when
the time comes. They know they can do anything they set their mind to.
Angela in Maine- mailto:unschooling@...
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Emerson
Mary B wrote:
I'm not laughing, my kids at 7 and 8 don't cook for themselves. I guess they
would grab something out of the pantry but as it is, they always ask even
for that stuff. I guess cause I usually get it for them. Not sure they would
even know what to do with the toaster. It's never been forbidden, just not
an interest to them. Definitely not something I feel like they should know
now.
Mary B
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eat either. It's not forbidden here, in fact I often encourage them to get
things for themselves. They just don't want to so I do it. They do like to
help me bake and they like play wtih food by mixing together all kinds of
food until it's indedible. I don't sweat it. I never cooked till I was on
my own and I enjoy it and I am pretty good at it. ;0)
As long as we are on the subject, I am one of those gals who didn't have any
chores growing up and I am quite capable in the chores department. I never
did laundry before I was on my own, cooked, cleaned a toilet, washed a
floor, etc. It wasn't hard to learn. I think my girls will fair fine when
the time comes. They know they can do anything they set their mind to.
Angela in Maine- mailto:unschooling@...
http://userpages.prexar.com/rickshaw/
"What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say."
Emerson
Mary B wrote:
I'm not laughing, my kids at 7 and 8 don't cook for themselves. I guess they
would grab something out of the pantry but as it is, they always ask even
for that stuff. I guess cause I usually get it for them. Not sure they would
even know what to do with the toaster. It's never been forbidden, just not
an interest to them. Definitely not something I feel like they should know
now.
Mary B
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Mike Webber
Well maybe I'm in the minority but dd has always loved snack time. Mostly because mucking is at her core but also she likes being in control of something and creating. She has dragged her brother to tea parties since he was 1 yo. Now they have snacks on the floor picninc style or set up in a cafe style complete with menus or simply in various bring along containers that their "imaginary friends' can enjoy along with their games. Whatever the format though there are far too many snack times around here that I have "nothing" to do with (except the cleaning afterwards lol) than I can count. If I ever need a break I simply make sure the fridge is stcked with fruits and cheese, my kids can find their way to making a day long activity out of snack time.
Marla
Marla
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From: Angela
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Subject: RE: [Unschooling-dotcom] unschooling &household chores
My kids at ages 6 and 8 have no interest in getting themselves something to
eat either. It's not forbidden here, in fact I often encourage them to get
things for themselves. They just don't want to so I do it. They do like to
help me bake and they like play wtih food by mixing together all kinds of
food until it's indedible. I don't sweat it. I never cooked till I was on
my own and I enjoy it and I am pretty good at it. ;0)
As long as we are on the subject, I am one of those gals who didn't have any
chores growing up and I am quite capable in the chores department. I never
did laundry before I was on my own, cooked, cleaned a toilet, washed a
floor, etc. It wasn't hard to learn. I think my girls will fair fine when
the time comes. They know they can do anything they set their mind to.
Angela in Maine- mailto:unschooling@...
http://userpages.prexar.com/rickshaw/
"What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say."
Emerson
Mary B wrote:
I'm not laughing, my kids at 7 and 8 don't cook for themselves. I guess they
would grab something out of the pantry but as it is, they always ask even
for that stuff. I guess cause I usually get it for them. Not sure they would
even know what to do with the toaster. It's never been forbidden, just not
an interest to them. Definitely not something I feel like they should know
now.
Mary B
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