kids not helping and Moms losing it
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In a message dated 3/4/03 8:43:50 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
<<
Ren, did you ask the kids why things went the way they did when their
friends
were there? >>
I think it was really my fault.
It really got me pissed off at the time, but like most scenarios, I see where
I was to blame once I back away and get some perspective.
I was totally relaxed the whole time the friends were over. This is another
unschooling family so the kids are absolutely awesome and very close to my
kids.
I fixed them food and brought it to them while they played video games. They
all crashed in the living room at various times (mostly in the early morning:)
I don't stress about mess when kids are hanging out, it's just more fun to
hang out and play.
So after they went home, my kids were exhausted. They were totally,
completely wiped out. So cleaning up after themselves to any degree was not a
priority of course.
I did recognize some of that at the time because I remember saying "I didn't
choose to ignore my sleep needs!!"
They love these friends so much that they do this everytime they get
together. They just love their time and don't want to waste it sleeping. They
see each other weekly most of the time...we'd spent the day at a Renaissance
festival just the day before, but when ya really like someone, I guess sleep
is NOT the priority at all.
So my relaxed state in the midst of mess only lasts so long. And I just
wasn't clear enough about warning them that I was starting to get
stressed...it just built up.
I need to give very clear information before I get stressed, as someone said
before.
They were simply exhausted and wanted to be waited on a bit. And I was
exhausted too and didn't want to help anyone anymore.
Bad timing, tired people, Mom with too much going on....it all led up to a
rough couple of days. But I have to look at the big picture and the happy
household that we have most days. Blow ups were WAY more common before I
learned to apply unschooling philosophies to other areas of life.
Now they seem to be the exception, and every time I learn a bit more about
myself and how I can do better.
Ren
"The sun is shining--the sun is shining. That is the magic. The flowers are
growing--the roots are stirring. That is the magic. Being alive is the
magic--being strong is the magic The magic is in me--the magic is in
me....It's in every one of us."
----Frances Hodgson Burnett
[email protected] writes:
<<
Ren, did you ask the kids why things went the way they did when their
friends
were there? >>
I think it was really my fault.
It really got me pissed off at the time, but like most scenarios, I see where
I was to blame once I back away and get some perspective.
I was totally relaxed the whole time the friends were over. This is another
unschooling family so the kids are absolutely awesome and very close to my
kids.
I fixed them food and brought it to them while they played video games. They
all crashed in the living room at various times (mostly in the early morning:)
I don't stress about mess when kids are hanging out, it's just more fun to
hang out and play.
So after they went home, my kids were exhausted. They were totally,
completely wiped out. So cleaning up after themselves to any degree was not a
priority of course.
I did recognize some of that at the time because I remember saying "I didn't
choose to ignore my sleep needs!!"
They love these friends so much that they do this everytime they get
together. They just love their time and don't want to waste it sleeping. They
see each other weekly most of the time...we'd spent the day at a Renaissance
festival just the day before, but when ya really like someone, I guess sleep
is NOT the priority at all.
So my relaxed state in the midst of mess only lasts so long. And I just
wasn't clear enough about warning them that I was starting to get
stressed...it just built up.
I need to give very clear information before I get stressed, as someone said
before.
They were simply exhausted and wanted to be waited on a bit. And I was
exhausted too and didn't want to help anyone anymore.
Bad timing, tired people, Mom with too much going on....it all led up to a
rough couple of days. But I have to look at the big picture and the happy
household that we have most days. Blow ups were WAY more common before I
learned to apply unschooling philosophies to other areas of life.
Now they seem to be the exception, and every time I learn a bit more about
myself and how I can do better.
Ren
"The sun is shining--the sun is shining. That is the magic. The flowers are
growing--the roots are stirring. That is the magic. Being alive is the
magic--being strong is the magic The magic is in me--the magic is in
me....It's in every one of us."
----Frances Hodgson Burnett
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In a message dated 3/5/03 12:21:13 AM Eastern Standard Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:
that. When my boys are around like minded children you can see the
excitement. No one harping or nagging. They aren't worrying about what
their Mom will say. I get that way when I see my brother, we usually don't
see each other but every couple of years and we stay up late talking etc.
Pam G.
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starsuncloud@... writes:
> They love these friends so much that they do this everytime they getForgetting about the cleaning up part. Isn't it great to see children like
> together. They just love their time and don't want to waste it sleeping.
that. When my boys are around like minded children you can see the
excitement. No one harping or nagging. They aren't worrying about what
their Mom will say. I get that way when I see my brother, we usually don't
see each other but every couple of years and we stay up late talking etc.
Pam G.
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