nellebelle

When I have an adult friend over to visit I never expect them to help me
clean up. Why should we expect differently of kids?

Mary Ellen

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> I guess I think it is polite to help
> clean up and I'd like her to see it that way, but I don't want to force
her.
> The other Mom said once to my daughter that she wouldn't be allowed back
> over if she didn't clean up.

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In a message dated 3/4/03 6:19:25 PM Eastern Standard Time,
nellebelle@... writes:

> When I have an adult friend over to visit I never expect them to help me
> clean up. Why should we expect differently of kids?
>
>

I totally agree. So having said that...what would you say to the mother that
said the girl couldn't come back if she didn't clean up?
I couldn't believe someone would say that.
Pam G.


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Tia Leschke

> When I have an adult friend over to visit I never expect them to help me
> clean up. Why should we expect differently of kids?

Exactly. It's always nice when someone offers to help, and this is what we
should be modelling for our kids.
Tia

Have a Nice Day!

> When I have an adult friend over to visit I never expect them to help me
> clean up. Why should we expect differently of kids?

Exactly. It's always nice when someone offers to help, and this is what we
should be modelling for our kids.

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True. I'm an adult and when I stay with someone else, I try to minimize whatever work I create for them by offering to help or bringing my own stuff, or whatever. I try to make that obvious to my kids and I encourage them to do the same.

Of course, the results often depend on age and maturity, but I do want my kids to know that the polite thing to do is help out.
Kristen




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In a message dated 3/4/03 4:36:09 PM, genant2@... writes:

<< So having said that...what would you say to the mother that
said the girl couldn't come back if she didn't clean up?
I couldn't believe someone would say that. >>

I would just help the kids clean up, speaking really sweetly to the girls
(not the mom) the whole time, and remind my daughter on the way home that
different houses have really different rules, and that when she's a mom she
will get to decide what kind of rules to make at HER house.

Holly really enjoys the differences in different houses and families. She
thinks some of them are weird or not too bright, but it gives her a lot to
think about and I have no doubt she'll choose to be like the best of them and
for really good personal reasons, instead of some parotted, kneejerk thing.

Maybe this mom thinks playdate rules are school rules. Kids clean up before
the bell rings or something. I don't know.

Sandra