Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] husbands
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In a message dated 2/16/2003 5:03:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,
zenmomma@... writes:
~Kelly
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zenmomma@... writes:
> I remember poking my head into Ben's group for Dads at the conference. IIsn't he though? <G>
> heard only one comment he made and it was something like..."look, you
> trusted her enough to sleep with her, marry her and make babies with her.
> Why would you stop trusting her now?"
>
> What a guy!
~Kelly
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coyote's corner
That would make a great bumper sticker/poster or sweatshirt!
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In a message dated 2/16/2003 5:03:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,
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~Kelly
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From: kbcdlovejo@... [mailto:kbcdlovejo@...]
Sent: Sunday, February 16, 2003 8:23 PM
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Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] husbands
In a message dated 2/16/2003 5:03:08 PM Eastern Standard Time,
zenmomma@... writes:
> I remember poking my head into Ben's group for Dads at the conference. IIsn't he though? <G>
> heard only one comment he made and it was something like..."look, you
> trusted her enough to sleep with her, marry her and make babies with her.
> Why would you stop trusting her now?"
>
> What a guy!
~Kelly
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velvet jiang
my dh was on board when we first started hs. he said that nobody is better
to "teach" her than you, your her mother. as she got older her would worry
about what she was doing. i explained it to him (sometimes over and over
again). when something amazing would happen i would gently remind him that
it is indeed working. when she would do something that was upsetting to him
(like refuse to comply with a demand) he would say things like you need to
punish her. we would work through these things as i would gently point out
that he wouldn't like it if i demanded something of him that he didn't want
for himself and then punish him for not doing what i want.
my dd is now 11. he said to me about a year ago that this "letting children
do whatever they want" (yes this is how he sees unschooling) really seems to
work. he is impressed with her for who she is and how much she has learned
all on her own. we still back slide (both of us) but we work through it with
the faith that we had at the beginning of the experiment (this was an
experiment to us because i had never known anyone at the time that had done
this) and now with the experience we have gained through the years.
btw i think it was easier for me to reject the mainstream ideas because i
totally reject the way i was raised. he had a harder time feeling this way
because he felt loved by his parents even though they punished. i think he
had a hard time realizing that you can reject a persons actions but still
love the person (his parents).
velvet
to "teach" her than you, your her mother. as she got older her would worry
about what she was doing. i explained it to him (sometimes over and over
again). when something amazing would happen i would gently remind him that
it is indeed working. when she would do something that was upsetting to him
(like refuse to comply with a demand) he would say things like you need to
punish her. we would work through these things as i would gently point out
that he wouldn't like it if i demanded something of him that he didn't want
for himself and then punish him for not doing what i want.
my dd is now 11. he said to me about a year ago that this "letting children
do whatever they want" (yes this is how he sees unschooling) really seems to
work. he is impressed with her for who she is and how much she has learned
all on her own. we still back slide (both of us) but we work through it with
the faith that we had at the beginning of the experiment (this was an
experiment to us because i had never known anyone at the time that had done
this) and now with the experience we have gained through the years.
btw i think it was easier for me to reject the mainstream ideas because i
totally reject the way i was raised. he had a harder time feeling this way
because he felt loved by his parents even though they punished. i think he
had a hard time realizing that you can reject a persons actions but still
love the person (his parents).
velvet