reasons to trust
Mary Bianco
Thursday I came home from the grocery store. My mom was home with the kids,
Tara and her boyfriend were there also. Without even knowing that Tara and
Dru knew I was home, they came out of the room and casually walked outside
and brought in all the groceries for me. Then they were in the laundry room
washing and folding clothes they had already done. Next they were in the
kitchen as I was putting things away and started cooking. We all talked as
each one of us went about what we were doing. As Tara finished up their
food, Dru pulled the rental car he had around back and washed it. He also
filled in a well dug hole that Ozzy (our bully) managed in the brief period
he was outside. Buckets, towels, rags and hose were all put back. After the
two of them ate, the kitchen was all cleaned up. Tara showed Dru all the
info she has about college. She really wants to go to the University of
Miami. She's getting everything ready to apply. (2 years ago I would never
have thought Tara would even think about going to college) Tara finished
clothes and went off to work. Dru came over that night right before picking
Tara up from work with a handful of heart shaped helium balloons, card, box
of candy and a big red teddy bear. He wanted them here for Tara when he
brought her back. On Friday they both called me as soon as they got in to
Orlando for their weekend with Mickey Mouse.
This all going on while Joseph and Sierra had a lengthy discussion about Abe
Lincoln and George Washington. This went on for quite awhile when finally
Joe and I could take it no longer. Where on earth did they learn all that???
Not from either one of us. Their answer was very matter of factly "from tv."
The discussion swung from having babies to fish to marriage to what they
wanted to do when they were all grown up. Alyssa in the meantime fascinates
me with her determination to not be a 2 year old and keep up with Joseph and
Sierra. She does an incredible job. Aside from her being in diapers, she's
not 2 at all. But she seems perfectly happy with who she is. They all seem
very at ease with the people they are.
So now I think about how my in laws have major doubts about what we are
doing. Sure in their minds we ruining our kids. I think about the
conversation with Tara's dad about how upset he was that I was "allowing"
Tara to go away to Orlando. Didn't seem to think it was so special that Tara
and Dru spend every night of the week here at the house. If it's dinner or a
movie, they are right back here afterwards. Not really getting that they
both have such a comfort zone here that's where they want to be. The only
thing in Orlando they can't do here is go to Magic Kingdom.
I look at my kids so self assured and comfortable and happy and can't help
but think screw everyone else who doesn't get it. I'm trusting and so are
they and we are all happier for it.
Mary B
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Tara and her boyfriend were there also. Without even knowing that Tara and
Dru knew I was home, they came out of the room and casually walked outside
and brought in all the groceries for me. Then they were in the laundry room
washing and folding clothes they had already done. Next they were in the
kitchen as I was putting things away and started cooking. We all talked as
each one of us went about what we were doing. As Tara finished up their
food, Dru pulled the rental car he had around back and washed it. He also
filled in a well dug hole that Ozzy (our bully) managed in the brief period
he was outside. Buckets, towels, rags and hose were all put back. After the
two of them ate, the kitchen was all cleaned up. Tara showed Dru all the
info she has about college. She really wants to go to the University of
Miami. She's getting everything ready to apply. (2 years ago I would never
have thought Tara would even think about going to college) Tara finished
clothes and went off to work. Dru came over that night right before picking
Tara up from work with a handful of heart shaped helium balloons, card, box
of candy and a big red teddy bear. He wanted them here for Tara when he
brought her back. On Friday they both called me as soon as they got in to
Orlando for their weekend with Mickey Mouse.
This all going on while Joseph and Sierra had a lengthy discussion about Abe
Lincoln and George Washington. This went on for quite awhile when finally
Joe and I could take it no longer. Where on earth did they learn all that???
Not from either one of us. Their answer was very matter of factly "from tv."
The discussion swung from having babies to fish to marriage to what they
wanted to do when they were all grown up. Alyssa in the meantime fascinates
me with her determination to not be a 2 year old and keep up with Joseph and
Sierra. She does an incredible job. Aside from her being in diapers, she's
not 2 at all. But she seems perfectly happy with who she is. They all seem
very at ease with the people they are.
So now I think about how my in laws have major doubts about what we are
doing. Sure in their minds we ruining our kids. I think about the
conversation with Tara's dad about how upset he was that I was "allowing"
Tara to go away to Orlando. Didn't seem to think it was so special that Tara
and Dru spend every night of the week here at the house. If it's dinner or a
movie, they are right back here afterwards. Not really getting that they
both have such a comfort zone here that's where they want to be. The only
thing in Orlando they can't do here is go to Magic Kingdom.
I look at my kids so self assured and comfortable and happy and can't help
but think screw everyone else who doesn't get it. I'm trusting and so are
they and we are all happier for it.
Mary B
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In a message dated 2/15/2003 2:47:46 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
finger nails on a chalk board or hearing someone bite their nails.
When I broke my ankle and my husband was out of town I begged my sister to
come for a couple of nights to sleep here and make sure the kids were ok. If
something happened to them I couldn't have gotten upstairs. Both kids were
freaked over my accident, had trouble sleeping for a long time afterwards.
My sister didn't want them to sleep with her, so Nathan slept in the hallway.
She hollered downstairs - "Is he allowed to sleep on the floor?" Why the
hell would I have a rule against that?
Your daughter is growing into a wonderful woman because you have allowed her
to be herself.
Elizabeth
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[email protected] writes:
> I think about theDon't you just hate that word - allow? It so rubs me the wrong way, like
> conversation with Tara's dad about how upset he was that I was "allowing"
> Tara to go away to Orlando. Di
finger nails on a chalk board or hearing someone bite their nails.
When I broke my ankle and my husband was out of town I begged my sister to
come for a couple of nights to sleep here and make sure the kids were ok. If
something happened to them I couldn't have gotten upstairs. Both kids were
freaked over my accident, had trouble sleeping for a long time afterwards.
My sister didn't want them to sleep with her, so Nathan slept in the hallway.
She hollered downstairs - "Is he allowed to sleep on the floor?" Why the
hell would I have a rule against that?
Your daughter is growing into a wonderful woman because you have allowed her
to be herself.
Elizabeth
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Mary Bianco
>From: ejcrewe@...<<Don't you just hate that word - allow? It so rubs me the wrong way, like
finger nails on a chalk board or hearing someone bite their nails.<<
Yes I do hate that word. My MIL uses it quite often. Same way as in "You
allow the children to do that??" Of course you need the incredulous face to
go along with it!!!!!
<<She hollered downstairs - "Is he allowed to sleep on the floor?" Why the
hell would I have a rule against that?>>
Lord knows what could possibly happen if a child sleeps on the floor!!!!
Your daughter is growing into a wonderful woman because you have allowed her
to be herself.
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Mary Bianco
Sorry for that last post. My puter gremlin sent it before I was ready.
Just wanted to say that I imagine our children will become all sorts of
wonderful adults just because we "allow" them to do so. I'm pretty proud.
Mary B
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Just wanted to say that I imagine our children will become all sorts of
wonderful adults just because we "allow" them to do so. I'm pretty proud.
Mary B
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Kelli Traaseth
Wonderful Mary!!
Kelli
Mary Bianco <mummyone24@...> wrote:Thursday I came home from the grocery store. My mom was home with the kids,
Tara and her boyfriend were there also. Without even knowing that Tara and
Dru knew I was home, they came out of the room and casually walked outside
and brought in all the groceries for me. Then they were in the laundry room
washing and folding clothes they had already done. Next they were in the
kitchen as I was putting things away and started cooking. We all talked as
each one of us went about what we were doing. As Tara finished up their
food, Dru pulled the rental car he had around back and washed it. He also
filled in a well dug hole that Ozzy (our bully) managed in the brief period
he was outside. Buckets, towels, rags and hose were all put back. After the
two of them ate, the kitchen was all cleaned up. Tara showed Dru all the
info she has about college. She really wants to go to the University of
Miami. She's getting everything ready to apply. (2 years ago I would never
have thought Tara would even think about going to college) Tara finished
clothes and went off to work. Dru came over that night right before picking
Tara up from work with a handful of heart shaped helium balloons, card, box
of candy and a big red teddy bear. He wanted them here for Tara when he
brought her back. On Friday they both called me as soon as they got in to
Orlando for their weekend with Mickey Mouse.
This all going on while Joseph and Sierra had a lengthy discussion about Abe
Lincoln and George Washington. This went on for quite awhile when finally
Joe and I could take it no longer. Where on earth did they learn all that???
Not from either one of us. Their answer was very matter of factly "from tv."
The discussion swung from having babies to fish to marriage to what they
wanted to do when they were all grown up. Alyssa in the meantime fascinates
me with her determination to not be a 2 year old and keep up with Joseph and
Sierra. She does an incredible job. Aside from her being in diapers, she's
not 2 at all. But she seems perfectly happy with who she is. They all seem
very at ease with the people they are.
So now I think about how my in laws have major doubts about what we are
doing. Sure in their minds we ruining our kids. I think about the
conversation with Tara's dad about how upset he was that I was "allowing"
Tara to go away to Orlando. Didn't seem to think it was so special that Tara
and Dru spend every night of the week here at the house. If it's dinner or a
movie, they are right back here afterwards. Not really getting that they
both have such a comfort zone here that's where they want to be. The only
thing in Orlando they can't do here is go to Magic Kingdom.
I look at my kids so self assured and comfortable and happy and can't help
but think screw everyone else who doesn't get it. I'm trusting and so are
they and we are all happier for it.
Mary B
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Mary Bianco <mummyone24@...> wrote:Thursday I came home from the grocery store. My mom was home with the kids,
Tara and her boyfriend were there also. Without even knowing that Tara and
Dru knew I was home, they came out of the room and casually walked outside
and brought in all the groceries for me. Then they were in the laundry room
washing and folding clothes they had already done. Next they were in the
kitchen as I was putting things away and started cooking. We all talked as
each one of us went about what we were doing. As Tara finished up their
food, Dru pulled the rental car he had around back and washed it. He also
filled in a well dug hole that Ozzy (our bully) managed in the brief period
he was outside. Buckets, towels, rags and hose were all put back. After the
two of them ate, the kitchen was all cleaned up. Tara showed Dru all the
info she has about college. She really wants to go to the University of
Miami. She's getting everything ready to apply. (2 years ago I would never
have thought Tara would even think about going to college) Tara finished
clothes and went off to work. Dru came over that night right before picking
Tara up from work with a handful of heart shaped helium balloons, card, box
of candy and a big red teddy bear. He wanted them here for Tara when he
brought her back. On Friday they both called me as soon as they got in to
Orlando for their weekend with Mickey Mouse.
This all going on while Joseph and Sierra had a lengthy discussion about Abe
Lincoln and George Washington. This went on for quite awhile when finally
Joe and I could take it no longer. Where on earth did they learn all that???
Not from either one of us. Their answer was very matter of factly "from tv."
The discussion swung from having babies to fish to marriage to what they
wanted to do when they were all grown up. Alyssa in the meantime fascinates
me with her determination to not be a 2 year old and keep up with Joseph and
Sierra. She does an incredible job. Aside from her being in diapers, she's
not 2 at all. But she seems perfectly happy with who she is. They all seem
very at ease with the people they are.
So now I think about how my in laws have major doubts about what we are
doing. Sure in their minds we ruining our kids. I think about the
conversation with Tara's dad about how upset he was that I was "allowing"
Tara to go away to Orlando. Didn't seem to think it was so special that Tara
and Dru spend every night of the week here at the house. If it's dinner or a
movie, they are right back here afterwards. Not really getting that they
both have such a comfort zone here that's where they want to be. The only
thing in Orlando they can't do here is go to Magic Kingdom.
I look at my kids so self assured and comfortable and happy and can't help
but think screw everyone else who doesn't get it. I'm trusting and so are
they and we are all happier for it.
Mary B
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