zenmomma *

>>But are you wanting to suggest that unschooling won't work for them?>>

It seems to me that the discussion fell apart over the idea of limits and
controls. Over choices and expectations. It is my truth that giving children
control over their own choices, limits and expectations for their own lives
is at the core of unschooling, special needs or no.

As I type this, Casey at age 9, is having a frustration tantrum in the next
room that neither Jon nor I can break through. She's moaning and flailing
like she's possessed. I've tried all my loving, caring and understanding
ways. I've tried hugging and distracting and reasoning and breathing
suggestions. I've tried moving her and letting her be. It's not working.
There's a pain in her soul right now that I cannot seem to reach. As a
mother, this is very hard.

But it's not the unschooling.

I guess we're all just going to ride this one out till she's exhausted. So
hard. After it's over I'll try again to connect with her.

So, yes, I understand extremes. I just try VERY hard to not let her emotions
become my emotions.

Life is good.
~Mary


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