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In a message dated 2/14/03 7:18:27 PM Eastern Standard Time,
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<< Next pass through the area, I bring a hairbrush and desired "trimmings".
Next pass, I'll bring shoes and socks. >>

My 15 yo ds is very absent-minded, and also very intense so he'll get into
reading, making things, watching birds, etc., in the morning. I have a 4 yo
ds that I'm helping get ready - so I just call reminders down the hall to my
15 yo's room while I'm helping the 4 yo. The older one also doesn't care for
pajamas - so he takes a shower in the evening and puts on his clothes for the
next day - leaving us one less hurdle <g>. He also will put whatever he
needs to bring in the car, either the night before or after breakfast (he
thought that one up).

Having, possibly, just a few more years before he's out on his own, though,
I'm worrying about it less. The flip side of his being so focused on what
he's doing, rather than other things going on or coming up, is that he's very
enjoyable to do things with because he *is* focused very much in the moment.
We were at a botanical garden on Tuesday (he wanted to go there for his
birthday), and, while I thought there wouldn't be much going on there, he
pointed out *so* many birds (and knew them all too), and he even found a
chipmunk (which I've never seen before there). He's incredibly observant -
and enjoys everything so much.

OTOH, my 11 yo dd will be up, dressed, have all her stuff together and be
waiting in her jacket out in the car 10 minutes before we have to leave. I
rarely have to remind her of anything - but that's because she's *so* worried
about being late or missing something. We're trying to help her be a little
more relaxed <g>.

Laura

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In a message dated 2/14/2003 8:49:51 PM Pacific Standard Time,
Naykki2@... writes:

> The flip side of his being so focused on what
> he's doing, rather than other things going on or coming up, is that he's
> very
> enjoyable to do things with because he *is* focused very much in the
> moment.

I loved this, and it's Colton to a T. He's very Zen, and I need to remember
to appreciate that in him. I guess we don't really need to be on time to
everything.

Carol


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