zenmomma *

>>Very true! But on the flip side, don't you remember friends at college
>>(during the time they managed to stay) who couldn't focus and
get the work done,>>

Yes, my dear husband!

>>because they were so unregulated at home that they never learned how to
>>focus, and how to a plough through the difficult stuff to get to their
>>goal.>>

Nope that wasn't the reason. His parents did try to "teach" him how to focus
on what they thought was important. He just refused to play the game. So
maybe he was unregulated, but it wasn't a parental choice. He was just an
unschooler at heart. He thought that school was a "waste of his time" (His
words) and so he wouldn't bring the focus other people thought he should
have. He made his own choices because no one could force him to do
otherwise. He's an accomplished writer, a computer programmer, a candle
maker and a chef in training. It didn't matter that he didn't achieve the
school goals, because they weren't HIS goals.

>>This would require quite a long essay - maybe I will find the time to
write it one day :) but not likely, as one of the pitfalls of my
unschooling history is, lots of good ideas but no self-regulation to put
them into effect!!!>>

If you want to write, then write!! :o) Your unschooly, unstructured
childhood is NOT holding you back. You are holding you back. You have right
now, this moment, to have an idea. To jot it down. To mull it over. It took
me 40 years to find my writing soul again. I blamed school, you blame
unschool. But really, all we have is ourselves in THIS moment. It was very
freeing for me to discover that I have the power to change my path. My past
does NOT have to determine my future. Freeing.

Life is good.
~Mary


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