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In light of the discussion of sharing your kid's interests, I had to share
what happened in our house today.

Lanora, 12, regularly surfs the web and chats online. I don't monitor her or
even ask her to keep me informed on what she is doing. She eagerly talks
with me about what she encounters and has even survived opening a web site
featuring pics of "naked women". She closed it and told the person who sent
the link that they are "gross". LOL

Her friend's mom (who is MY friend) learned that I don't stop her from going
into chat rooms and almost fainted. She covered it by stating that Lanora
and I have a different relationship than she and Sarah. She completely
misses the foundation for the difference.

She sees Sarah's interests as "her thing" and something she doesn't want to
be bothered with. Sarah has learned to keep it to herself along with almost
every emotion and struggle she has. She tells me MUCH more than she will
tell her mom.

Lanora shares with me freely because it's natural, her interests have always
been important to me. My friend doesn't see, probably doesn't want to see,
that an interest on her part would mean openess between she and Sarah now.

Kris


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