Tia Leschke

> Thanks for the book recommendation. I reserved it. <G> I have and
> re-read How to Talk. It not that we have power struggles. Our relationship
,
> I think, is rather good. I just wish he would talk to *me* more. I just
> could be being selfish. He'll be 18 this Sept. He'll be moving out before
I
> know it. :-( I'll miss him being here daily.
> I wish I could find my copy of Teen/ Parent Breakthrough. Gotta run.
> We're off to snowboarding today. :-)

My 15 year old son is like that. He has never talked much, especially about
feelings and such. I do wish I had known more about labelling feelings for
kids when he was little. My daughter does that with her kids, and they're
developing large "feeling vocabularies". I think that would have helped.
What's been helping lately is things I've picked up here. Even though I
don't much like TV, I've been watching a bit with him, and he seems to like
that. He'll even pat the couch and tell me to sit down if I'm standing
there watching something as I go by, so I assume he likes it. I think I
posted before about starting to do things for him sometimes that I didn't
used to do because he could do them himself. I've made more of a point of
telling him I love him. I have to do it on the fly, so to speak, because he
took to replying, "No you don't," in a kind of joking way around puberty.
That was when I stopped saying it as much, until I realized I could "ambush"
him with it. I think all of these things are coming together to produce the
kind of day we had Sunday, when I drove him to town to see the screening of
the film his class made. He surprised the heck out of me by asking me all
kinds of questions, "what do I think about this and that", kind of
questions.
Tia

Barb Eaton

Tia,
I was just telling ds that I was really missing the half hour drive back
and forth it took to get him to class every week. It's only ten minutes now.
:-( I really need to except that he is just not much of a talker.


Barb E
"The function of the child is to live his own life - not the life that his
anxious parents think he should live."
A S Neill




on 2/4/03 12:10 PM, Tia Leschke at leschke@... wrote:

> I think all of these things are coming together to produce the
> kind of day we had Sunday, when I drove him to town to see the screening of
> the film his class made. He surprised the heck out of me by asking me all
> kinds of questions, "what do I think about this and that", kind of
> questions.
> Tia