Re: [Unschooling-dotcom}Jumping in with both feet
Tammie Thomas
My son,Gus has never gone to school. We have also homeschooled. He also has been involved with the video game for about 3 years now. At first I resisted this and hated it, thinking that this could not be good. My hubby has two other children that are older and so Gus was influenced by this. It's also a time for bonding for Jerry and Gus. What helped me to feel better about it is; Gus learned so much more doing and learning how to do the game. Jerry and Gus looked up the history of the game, characters, and learned about special skills the characters needed. It has a great learning experience for me too. Unschooling does not have to look like I think it should all the time.
We also have a time factor too. Gus would play it all day if we let him. He is allowed to play every other day and weekends. This works great for time to connect for dad and son. I hope this helps!
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We also have a time factor too. Gus would play it all day if we let him. He is allowed to play every other day and weekends. This works great for time to connect for dad and son. I hope this helps!
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Fetteroll
on 12/8/02 7:57 PM, Tammie Thomas at soulfulconnections@... wrote:
Joyce
> Gus would play it all day if we let him.That's what everyone says who hasn't given freedom time to work.
> He is allowed to play every otherWhat do you fear will happen if he played everyday for as long as he wanted?
> day and weekends.
Joyce
Kelli Traaseth
Yes,
Alec, 9ds, has had unlimited PS2 play now for about 3 months, last week he says to me, "you know Mom I havn't played the PS2 for a week?" He has instead been doing research work on the computer.
I used to limit and he continued to be obsessed. No obsession anymore!!
He seems to be so much more emotionally stable, healthier in a certain way? I think this is coming from his life being controlled by him and not by others. Does this make any sense? He is so much more at ease with himself. I love this trait in children. I don't see it very much in adults though, maybe when I run into an adult that is doing what they love. Which isn't very often. I do sense this quality/trait in people I've met through this list tho'. I think that's another reason why I like this list.
Very cool.
Kelli
Fetteroll <fetteroll@...> wrote:on 12/8/02 7:57 PM, Tammie Thomas at soulfulconnections@... wrote:
Joyce
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Alec, 9ds, has had unlimited PS2 play now for about 3 months, last week he says to me, "you know Mom I havn't played the PS2 for a week?" He has instead been doing research work on the computer.
I used to limit and he continued to be obsessed. No obsession anymore!!
He seems to be so much more emotionally stable, healthier in a certain way? I think this is coming from his life being controlled by him and not by others. Does this make any sense? He is so much more at ease with himself. I love this trait in children. I don't see it very much in adults though, maybe when I run into an adult that is doing what they love. Which isn't very often. I do sense this quality/trait in people I've met through this list tho'. I think that's another reason why I like this list.
Very cool.
Kelli
Fetteroll <fetteroll@...> wrote:on 12/8/02 7:57 PM, Tammie Thomas at soulfulconnections@... wrote:
> Gus would play it all day if we let him.That's what everyone says who hasn't given freedom time to work.
> He is allowed to play every otherWhat do you fear will happen if he played everyday for as long as he wanted?
> day and weekends.
Joyce
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In a message dated 12/9/02 9:40:50 AM, kellitraas@... writes:
<< He seems to be so much more emotionally stable, healthier in a certain
way? I think this is coming from his life being controlled by him and not by
others. >>
Maturity.
You treated him like a man instead of like a little boy, and that's what will
make him a man.
<< Does this make any sense? He is so much more at ease with himself. I
love this trait in children. >>
He's not needy.
<< I don't see it very much in adults though, maybe when I run into an
adult that is doing what they love. >>
Too many adults have never felt "graduated" to adulthood. They're needy of
acknowledgement, confirmation, something to make them "feel" grown because in
some emotional ways they were told too often that they were children and
their opinions weren't real and their needs weren't real.
But when an adult is involved in something they love, that can be "flow," and
flow is rare with people who are carrying on a constant internal conversation
about whether their interests are okay to have, or those who have shut down
their internal conversations.
Sandra
<< He seems to be so much more emotionally stable, healthier in a certain
way? I think this is coming from his life being controlled by him and not by
others. >>
Maturity.
You treated him like a man instead of like a little boy, and that's what will
make him a man.
<< Does this make any sense? He is so much more at ease with himself. I
love this trait in children. >>
He's not needy.
<< I don't see it very much in adults though, maybe when I run into an
adult that is doing what they love. >>
Too many adults have never felt "graduated" to adulthood. They're needy of
acknowledgement, confirmation, something to make them "feel" grown because in
some emotional ways they were told too often that they were children and
their opinions weren't real and their needs weren't real.
But when an adult is involved in something they love, that can be "flow," and
flow is rare with people who are carrying on a constant internal conversation
about whether their interests are okay to have, or those who have shut down
their internal conversations.
Sandra