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My dh and I had a very painful separation two years ago.
It was the complete break down we had to have in order to wake up and get
help. That isn't necessary, but in our case things had gone too far.
Don't wait.
It's so very difficult to see any hope when you're on that side of things,
but it really is possible to completely change the entire relationship.
Dh and I are truly best friends now, I never thought we could have the
relationship we do now. Bickering and anger were so common before we split
up.
We hardly EVER have disagreements now. And if we do, we know how to talk and
come to solutions.
A huge part of the healing was learning to accept the other person just the
way they are. Sounds so simple, but it was huge for us. I think we spent
years trying to change each other. Crazy.
Anyway, counseling can be a wonderful catalyst for change. It's a safe ground
to vent, to analyze and to figure out where to go. I hope you don't just
accept the relationship the way it is today, but realize that this could be a
chance for huge change and be willing to take on the struggle and work it
takes to take a few steps in that direction. The first ones are often the
hardest. Once you create a better atmosphere it's like the snowball
effect......

Ren
"The answers aren't important really...
What's important, is knowing all the questions."
-Zilpha Keatley Snyder
Unschooling support at pensacolaunschoolers.com

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In a message dated 11/23/02 11:19:25 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< What he needs is a recess class. :-) >>

That's exactly what we have. We call it resource day....
And why starting your own group can be a perfect solution.

Ren
"The answers aren't important really...
What's important, is knowing all the questions."
-Zilpha Keatley Snyder
Unschooling support at pensacolaunschoolers.com